A case is now percolating through the Illinois courts that may have implications on whether perpetrators of online deception can be sued for damages.
The case is Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James. Bonhomme lives in Los Angeles. She is a fan of the TV show Deadwood, and back in 2005, joined a chat room about the show. There she met St. James.
St. James eventually introduced Bonhomme, online, to a man by the name of Jesse. Bonhomme and Jesse exchanged emails, phone calls and handwritten notes, and their relationship blossomed into a romance. Jesse introduced Bonhomme to his family and friends via email. Bonhomme sent gifts to Jesse and his family. They planned a future together, and decided that Bonhomme should move from Los Angeles to Jesse’s home in Colorado.
Then suddenly, Jesse died of liver cancer. In Jesse’s memory, Bonhomme went to Colorado to visit some of his favorite places, accompanied by the woman who had introduced her to Jesse—Janna St. James.
But there was a problem: None of it was real.
Janna St. James made up the Jesse character, along with all 20 of his friends and family. She created an entire web of deceit, and snared Paula Bonhomme. She actually used voice-altering technology, so when they spoke on the phone, St. James sounded like a man.
Bonhomme spent money on gifts. She bought Jesse airline tickets and made changes to her home in preparation for his visits, which never materialized. In all, the charade cost Bonhomme about $10,000, including $5,000 for therapy after the emotional devastation of Jesse’s “death.”
Finally, Bonhomme’s friends, worried about the amount of time she was spending online, confronted St. James and exposed the fraud. They captured it on video, which is posted on YouTube.
Read ”˜Fake’ online love affair becomes legal battle on ABCNews.go.com.
Watch the YouTube video, St. James exposed.
Taking it to court
Bonhomme filed a complaint against Janna St. James in Illinois court in February 2008. The court dismissed her case. She filed a motion to reconsider in 2009, which was also dismissed. Then her attorneys filed an appeal.
Bonhomme’s complaint stated that St. James St. James committed fraudulent misrepresentation. The elements of this claim are:
- A false statement of material fact
- Knowledge or belief of the falsity by the party making it
- Intention to induce the plaintiff to act
- Action by the plaintiff in justifiable reliance on the truth of the statement
- Damage to the plaintiff resulting from that reliance
The problem with the original case apparently was that a claim of fraudulent misrepresentation was historically recognized only in business or financial transactions. The court had previously declined to consider fraudulent misrepresentation in noncommercial or nonfinancial dealings between parties.
Also, the defendant’s attorneys argued that St. James engaged in fiction, not a misrepresentation of facts, and that “the concepts of falsity and material fact do not apply in the context of fiction, because fiction does not purport to represent reality.”
The original trial court apparently bought that argument, but the appeals court did not. The appeals court ruled that the trial court erred in dismissing the case, and sent it back for further proceedings.
The actual court opinion is interesting and mostly easy to read. Check it out: Appellate Court of Illinois— Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James.
Blame the victim
The appellate court decision wasn’t, however, unanimous. One of the justices dissented, writing:
The reality of the Internet age is that an online individual may not always be—and indeed frequently is not—who or what he or she purports to be. The plaintiff’s reliance on the defendant’s alleged misrepresentations, in deciding to spend $10,000 on Christmas gifts for people who allegedly lived in another state and whom she had never met, was not justifiable. The plaintiff also cannot be said to have justifiably relied on the alleged misrepresentations in incurring expenses to move to another state to live with someone she had never met in person and who had cancelled a previous face-to-face meeting after she had purchased nonrefundable airline tickets.
In other words, the dissenting justice blamed the victim for being dumb enough to fall for the scam.
Kirk Sigmon, a blogger for the Cornell Law School, also thought the appellate court decision was a bad idea. He argued that “the world is full of misleading statements and ”˜puffery,’” and Bonhomme v. St. James could set a precedent that made Internet users responsible for telling the truth. This, Sigmon seemed to imply, was an imposition.
This holding has the potential to cause serious problems for Internet users. At least according to the Bonhomme court’s logic, many individuals may be liable for expenses incurred as a result of someone’s reliance upon their virtual representations. Mindless banter in chatrooms could now create legal liabilities. If courts apply a similar logic to negligent misrepresentation cases, even careless statements made on websites could give rise to litigation so long as plaintiffs can prove intent and harm. In theory, every user of the Internet is now subjected to an implied duty of truthfulness or due care in the representations they make when interacting with others online.
The blogger argued that allowing a complaint of fraudulent misrepresentation arising from personal dealings, rather than just commercial dealings, “threatens the very freedom that makes the Internet so attractive.”
Read The wild, wild web and alter egos, on CornellFedSoc.org.
Wrong but not illegal
I am troubled by the judge’s dissent, which blames the victim, and the Cornell blogger’s apparent opinion that the freedom of the Internet must include the freedom to lie, no matter how destructive it is to another individual.
The actions of Janna St. James were clearly reprehensible. They were morally wrong. This woman did not engage in “social puffery.” She set out to purposely deceive Paula Bonhomme, apparently just to amuse herself. Unfortunately, she succeeded, and Bonhomme was damaged.
Not only that, but St. James had a history of pulling this scam. Since this case became public, Bonhomme was contacted by at least five other women who were similarly victimized by St. James, in fake letters going back to the 1980s.
So why is it so difficult for Paula Bonhomme to get justice? I think the problem is the very structure of our legal system. Even when an action is clearly wrong, if it doesn’t violate a law, nothing can be done. The law hasn’t kept up with the technology, and the law, like most of society, doesn’t understand the maliciousness of sociopaths.
I hope Bonhomme makes out better in her next court go-round. In any event, I applaud her for even pursuing the case. If we want to make changes, and hold sociopaths accountable, we have to start somewhere.
Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.
Dear Ana,
I understand why you should be afraid! But take back your space emotionally at least! You can’t control her you can only control your own reaction! (((hugs))) and My prayers for your peace!
Oxy,
Thank you! I will remain calm (or so I think). I am calm just concerned because she is so close. I don’t think she will cause us any harm, but I just am so upset that she would move so close to us. I had my husband drive by her house to recognize her auto.
Hey, how does someone who collects food stamps, has mass health, and is on ssi drive around an suv that is at least 30 grand??? Oh, lawdy do I hate this woman! Because I know someone had to be sued, or screwed for her to gain…
It’s a “in your face” kind of thing..ugh.
Interesting discussion, Sky, Constantine, Star and Oxy…
The past months I haven’t been lovebombed much, aside from the pervy guy couple of weeks ago. But it didn’t last long, because I brushed it off and ignored it. Since he showed debase behaviour and non respectable behaviour because of that, there’s nothing to like about them anymore.
Basically, I seem to have come to a point where I am non-responsive to compliments from acquaintances whom I may have liked in the past, but who don’t really know me at all. Somewhere deep down I have come to realize that flattery and lovebombing is unrealistic and often inapropriate. And as soon as they realize they’re not getting anywhere with flattery, they try the obnoxious opposite, and show a very ugly, disrespectful side. And instead of it making me feel bad about myself, it only ends up with me being disgusted by them and start to ignore them completely.
I do notice that I don’t really regard them as non-human, but somehow I motivate them to pull off the mask and act gross quite rapidly now.
BTW I just saw a youtube video which you all might like. Lenny from Motorhead gives advice to 3 fan letters (by teen girls): very down to earth, especially to the last fan letter.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YqpFJPmIE8c&feature=share
purewaters3- I feel the same way.
I don’t know your personal financial situation, or all the details of how your spath conned you, but you could contact Daliah Saper, the lawyer for Paula Bonhomme and talk to her about it.
darwinsmom – this is how i reacted to the spath too: ‘Somewhere deep down I have come to realize that flattery and lovebombing is unrealistic and often inapropriate. And as soon as they realize they’re not getting anywhere with flattery, they try the obnoxious opposite, and show a very ugly, disrespectful side. And instead of it making me feel bad about myself, it only ends up with me being disgusted by them and start to ignore them completely. ‘
Darwin’s mom,
It is almost funny that when the love bomb doesn’t work and get them what they want, they throw a tantrum or act obnoxious. They always seem to want the last word as well.
We had a guy in our living history group that was I think VERY high in P-traits and he did not cotton to me very much, was rude to me, and made an ass out of himself.
Eventually he went too far and as a “joke” pointed an antique shot gun at me and asked if I would like to have a “butt full of rice crispies” I took offense to this and ended up having him arrested and prosecuted by the law for “terroristic threatening.” One of his P buddies, though more of a “Snake in a suit” than a thug like this guy, who happened to be president of our group, defended him as “she just can’t take a joke.”
Needless to say that got my dander up, so I ran for board of directors and made both their lives miserable for the next couple of years. Then the thug ended up on the 6 o’clock news! He had been found living in the house with his dead mother’s body and mommy had been dead several WEEKS. He got arrested again and no one has seen him lately. LOL
This same “president” P also defended the guy who got out of prison for pedophelia and came back into our group (working with kids) and I outed him because I KNEW WHERE HE HAD BEEN AND WHY when he “disappeared” for a while. Mr. President said “well, we can’t kick him out of our group because HE HAS PAID HIS DEBT TO SOCIETY.” Well, the women on the board of directors didn’t like this answer either, and the man was forthwith out of our group, and also out of the JOB he had working at the state historical museum WITH KIDS….I called his boss and informed him that the guy was on parole and for what. Instant dismissal.
Mr. President has “retired” now and the thug is “disappeared” so our group is pretty peaceful now and pretty much nice folks in the group, though there is always some jerk in just about every large group, and there are about 100 families in the Arkansas group of regular members, though some are more active than others, and about 500 or more families in the 5 State regional group.
Honestly, I haven’t had much experience with lovebombing. The spath did it with me, but I cannot think of anyone else that’s done it with me. Maybe this one guy on my reptile site that I knew a few years ago. His cover as a player got blown long before anything ever developed between us (but it’s amazing how much lovebombing can happen in a few phone conversations). Outside of that, I don’t meet many of these people. I guess I shouldn’t be complaining about that.
I call any flattering me from a a very weak acquaintance basis ‘lovebombing’ now stargazer: whether it’s about my ‘sexy legs’, my ‘intelligence’ or ‘sweetness’, I don’t care… I react quite neutrally to it at the moment. I don’t mind compliments from people who actually KNOW me… but strangers or loose acquaintances… Nah. And those high in N- or P-traits become instantly obnoxious when I don’t respond in a way as if I’m lifted into heaven by their compliment or attention. The last one started to crawl on the dance floor on his back to look under my skirt several times after that and such stupid behaviour from a grown man nearing his 40s. If that isn’t a RED FLAG, I don’t know what is … LOL
Originally, I too only thought my ex-spath ever lovebombed me. I now realize it has been happening before… but not ever with anyone I felt attracted to. But I allowed their company any attention whenever I happen to meet them. Nothign ever happened between them and myself though, so it always remained sporadic and was of little consequence. But now, I don’t respond in the same way anymore as I used to…and these men who use to flatter me, suddenly act childish, disgusting and obnoxious without any real provocation from me… aside from one thing only: I don’t emotionally get wings from their flattery.
The majority of people I meet are still decent and good acquaintances. But 3-4 guys have acted outrageously inapropriate to me the past 3 months, and in retrospect this vulgarity or putting down verbally without provocation was shown because I didn’t internalize their flattery as I may have in the past. I don’t think it’s because I’m a magnet to these creeps, but because they realize they don’t have a hook into me through flattery… And so they suddenly try to put me down in public and treat me like trash in ways that baffle me at the grotesqueness, but I don’t take that personal either… hihihi… it just makes me think they struck themselves out.
Darwin’s mom,
I agree with you on that one….the intense compliments from people who barely know me no longer lure me in. It is a BIG red flag. PSychopaths are many times very successful in luring in the unsuspecting among us (me for example) because EVERYONE I think enjoys being told how wonderful they are! How special and unique we are! LOL It makes us TRUST these people way too far in advance of any REAL signs they can be trusted.
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar….but I’ve noticed too that the psychopaths if the love bomb doesn’t work, will do the THROW A TANTRUM BIT and if that doesn’t get your attention they will go back to the love bomb, then rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat….and in the cases of these people, once you SEE what they are, NC is the ONLY way to go.
UGH, the “she can’t take a joke” excuse… that’s exactly one of those things that make me puke.
I once tourled a trip to Cuba. One of the male tourists liked to use the word ‘bitch’ to women. He used it indirectly to me twice (‘oh, so then those people must have thought you a bitch), from day 1 (and normally, tourists will be too shy to say such a thing to their tourleader on the first day). From the first time, I told him that I didn’t appreciate being referred to that in any way. He tried to get off by mumbling he was only ‘joking’. And I replied, that namecalling did not make me laugh over it. Then when he shouted it to someone sitting behind him in the van, I turned around and told him that it was totally inapropriate language to his fellow travellers. Then he defended himself with ‘She deserved it!’.
He kinda gathered a bit of supporters in my group (2 girls and 1 other guy). At some point, those two girls started to jokingly namecall each other together with him, and saying loudly how much ‘fun’ it was. I ignored it. If they liked to be called bitches and cunts by him that was their business.
But shit hit the fan though when the ‘confused professor’ type who was kinda a man they tended to pick on (and I tended to support him by complimenting him and giving him human attention) turned out to be asking the privates homeowners where we stayed to get him hookers. Couldn’t care less about his sex life, but he was not gonna let my business contacts work as pimps for him (and in Cuba these people will do it, though they hate it, because they fear to lose the lttle bit of businnes to better their situation). Had a private conversation with the guy, together with the male witness who informed me what had been happening, where I told him that if he wanted to continue to get prostitutes in the next cities, that he would have to do that by finding his own lodging, because my tour company did not want to be associated with sex tourism with our contacts in Cuba. We promised him not to talk about it to the others…
Next day he tried to talk behind my back to that ‘namecalling for fun’ gang, but that backfired and he signed himself out off the group for a couple of days. He then sent a lawyer to my company to try and get his money back for his tickets because I tried to ‘defame’ him from the others in the group. Wrote a nice neutral report of the conversation with his sign out papers where he voluntarily left the group, corroboratedby my male witness.
Ugh, it was a trip in a country with a lot of illegal stuff and moral norms become vague easily (eating all together in a home, or getting a lobster dinner is illegal), and then I had this high in P-traits guy who thought there was nothing wrong with insulting people, who managed to get some supporters and a sex tourist who accused me of not understanding ‘local culture’ and their ‘libertine sex values’… PUKE!