A case is now percolating through the Illinois courts that may have implications on whether perpetrators of online deception can be sued for damages.
The case is Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James. Bonhomme lives in Los Angeles. She is a fan of the TV show Deadwood, and back in 2005, joined a chat room about the show. There she met St. James.
St. James eventually introduced Bonhomme, online, to a man by the name of Jesse. Bonhomme and Jesse exchanged emails, phone calls and handwritten notes, and their relationship blossomed into a romance. Jesse introduced Bonhomme to his family and friends via email. Bonhomme sent gifts to Jesse and his family. They planned a future together, and decided that Bonhomme should move from Los Angeles to Jesse’s home in Colorado.
Then suddenly, Jesse died of liver cancer. In Jesse’s memory, Bonhomme went to Colorado to visit some of his favorite places, accompanied by the woman who had introduced her to Jesse—Janna St. James.
But there was a problem: None of it was real.
Janna St. James made up the Jesse character, along with all 20 of his friends and family. She created an entire web of deceit, and snared Paula Bonhomme. She actually used voice-altering technology, so when they spoke on the phone, St. James sounded like a man.
Bonhomme spent money on gifts. She bought Jesse airline tickets and made changes to her home in preparation for his visits, which never materialized. In all, the charade cost Bonhomme about $10,000, including $5,000 for therapy after the emotional devastation of Jesse’s “death.”
Finally, Bonhomme’s friends, worried about the amount of time she was spending online, confronted St. James and exposed the fraud. They captured it on video, which is posted on YouTube.
Read ”˜Fake’ online love affair becomes legal battle on ABCNews.go.com.
Watch the YouTube video, St. James exposed.
Taking it to court
Bonhomme filed a complaint against Janna St. James in Illinois court in February 2008. The court dismissed her case. She filed a motion to reconsider in 2009, which was also dismissed. Then her attorneys filed an appeal.
Bonhomme’s complaint stated that St. James St. James committed fraudulent misrepresentation. The elements of this claim are:
- A false statement of material fact
- Knowledge or belief of the falsity by the party making it
- Intention to induce the plaintiff to act
- Action by the plaintiff in justifiable reliance on the truth of the statement
- Damage to the plaintiff resulting from that reliance
The problem with the original case apparently was that a claim of fraudulent misrepresentation was historically recognized only in business or financial transactions. The court had previously declined to consider fraudulent misrepresentation in noncommercial or nonfinancial dealings between parties.
Also, the defendant’s attorneys argued that St. James engaged in fiction, not a misrepresentation of facts, and that “the concepts of falsity and material fact do not apply in the context of fiction, because fiction does not purport to represent reality.”
The original trial court apparently bought that argument, but the appeals court did not. The appeals court ruled that the trial court erred in dismissing the case, and sent it back for further proceedings.
The actual court opinion is interesting and mostly easy to read. Check it out: Appellate Court of Illinois— Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James.
Blame the victim
The appellate court decision wasn’t, however, unanimous. One of the justices dissented, writing:
The reality of the Internet age is that an online individual may not always be—and indeed frequently is not—who or what he or she purports to be. The plaintiff’s reliance on the defendant’s alleged misrepresentations, in deciding to spend $10,000 on Christmas gifts for people who allegedly lived in another state and whom she had never met, was not justifiable. The plaintiff also cannot be said to have justifiably relied on the alleged misrepresentations in incurring expenses to move to another state to live with someone she had never met in person and who had cancelled a previous face-to-face meeting after she had purchased nonrefundable airline tickets.
In other words, the dissenting justice blamed the victim for being dumb enough to fall for the scam.
Kirk Sigmon, a blogger for the Cornell Law School, also thought the appellate court decision was a bad idea. He argued that “the world is full of misleading statements and ”˜puffery,’” and Bonhomme v. St. James could set a precedent that made Internet users responsible for telling the truth. This, Sigmon seemed to imply, was an imposition.
This holding has the potential to cause serious problems for Internet users. At least according to the Bonhomme court’s logic, many individuals may be liable for expenses incurred as a result of someone’s reliance upon their virtual representations. Mindless banter in chatrooms could now create legal liabilities. If courts apply a similar logic to negligent misrepresentation cases, even careless statements made on websites could give rise to litigation so long as plaintiffs can prove intent and harm. In theory, every user of the Internet is now subjected to an implied duty of truthfulness or due care in the representations they make when interacting with others online.
The blogger argued that allowing a complaint of fraudulent misrepresentation arising from personal dealings, rather than just commercial dealings, “threatens the very freedom that makes the Internet so attractive.”
Read The wild, wild web and alter egos, on CornellFedSoc.org.
Wrong but not illegal
I am troubled by the judge’s dissent, which blames the victim, and the Cornell blogger’s apparent opinion that the freedom of the Internet must include the freedom to lie, no matter how destructive it is to another individual.
The actions of Janna St. James were clearly reprehensible. They were morally wrong. This woman did not engage in “social puffery.” She set out to purposely deceive Paula Bonhomme, apparently just to amuse herself. Unfortunately, she succeeded, and Bonhomme was damaged.
Not only that, but St. James had a history of pulling this scam. Since this case became public, Bonhomme was contacted by at least five other women who were similarly victimized by St. James, in fake letters going back to the 1980s.
So why is it so difficult for Paula Bonhomme to get justice? I think the problem is the very structure of our legal system. Even when an action is clearly wrong, if it doesn’t violate a law, nothing can be done. The law hasn’t kept up with the technology, and the law, like most of society, doesn’t understand the maliciousness of sociopaths.
I hope Bonhomme makes out better in her next court go-round. In any event, I applaud her for even pursuing the case. If we want to make changes, and hold sociopaths accountable, we have to start somewhere.
Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.
Hi All,
I have had the conversation about online meetings on lf many many times, and although i would still defend anyone’s right to be online (as we are HERE) and form relationships, I also warn people away from believing what they learn online – esp on dating sites. I volunteer to read the bios of potential dates for a couple of people I know who use them.
We are in the internet age, and the being online is quite ordinary for most – not necessarily safe or satisfying, but we are here, nonetheless. Paula met Janna on a forum – not unlike this one in many ways. Yes, she was married – many of JSJ’s targets are. Was her relationship over. I think so. Is infidelity okay? No. But I agree with what Sky has so eloquently stated.
online, offline – doesn’t matter – spath is spath, and they are darned good at slinging the lie. Paula’s choice as a married person to get involved with someone as compelling as JSJ in full lie in no way subtracts from my empathy for her. We can all be stupid or immoral, but that does not mean that we ever deserve what spaths do to us.
The heart of this article is how we are not protected by law, and if Paula succeeds (her lawyer specializes in internet law), she may well change the legal understanding of these situations.
Well put darwinsmom and Emi!
Sky, EB,
I too think infidelity is SO VERY WRONG. Three is a crowd. You can never get true intimacy when someone else is standing in the way of authentic emotional connection which yes, an spath is not capable of. I think even cyber cheating is not ok. It’s just dipping a toe in the water and getting ready for what might come someone’s way. My spath was having a huge long term affair (at least 5 years that I have finally figured out), but even during that time he was cybercheating with an old high school gf. The emails I saw were very flirtatious, complementary and oozing with how great you are doing in life. Spath tried to say “we were just catching up on life.” It was such a lie. The emails I read could be interpreted by any simple mind as… I would jump your bones immediately if we were having this discussion in person.
EB, I like your tangent. I too live in a wealthy community and your saying, “when a man comes on the market” made me smile.. so true.
I think once a cheater always a cheater.
Is it also once an spath, always a spath?
Nocontactrules
Congrats on hitting one month of no contact. Im glad you’re feeling better.
I am at two months. My spath just sent me two messages in recent days. I thought I put up all necessary barriers but I missed one. The two messages have me in a tailspin. I’ve come so close to reaching out to him. I am so glad I can go talk to my therapist tonight and sort through this.
I think my addiction is still there.
I loved him. So when he reaches out, im assuming he feels that emotion towards me.
its so foreign to me to get it in my head that he does not not not.
nothing has changed.
Ugh. Why is it so damn hard.
Athena
Athena
It’s hard b/c we have empathy. We believe others to have the same emotions we do, that others feel sad when bad things happen, happy when good things happen, do not feel angry when the other has not transgressed, a smile does not mean I hate you you B*….
BLEW me away and hurt so bad when I saw an email my husband wrote to someone else. He portrayed himself married to a desperate clutching demanding bossy B* who would not let him go. His email to me on the same day said He “felt connected to me and only me”, that I was “the best thing that ever happened to him”. That explained why people were so angry at me and telling me to let go and move on. I’d thought how rude of them to stop me on the street and presume to get into my marriage. It never occurred to me that my husband had BROUGHT them into our marriage. I thought such things were private. I thought wrong.
Athena, I don’t think it’s an addiction either. THEY can shut off the feelings. I can’t shut off my love and life of 20 years like it never happened. I didn’t invest just a little of myself in my marriage, I put my all into it. Stopping my desire for the man and the life that I was promised was a lengthy sweaty HARD process of closing the valve and then letting the well run dry.
EB, I know of several guys who “WERE coming on the market” because their wives had been diagnosed with TERMINAL CANCER, and the “eligible” women started coming over BEFORE THE WIFE WAS DEAD….yea, really! Pretending of course to be coming to “help out” the wife, bringing a food dish etc.
NO CONTACT RULES—congratulations from me as well. That’s a big mile post! Keep on keeping on! Each day “out” of the FOG is one step closer to sanity!
Ewww. The vultures gathered. Yes, I’ve seen “best friends’ end up divorcing their husbands and marrying the widower. Guess they felt SOOOOooo badly for him as he struggled with losing his wife. What good women they are to sacrifice their marriage to comfort and marry their best friends surviving spouse. GMWAS.
SKYLAR from 10:26am
That’s what spaths do, don’t they. They separate you from your humanity to yourself, to others. I said when I was living with my husband, that I lost myself. I tried so many things to please him, b/c when he was NOT an A*, and there were times when he stopped at least to my face, those times were of peace and LIVABLE. But they never lasted b/c he LOVED drama. He had to instigate pain. After I left and a couple of years into recovery, I was (still am) rediscovering parts of me that I FORGOT I had. For me, I knew I was going to be okay when I regained my humanity, my ability to stop seeing ONLY my pain and to once again see others in their humanity.
. .
Katy,
When I left, I realized that he was peter pan and I was wendy and we had been living in never neverland He separated me from not just humanity, but also REALITY.
Captain Hook was always waiting around the corner, tinkerbell was living down the street. And “Jerry’s Kids” were the lost boys. Everyday was an “adventure”. It’s no wonder my adrenals were exhausted and I became hypothyroid.
As it turns out the author of Peter Pan was probably a spath.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/donotmigrate/3556421/How-bad-was-J.M.-Barrie.html
Who else would write about a boy who never grew up? A spath.
EDIT:
BTW, the original title for peter pan was, “the boy who hated mothers.”
Reminds me of the original title for “the girl with the dragon tatoo”, it was originally titled, “men who hate women”
boys who hate mothers eventually are forced to grow up and become men who hate women… makes sense.