A case is now percolating through the Illinois courts that may have implications on whether perpetrators of online deception can be sued for damages.
The case is Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James. Bonhomme lives in Los Angeles. She is a fan of the TV show Deadwood, and back in 2005, joined a chat room about the show. There she met St. James.
St. James eventually introduced Bonhomme, online, to a man by the name of Jesse. Bonhomme and Jesse exchanged emails, phone calls and handwritten notes, and their relationship blossomed into a romance. Jesse introduced Bonhomme to his family and friends via email. Bonhomme sent gifts to Jesse and his family. They planned a future together, and decided that Bonhomme should move from Los Angeles to Jesse’s home in Colorado.
Then suddenly, Jesse died of liver cancer. In Jesse’s memory, Bonhomme went to Colorado to visit some of his favorite places, accompanied by the woman who had introduced her to Jesse—Janna St. James.
But there was a problem: None of it was real.
Janna St. James made up the Jesse character, along with all 20 of his friends and family. She created an entire web of deceit, and snared Paula Bonhomme. She actually used voice-altering technology, so when they spoke on the phone, St. James sounded like a man.
Bonhomme spent money on gifts. She bought Jesse airline tickets and made changes to her home in preparation for his visits, which never materialized. In all, the charade cost Bonhomme about $10,000, including $5,000 for therapy after the emotional devastation of Jesse’s “death.”
Finally, Bonhomme’s friends, worried about the amount of time she was spending online, confronted St. James and exposed the fraud. They captured it on video, which is posted on YouTube.
Read ”˜Fake’ online love affair becomes legal battle on ABCNews.go.com.
Watch the YouTube video, St. James exposed.
Taking it to court
Bonhomme filed a complaint against Janna St. James in Illinois court in February 2008. The court dismissed her case. She filed a motion to reconsider in 2009, which was also dismissed. Then her attorneys filed an appeal.
Bonhomme’s complaint stated that St. James St. James committed fraudulent misrepresentation. The elements of this claim are:
- A false statement of material fact
- Knowledge or belief of the falsity by the party making it
- Intention to induce the plaintiff to act
- Action by the plaintiff in justifiable reliance on the truth of the statement
- Damage to the plaintiff resulting from that reliance
The problem with the original case apparently was that a claim of fraudulent misrepresentation was historically recognized only in business or financial transactions. The court had previously declined to consider fraudulent misrepresentation in noncommercial or nonfinancial dealings between parties.
Also, the defendant’s attorneys argued that St. James engaged in fiction, not a misrepresentation of facts, and that “the concepts of falsity and material fact do not apply in the context of fiction, because fiction does not purport to represent reality.”
The original trial court apparently bought that argument, but the appeals court did not. The appeals court ruled that the trial court erred in dismissing the case, and sent it back for further proceedings.
The actual court opinion is interesting and mostly easy to read. Check it out: Appellate Court of Illinois— Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James.
Blame the victim
The appellate court decision wasn’t, however, unanimous. One of the justices dissented, writing:
The reality of the Internet age is that an online individual may not always be—and indeed frequently is not—who or what he or she purports to be. The plaintiff’s reliance on the defendant’s alleged misrepresentations, in deciding to spend $10,000 on Christmas gifts for people who allegedly lived in another state and whom she had never met, was not justifiable. The plaintiff also cannot be said to have justifiably relied on the alleged misrepresentations in incurring expenses to move to another state to live with someone she had never met in person and who had cancelled a previous face-to-face meeting after she had purchased nonrefundable airline tickets.
In other words, the dissenting justice blamed the victim for being dumb enough to fall for the scam.
Kirk Sigmon, a blogger for the Cornell Law School, also thought the appellate court decision was a bad idea. He argued that “the world is full of misleading statements and ”˜puffery,’” and Bonhomme v. St. James could set a precedent that made Internet users responsible for telling the truth. This, Sigmon seemed to imply, was an imposition.
This holding has the potential to cause serious problems for Internet users. At least according to the Bonhomme court’s logic, many individuals may be liable for expenses incurred as a result of someone’s reliance upon their virtual representations. Mindless banter in chatrooms could now create legal liabilities. If courts apply a similar logic to negligent misrepresentation cases, even careless statements made on websites could give rise to litigation so long as plaintiffs can prove intent and harm. In theory, every user of the Internet is now subjected to an implied duty of truthfulness or due care in the representations they make when interacting with others online.
The blogger argued that allowing a complaint of fraudulent misrepresentation arising from personal dealings, rather than just commercial dealings, “threatens the very freedom that makes the Internet so attractive.”
Read The wild, wild web and alter egos, on CornellFedSoc.org.
Wrong but not illegal
I am troubled by the judge’s dissent, which blames the victim, and the Cornell blogger’s apparent opinion that the freedom of the Internet must include the freedom to lie, no matter how destructive it is to another individual.
The actions of Janna St. James were clearly reprehensible. They were morally wrong. This woman did not engage in “social puffery.” She set out to purposely deceive Paula Bonhomme, apparently just to amuse herself. Unfortunately, she succeeded, and Bonhomme was damaged.
Not only that, but St. James had a history of pulling this scam. Since this case became public, Bonhomme was contacted by at least five other women who were similarly victimized by St. James, in fake letters going back to the 1980s.
So why is it so difficult for Paula Bonhomme to get justice? I think the problem is the very structure of our legal system. Even when an action is clearly wrong, if it doesn’t violate a law, nothing can be done. The law hasn’t kept up with the technology, and the law, like most of society, doesn’t understand the maliciousness of sociopaths.
I hope Bonhomme makes out better in her next court go-round. In any event, I applaud her for even pursuing the case. If we want to make changes, and hold sociopaths accountable, we have to start somewhere.
Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.
Katydid. Yes, I loved. He manipulated. That’s the difference. Thanks for the encouragement.
Hi Folks,
I have a friend who’s wife got involved in an online relationship. They live in Rio, Brazil. It broke up their relationship, they had to sell their house, and guess what? He never “materialized”
By the way, he is in his 80’s. Now they are divorced and he’s moved back to England. What a shame. It just goes to show you: it never ends….
Skylar
When I was living with my husband I knew something was wrong, I just couldn’t put my finger on it. One of the books I read was The Peter Pan Syndrome b/c my spath did so many childish things. He responded to challenges childishly, he was childish when we had sex (pinch my chest and said Moo. walk in from barn and use my breasts to warm his icy hands. tickle me to the point of anger to get him to stop…) Avoided responsibility. Blamed EVERYONE or everything else but himself. Yep Peter Pan. And Peter Peter Pumpkin eater. Had a wife and kept her in a pumpkin shell. And there he kept her, not very well at all.
Athena
You got it. Write it down on a piece of paper. Tape it to the bathroom mirror. Or wherever it applies. When you get the urge to contact him, read and remind yourself what the REALITY is. Then find something caring to do for yourself, even if it’s just rubbing lotion on, soft soothing scent. Nurturing Touch, even if done yourself actually helps.
Constantine,
One of the things I think is great about LF is that the few men who are on here are GREAT guys—gay or straight, they are intelligent and have great insight! None are sexist and all have GOOD SENSE!
You mentioning about a spouse becoming a quad made me take notice of your “reasons” for divorcing a person. Funny thing, in the 5 years I worked in head and spinal cord rehab, I NEVER saw a husband that stayed with a wife who was severely injured, either head or spinal cord. I saw MOST wives stay with their spouse who was injured, but NEVER a husband that stayed with his wife as a caregiver. I will say though that the financial considerations of making a living, and taking care of the kids, plus a wife that needed 24/7 hands-on care would be quiet a load for someone to carry.
I also saw many husbands and wives that split up when the added stress of a quad child was added to the probably already shaky marriage….
One of my great uncles as I was growing up was a quad from WWII and I grew up comfortable around disabled people. I know disabled people, even quads, who live fulfilling and good lives and have good marriages. In fact, one of the duties I had in my professional capacity was sex education for the disabled– in how to have a satisfying sexual life even when paralyzed from the neck down.
Paula’s reason for divorce seems to be that her husband was unable to meet HER NEEDS for affection because of a condition he had before she married him. People on the Autistic spectrum have a decreased capacity for empathy, but I doubt that his capacity for empathy (or lack of it) changed after the marriage, but did become more apparent to her, and she was lured into the fantasy cyber-relationship with the psychopath.
I think that her own “neediness” made her more vulnerable to the psychopath’s HOOK, just as my own neediness after my husband’s death made me “prime candidate” for the con game of the Psychopath looking for another “respectable” wife. If I had not been so needy I probably wouldn’t have given him a second thought after finding out his history of a life long pattern of cheating.
Paula got burned very badly, and I agree that the person who burned her is likely a psychopath and has done this to others besides Paula. I’m not sure that the legal venue is the proper venue to give Paula “justice” however, and I really don’t think that her law suit will prevail, and even if it does…where will the money come from to pay this judgment off? Chances are that St. James doesn’t have a financial “pot or a window to throw it out of.”
Even if she gets a judgment against her, I don’t see St. James stopping her preying on others with lies.
Constantine, im glad you are here, and I agree w your point of view.
Callmeathena,
Thank you – that’s very nice of you to say.
Constantine,
somehow I had missed your post.
You are right, of course, that infidelity is so wrong, for SO MANY REASONS.
A sociopath (male or female) can con a married man or married woman into an affair and I would have sympathy for both, the adulterer and his/her spouse.
Remember, none of us is here because our spath had ONE affair – that would be a forgivable(?) human frailty. We are ALL here because our spath had multiple sexual affairs -except for OneJoy and Paula, their spath has multiple personalities.
You know exactly what I mean because your spath shocked you with that same outrageous and audacious behavior. Spaths don’t just have an extra marital affair. They have NO LIMITS, they’ll screw anything that moves, while professing their undying love for you and doing anything they can to undermine your life. Every aspect of their personality is a lie.
Like I said, I’ve always hated infidelity but what spaths do is not infidelity. It’s a ground-shaking betrayal that destroys your faith in humanity and yourself. And I have sympathy for anyone caught in that kind of earthquake.
One of the reasons that I hate infidelity is because it is a human weakness that spaths will hide behind. When they get caught in one affair, they will pretend to have been “weak” and we forgive them while unbeknownst to us, they are screwing men, women, dogs, sheep and cows. Everytime we sin, we provide a cover for their evil.
I think there is something we can learn from this. Spaths – and ESPECIALLY online spaths – prey on the lonely. We need to find healthier ways to meet our intimacy needs so we are not vulnerable to these scam artists. It’s not enough to just avoid having long distance relationships. We live in a global world now, and many of us have many wonderful internet friendships. And there are some long distance relationships that do work out. There are two women in my office who met their husbands on Match.com and another who met hers in a chat room. Their guys are really great people, and they are not spaths. So I think it’s not just that you can’t trust anyone on the internet. I think that’s the easy way out.
Star,
trust but verify. And carry a big stick.