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Woman sues over web of Internet deceit

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November 21, 2011 //  by Donna Andersen//  338 Comments

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A case is now percolating through the Illinois courts that may have implications on whether perpetrators of online deception can be sued for damages.

The case is Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James. Bonhomme lives in Los Angeles. She is a fan of the TV show Deadwood, and back in 2005, joined a chat room about the show. There she met St. James.

St. James eventually introduced Bonhomme, online, to a man by the name of Jesse. Bonhomme and Jesse exchanged emails, phone calls and handwritten notes, and their relationship blossomed into a romance. Jesse introduced Bonhomme to his family and friends via email. Bonhomme sent gifts to Jesse and his family. They planned a future together, and decided that Bonhomme should move from Los Angeles to Jesse’s home in Colorado.

Then suddenly, Jesse died of liver cancer. In Jesse’s memory, Bonhomme went to Colorado to visit some of his favorite places, accompanied by the woman who had introduced her to Jesse—Janna St. James.

But there was a problem: None of it was real.

Janna St. James made up the Jesse character, along with all 20 of his friends and family. She created an entire web of deceit, and snared Paula Bonhomme. She actually used voice-altering technology, so when they spoke on the phone, St. James sounded like a man.

Bonhomme spent money on gifts. She bought Jesse airline tickets and made changes to her home in preparation for his visits, which never materialized. In all, the charade cost Bonhomme about $10,000, including $5,000 for therapy after the emotional devastation of Jesse’s “death.”

Finally, Bonhomme’s friends, worried about the amount of time she was spending online, confronted St. James and exposed the fraud. They captured it on video, which is posted on YouTube.

Read ”˜Fake’ online love affair becomes legal battle on ABCNews.go.com.

Watch the YouTube video, St. James exposed.

Taking it to court

Bonhomme filed a complaint against Janna St. James in Illinois court in February 2008. The court dismissed her case. She filed a motion to reconsider in 2009, which was also dismissed. Then her attorneys filed an appeal.

Bonhomme’s complaint stated that St. James St. James committed fraudulent misrepresentation. The elements of this claim are:

  1. A false statement of material fact
  2. Knowledge or belief of the falsity by the party making it
  3. Intention to induce the plaintiff to act
  4. Action by the plaintiff in justifiable reliance on the truth of the statement
  5. Damage to the plaintiff resulting from that reliance

The problem with the original case apparently was that a claim of fraudulent misrepresentation was historically recognized only in business or financial transactions. The court had previously declined to consider fraudulent misrepresentation in noncommercial or nonfinancial dealings between parties.

Also, the defendant’s attorneys argued that St. James engaged in fiction, not a misrepresentation of facts, and that “the concepts of falsity and material fact do not apply in the context of fiction, because fiction does not purport to represent reality.”

The original trial court apparently bought that argument, but the appeals court did not. The appeals court ruled that the trial court erred in dismissing the case, and sent it back for further proceedings.

The actual court opinion is interesting and mostly easy to read. Check it out: Appellate Court of Illinois— Paula Bonhomme v. Janna St. James.

Blame the victim

The appellate court decision wasn’t, however, unanimous. One of the justices dissented, writing:

The reality of the Internet age is that an online individual may not always be—and indeed frequently is not—who or what he or she purports to be. The plaintiff’s reliance on the defendant’s alleged misrepresentations, in deciding to spend $10,000 on Christmas gifts for people who allegedly lived in another state and whom she had never met, was not justifiable. The plaintiff also cannot be said to have justifiably relied on the alleged misrepresentations in incurring expenses to move to another state to live with someone she had never met in person and who had cancelled a previous face-to-face meeting after she had purchased nonrefundable airline tickets.

In other words, the dissenting justice blamed the victim for being dumb enough to fall for the scam.

Kirk Sigmon, a blogger for the Cornell Law School, also thought the appellate court decision was a bad idea. He argued that “the world is full of misleading statements and ”˜puffery,’” and Bonhomme v. St. James could set a precedent that made Internet users responsible for telling the truth. This, Sigmon seemed to imply, was an imposition.

This holding has the potential to cause serious problems for Internet users. At least according to the Bonhomme court’s logic, many individuals may be liable for expenses incurred as a result of someone’s reliance upon their virtual representations. Mindless banter in chatrooms could now create legal liabilities. If courts apply a similar logic to negligent misrepresentation cases, even careless statements made on websites could give rise to litigation so long as plaintiffs can prove intent and harm. In theory, every user of the Internet is now subjected to an implied duty of truthfulness or due care in the representations they make when interacting with others online.

The blogger argued that allowing a complaint of fraudulent misrepresentation arising from personal dealings, rather than just commercial dealings, “threatens the very freedom that makes the Internet so attractive.”

Read The wild, wild web and alter egos, on CornellFedSoc.org.

Wrong but not illegal

I am troubled by the judge’s dissent, which blames the victim, and the Cornell blogger’s apparent opinion that the freedom of the Internet must include the freedom to lie, no matter how destructive it is to another individual.

The actions of Janna St. James were clearly reprehensible. They were morally wrong. This woman did not engage in “social puffery.” She set out to purposely deceive Paula Bonhomme, apparently just to amuse herself. Unfortunately, she succeeded, and Bonhomme was damaged.

Not only that, but St. James had a history of pulling this scam. Since this case became public, Bonhomme was contacted by at least five other women who were similarly victimized by St. James, in fake letters going back to the 1980s.

So why is it so difficult for Paula Bonhomme to get justice? I think the problem is the very structure of our legal system. Even when an action is clearly wrong, if it doesn’t violate a law, nothing can be done. The law hasn’t kept up with the technology, and the law, like most of society, doesn’t understand the maliciousness of sociopaths.

I hope Bonhomme makes out better in her next court go-round. In any event, I applaud her for even pursuing the case. If we want to make changes, and hold sociopaths accountable, we have to start somewhere.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.

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  1. Constantine

    November 24, 2011 at 2:14 am

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  2. Constantine

    November 24, 2011 at 2:30 am

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  3. Stargazer

    November 24, 2011 at 3:16 am

    Greetings, it’s too late to post, but just checking in. I have started the laser tummy treatments (and concurrent near-starvation diet that goes with it). I had a fun day today with the guy from Chile, taking a walk, then translating the first page of Gabriel Garcia Marquez (he is a native Spanish speaker), then a little making out – I so love men ;). Then a night out with the girls where they were having drinks and I can only have imaginary drinks because of my 2-week near-starvation diet. Then two guys called me from the dating site who have sort of become long distance friends. What a very full day!!! Feeling a little better every day – the cellular release therapy is making a big difference in my life.

    Just wanted to wish you all a very happy thanksgiving if I don’t “see” you tomorrow.

    Hugs,
    Star

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  4. ErinBrock

    November 24, 2011 at 5:08 am

    Bingo!

    And you know we DO have mincemeat makers showing up here…..all the time. We give, give, give what we have and they take, take, take…..trying to gain some sort of whacky internet ego hike from playing the victim and being believed at facevalue on LF. We’ve seen it before…..and it won’t stop.
    But…..eventually, usually sooner than later…..the mask falls…..comes flying off and we can step on it!

    Yep….like you….I had a virtually illiterate spath….he types in all caps and run ons, horrid spelling….and makes NO sense at all….especially in writing! 🙂
    Even on the phone he’s whacky, he comes across angry on a message.
    I used to tell him….JUST DON”T LEAVE MESSAGES.
    He could call to tell you he loves you and it had so much hate sound in his voice/tone. His messages always left me with WTF? Total contradiction between message/tone.
    He definately couldn’t pass himself off as a victim just with his writing skills/lack of. But if he got you in person……he’d have you nailed! Maybe if someone else did his typing and reworded his ‘story’,he could fool LFers…….but again, not for long.

    YEP…..a good mask can be good. But I still believe if we are astute….the mask is good only for a bit.

    Happy Thanksgiving Constantine……

    I really have to come up with a shorter name for ya!!!! How bout’ Stan.

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  5. ErinBrock

    November 24, 2011 at 5:11 am

    To all my LF friends……Count your blessings this Thanksgiving….and don’t forget to take them into your tomorrows!!!!
    IT GET”S BETTER!!!!!

    I am Thankful for all of you!
    Happy Thanksgiving~

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  6. callmeathena

    November 24, 2011 at 8:00 am

    Happy Thanksgiving!

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  7. MoonDancer

    November 24, 2011 at 9:32 am

    Happy Thanksgiving Day to all the peep’s at LF.

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  8. Constantine

    November 24, 2011 at 11:33 am

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  9. skylar

    November 24, 2011 at 10:42 am

    Constantine,
    I did read all of it straight through. And it did trigger me too, to read about their antics, over and over, the exact same behavior. It’s like a nightmare. That’s one reason I suggest skipping some of it until later. On the other hand, I can see why he put it in there: so people could “experience” the nightmare and relate to what he describes. Since we have all “been there, done that”, we already know…

    I think that he didn’t realize how much a part of their manipulations HE had become. He is constantly describing the WTF? moments because they were conning him too. Spaths can’t interface with another human being WITHOUT going into the con. They just can’t. When he wonders if they really believe their own preposterous statements, he doesn’t realize that they are just testing him, to see where the line is, to watch the expression on his face, and to determine how much he has invested in their well-being. They do this naturally, without very much thought to the process.

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone! I’m sooo grateful for all my LF friends!

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  10. skylar

    November 24, 2011 at 11:42 am

    Constantine,
    that example is, IMO, so not like a spath. Most spaths are so rigidly attached to their mask, that they never behave in ways that could be considered “crazy” by the casual observer.

    The spaths that I know, in order to comprehend the “crazy” aspect, you have to “catch” them in the disordered behavior. My spath was more like Jerry Sandusky. He did all these disgusting things right out in the open and everybody denies what they are seeing, give him a pass, sweep it under the rug etc… they TRY to understand.

    In other words, to me a spath is someone who causes cog/dis to the point that the observer is slimed by the spaths pathological mindset. It’s only when the observer/participant becomes aware that there is a pathology called psychopathy and how it presents, that the observer can liberate himself from the slime.

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