A case is now percolating through the Illinois courts that may have implications on whether perpetrators of online deception can be sued for damages.
The case is Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James. Bonhomme lives in Los Angeles. She is a fan of the TV show Deadwood, and back in 2005, joined a chat room about the show. There she met St. James.
St. James eventually introduced Bonhomme, online, to a man by the name of Jesse. Bonhomme and Jesse exchanged emails, phone calls and handwritten notes, and their relationship blossomed into a romance. Jesse introduced Bonhomme to his family and friends via email. Bonhomme sent gifts to Jesse and his family. They planned a future together, and decided that Bonhomme should move from Los Angeles to Jesse’s home in Colorado.
Then suddenly, Jesse died of liver cancer. In Jesse’s memory, Bonhomme went to Colorado to visit some of his favorite places, accompanied by the woman who had introduced her to Jesse—Janna St. James.
But there was a problem: None of it was real.
Janna St. James made up the Jesse character, along with all 20 of his friends and family. She created an entire web of deceit, and snared Paula Bonhomme. She actually used voice-altering technology, so when they spoke on the phone, St. James sounded like a man.
Bonhomme spent money on gifts. She bought Jesse airline tickets and made changes to her home in preparation for his visits, which never materialized. In all, the charade cost Bonhomme about $10,000, including $5,000 for therapy after the emotional devastation of Jesse’s “death.”
Finally, Bonhomme’s friends, worried about the amount of time she was spending online, confronted St. James and exposed the fraud. They captured it on video, which is posted on YouTube.
Read ”˜Fake’ online love affair becomes legal battle on ABCNews.go.com.
Watch the YouTube video, St. James exposed.
Taking it to court
Bonhomme filed a complaint against Janna St. James in Illinois court in February 2008. The court dismissed her case. She filed a motion to reconsider in 2009, which was also dismissed. Then her attorneys filed an appeal.
Bonhomme’s complaint stated that St. James St. James committed fraudulent misrepresentation. The elements of this claim are:
- A false statement of material fact
- Knowledge or belief of the falsity by the party making it
- Intention to induce the plaintiff to act
- Action by the plaintiff in justifiable reliance on the truth of the statement
- Damage to the plaintiff resulting from that reliance
The problem with the original case apparently was that a claim of fraudulent misrepresentation was historically recognized only in business or financial transactions. The court had previously declined to consider fraudulent misrepresentation in noncommercial or nonfinancial dealings between parties.
Also, the defendant’s attorneys argued that St. James engaged in fiction, not a misrepresentation of facts, and that “the concepts of falsity and material fact do not apply in the context of fiction, because fiction does not purport to represent reality.”
The original trial court apparently bought that argument, but the appeals court did not. The appeals court ruled that the trial court erred in dismissing the case, and sent it back for further proceedings.
The actual court opinion is interesting and mostly easy to read. Check it out: Appellate Court of Illinois— Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James.
Blame the victim
The appellate court decision wasn’t, however, unanimous. One of the justices dissented, writing:
The reality of the Internet age is that an online individual may not always be—and indeed frequently is not—who or what he or she purports to be. The plaintiff’s reliance on the defendant’s alleged misrepresentations, in deciding to spend $10,000 on Christmas gifts for people who allegedly lived in another state and whom she had never met, was not justifiable. The plaintiff also cannot be said to have justifiably relied on the alleged misrepresentations in incurring expenses to move to another state to live with someone she had never met in person and who had cancelled a previous face-to-face meeting after she had purchased nonrefundable airline tickets.
In other words, the dissenting justice blamed the victim for being dumb enough to fall for the scam.
Kirk Sigmon, a blogger for the Cornell Law School, also thought the appellate court decision was a bad idea. He argued that “the world is full of misleading statements and ”˜puffery,’” and Bonhomme v. St. James could set a precedent that made Internet users responsible for telling the truth. This, Sigmon seemed to imply, was an imposition.
This holding has the potential to cause serious problems for Internet users. At least according to the Bonhomme court’s logic, many individuals may be liable for expenses incurred as a result of someone’s reliance upon their virtual representations. Mindless banter in chatrooms could now create legal liabilities. If courts apply a similar logic to negligent misrepresentation cases, even careless statements made on websites could give rise to litigation so long as plaintiffs can prove intent and harm. In theory, every user of the Internet is now subjected to an implied duty of truthfulness or due care in the representations they make when interacting with others online.
The blogger argued that allowing a complaint of fraudulent misrepresentation arising from personal dealings, rather than just commercial dealings, “threatens the very freedom that makes the Internet so attractive.”
Read The wild, wild web and alter egos, on CornellFedSoc.org.
Wrong but not illegal
I am troubled by the judge’s dissent, which blames the victim, and the Cornell blogger’s apparent opinion that the freedom of the Internet must include the freedom to lie, no matter how destructive it is to another individual.
The actions of Janna St. James were clearly reprehensible. They were morally wrong. This woman did not engage in “social puffery.” She set out to purposely deceive Paula Bonhomme, apparently just to amuse herself. Unfortunately, she succeeded, and Bonhomme was damaged.
Not only that, but St. James had a history of pulling this scam. Since this case became public, Bonhomme was contacted by at least five other women who were similarly victimized by St. James, in fake letters going back to the 1980s.
So why is it so difficult for Paula Bonhomme to get justice? I think the problem is the very structure of our legal system. Even when an action is clearly wrong, if it doesn’t violate a law, nothing can be done. The law hasn’t kept up with the technology, and the law, like most of society, doesn’t understand the maliciousness of sociopaths.
I hope Bonhomme makes out better in her next court go-round. In any event, I applaud her for even pursuing the case. If we want to make changes, and hold sociopaths accountable, we have to start somewhere.
Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.
some of the comments about paula and the horror show jsj have really depressed me – no offense or disrespect to anyone about what triggers them re infidelity, but you know, jsj is a major spath….
i know what she did to Paula.
it’s all so different when it’s your experience, isn’t it? so little compassion for another victim….
signing off for awhile – i feel gutted.
Near,
you are welcome to use anything I write, that’s why I’m here: to learn and help educate about spaths. You can feel free to use my name as well, since it isn’t my real name anyway.
I’d love to hear your ideas as well.
OneJoy,
most people were sympathetic to Paula, but also to her husband, because infidelity sucks.
But I think that being cheated on and having your heart broken doesn’t really compare to what a spath does to you. Yes he cheats on you too, but it’s the WAY he does it that is so overwhelming. IT’S THE MASK that throws you into cog/dis because it portrays one thing when it is really just the opposite.
Infidelity happens for many reasons, and they can all be understood in some context. But what a spath does is they attack your belief in reality. When you realize it was not love gone bad, it was hate from the very beginning and it was senseless violence come out of the blue, that’s just like a random murder.
And I know that it makes it all that much harder to get on with your life when it is compared to “infidelity”. It was never that. When a spath cheats on you, it isn’t infidelity because there was never any commitment to begin with, only the pretense.
The roses and valentines and the long walks in the park holding hands – those acts were the cheating part because it was a lie. When the spath has affairs, that’s when the lies begin to unravel to reveal the truth and the cheating reveals spath’s true nature. Evil.
Thanksgiving Sociopath
I see you’re still surrounded by your wall of lies…such a shame.
Would it be alright if I called to all your name?
Alas, that would not bring about your demise.
You’d just insert another man between your thighs.
You mirrored me;how could I help but feel desire?
It wasn’t real,you said,..you’re a lier!
There are somethings your female body just couldn’t fake
Like when I touched you;undamming your passion lake.
I was nearly convinced it just wasn’t real.
You loved it,when;I made you my meal.
Remembering this I know we were substantial
Spending money on each other made it financial.
We even promised to always be friends;
Fact and fiction in relationship blends
At this time of year we long for those we care about.
I still love you there is,obviously,no doubt.
The solution to sociopaths is going N.C.
Backdoor communication from me.
I still have trouble believing you were not all the way there
It was real when I messed up your hair.
Expect a call from me this hoilday season
Abandon by you I don’t know the reason.
Nobodies perfect;this Thanksgiving I wish you peace
I hope you’re gathered with family for the hoilday feast.
Felt like reaching out …my poetry may not be good,but;who cares?
I like it!
“You’d just insert another man between your thighs.”
That works for female or male spaths!
🙂
I believe some the converations were ‘compartmentalized’ and addressed the compartment with Paula’s infidelities.
I think it held merit.
I don’t see where anyone validated the actions of the spath. What she did/does and ‘who’ she is/was is vial. Period.
I also KNOW that I personally choose who I show/have compassion for these days. I also like to see the whole picture and observe that for myself.
If my spath came on here……he’d have stories of victimization up the ying yang…..and ya know what…….they’d mostly be a fabrication and projection. I said -mostly-….not all.
Once I figured out….it’d be me/kids……OR him……I pulled all the spath moves out! YEP……I backspathed every inch of the way. I played dirty, I stretched the truth, I hid things…..I refrained from disclosing ‘all’. Just like the way ‘he’ played. I had racked up 150K in CC debts playing nice like my attorney suggested…..and couldn’t do it one cent longer….there was no more credit to pull from.
He drained the bank accounts……blamed me. I could either……cry foul and not be heard…..or not report all income I received to avoid paying him alimony and continue paying all of our bills. (That was how I played ‘dirty’).
Some would say I victimized him…..him especially.
He had a sack of jewelry and 30K……next to 3 hefty bags of pot I found. I decided to take the jewelry and 30K and leave him the pot! It was my way of making things equal.
He would say I victimized him, because that was HIS! He never asked if I took it…..because he knew if it came up…..I’m mention the 120K in pot next to it. I also chose to put it on HIS plate……either bring it up WHOLLY…..or shut the fuck up. I viewed it as…..I had no use for 120K in pot……so I’d take what I could liquidate and the cash. It was all marital assets…….legally……from money he stole from the marriage. so I’ll take the loss (since the jewelry wasn’t worth 90K) and call it even. Unless he wanted to discuss it in court! Which we knew he wouldn’t!.
So……did I victimize him by doing that? I thought it was fair.
So…..my point is…….I played by the rules my entire life….until it was life or death……him or me. I chose HIM.
He can complain…….
We can complain…….
and where does that get us?
But what is best for all of us to do is……..Carry on, find a way out to protect ourselves…….and most of all take full responsibility for our own part we played in the game. We are ALL guilty/neglectful on some level. I chose to ignore red flags…..and pretend I lived the life I worked for…..I CHOSE to marry him, nobody forced me……I chose to try/pretend to build a life I thought was real…..It wasn’t, I can’t pin that on anyone……It was ALL my choices…..I had achoice to stay or go….for 28 years….and I stayed, for whatever reasons, they don’t matter…I stayed. I can’t blame a spath for that? Even though I could give a million reasons why with all the lies and deceit I could come up with some good excuses….but ultimately we are responsible SOLELY for our own choices and the reasons we make them! NO we didn’t deserve it……Paula didn’t deserve it………nobody deserves it. NOBODY! But we ALL must be accountable…..we chose to move forward in these relationships.
I think like Paula…..so many of us are fighting to protect others from the perps.
I know my heart breaks knowing my spath is carrying on…….victimizing children and targeting anyone around him and the way he operates……and I KNOW HIS FULL OPERANDUS GIG…..and there is only so much I can do about it to blow the whistle.
I will do my part to expose and see if I can avert the world from his predatory ways……BUT….the reality is….it’s up to the next victims to know and realize, recognize and do something about how they were/are used by him….NOT ME.
We can only do so much!
I don’t think it is a lack of compassion for other victims…..it may be just what we all need more of…..discernment.
EB, I agree with you….a few years ago I took in a woman and her 6 yr old child…she had lumps the size of grapefruits on her head and arms from where he husband had thrown her off the second floor balcony of their house….she ended up leaving with only the clothes on her and her child’s back and came to my home. I had NO doubt that he was a psychopath, or that he was a brutal abuser.
About a year later he was arrested for a murder that I have no doubt that he did, execution style, but after a year in jail he got off on the murder charge.
She eventually married a good man. She wasn’t a saint, and she’d had an affair or two along the way, but I thought she had ‘straightened out” her life and for about 10 years it appeared she had. I didn’t see her often but when I did she and her husband seemed happy and he loved her daughter as his own.
Then….the marriage fell apart, the daughter at age 17 had quit school and was dancing at a “titty bar” and the husband tried to stop her, and the wife was having an affair with a drug addict….fast forward through 32 credit cards and a good man with a broken heart, another broken marriage, the wife back on drugs….and I realized that the woman “victim” that I had taken in with the lumps on her from the beating her psychopathic husband had given her was ALSO A PSYCHOPATH….and that is not an unusual thing for two abusers to hook up and for the “loser” in the contest of control to present themselves as a “victim” just like my egg donor does and just like EB’s X does….do any of us here have an X psychopath that doesn’t present as a “victim?”
Are there those people here who have NEVER done anything less than morally upstanding? I ain’t raising my hand!@....... LOL
Did the woman I took in “deserve” the beating her P husband gave her? NO, she didn’t…but her second husband didn’t deserve to have to pay off the 32 credit cards she took out in his name, or to give up 90% of his assets to her, or to be accused of molesting her daughter and arrested—only to be freed and the charges dropped when the girl finally recanted…she didn’t go to jail though for making false claims of molestation though, and neither did her mother.
The first husband and the woman were both psychopaths, and due to physical strength on his part, and on “masking” on hers, she got a “whipping” and presented to me, and to her second husband as a “victim” of the first husband. In truth, she was just as malicious as he was, and just as psychopathic.
The only “innocent” victim in the whole situation was the second husband, and he is NC with both the X wife and the step daughter, but his heart is broken, like most of us here, and he’s trying to make himself understand what went wrong. Why didn’t he see it sooner than 10 years?
As for St. James, I have no doubt that the woman is most likely a “card carrying” psychopath. As for Paula, I think she was “needy” which made her vulnerable to the BAIT hung out by St. James. That doesn’t mean Paula deserved what St. James did to her, BUT (here’s a big “but”) IF Paula had been totally morally upright and not have allowed ANYONE to “start an affair” with her, NONE of this would have happened to her. St. James would not have been able to wound her.
The TAKE HOME LESSON HERE for me is: If I am HONEST with others and with myself and I do not behave dishonestly with others or myself, I am **NOT AS LIKELY ** TO BE SCAMMED as I would be if I would allow myself to behave in a dishonest manner. If I knowingly date a man who is married how could I expect that man to be FAITHFUL to me? If I were willing to cheat on my spouse, how could any man I dated think I would be faithful to him?
Shameonme – I like your poetry. Fact and fiction do blend well for awhile. I hope my x is gathered with family, and I hope he choke’s on a turkey gizzard. I wont be calling him, I doubt he would remember who I am.
Hens,
QUOTE: “I hope he choke’s on a turkey gizzard. ”
Dammmmmm, Hens, I almost choked on my OWN GIZZARD when I read that! LOL LROTFLMAO Choke snort snarf!
You crack me up, guy! LOL Thanks for a belly laugh!
Skylar
Thanks for your post above. It states so clearly why it’s not just another breakup, that it’s not just moving on (b/c your whole reality and sense of self trust is destroyed), and that it is the murder of a person’s sense of humanity. Add all the traumas and stringing us along and the mindfarks and the whole UNrelationship appears as horrendous and ugly… as you said. EVIL.
Katy,
Yep, there is no better word to describe them, than EVIL.
if you have not read “the mask of sanity” yet, I highly recommend it. I’m just about done with it. (downloaded the PDF) No, he doesn’t use the word evil, because he is much too scientific, but he doesn’t have to.
Even though I had come to many of the same conclusions that he had, the manner that he organizes his thoughts is so impressive and it has brought new insights to what I’ve experienced with spaths.
The book is organized into sections. Part 2 is a series of vignettes about his spath patients. Because it is such a long book, (almost 500 pages), I would recommend that you only read the first 2 vignettes and the last one or two. That will save you time because these clinical observation are all alike – just like spaths!! You can go back and read them later.
Cleckley had the limitation of dealing with spaths in a psychiatric setting, so his perception of them was limited to those who would eventually be brought to a psych ward. Still, he did say that the only way to understand a spath was to study his life history – study him in the wild, so to speak.
I have read very few non-fiction books that have offered as much insight into sanity AND insanity as this one.