If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.
1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.
2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.
3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends.
4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.
5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.
6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.
7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.
8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.
9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.
10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.
For more on this topic, see Donna Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.
skylar
Truthy,
that’s why it was funny. Selfish people are kind of comical in their short sightedness.
They reminded me of my spath sister I guess.
And yes, that is spath 101, they believe their own lies while knowing that they are lying.
They are mental gymnasts capable of amazing feats.
Truthspeak
Skylar, no kidding…..I wonder how much energy they really expend juggling their various facades? Seriously! That takes a LOT of energy to try to keep all of their lies in the air.
Louise
Does anyone out there know enough spanish to know what this means?
Nometientes, que sinos tentamos nonos podremos olvidar…
Not sure if I spelled it or spaced it all correctly.
I think the first part is “Don’t tempt me,” but I don’t know the rest.
Louise
denbroncos007:
I just have a “feeling” he is done with me. I feel like he’s a million miles away. He never told me goodbye even though I asked him twice to tell me it was over and he wouldn’t. But that doesn’t mean it’s not.
denbroncos007
Truthspeak
Yes I do feel different than I did a month ago – I certainly feel a sense of “entitlement” — meaning that I carve my own path in life and it’s not driven by who I am with or what someone else wants/needs. That was how my life was the past year 1/2 – My life/world revolved around his; although he didn’t ever come right out and tell me that I had to do anything specific to be with him – he certainly made it very hard to be with him unless i conformed….. It was always about him and his job and his timing — If i couldn’t live with that or revolve around/deal with that then he would tell me that I didn’t need to be with him — it was sick, because I should have been strong enough to say “No, i am not going to conform just to be with you.” Instead I didn’t say that because he had already sucked his claws into me by love bombing me in the beginning so I was hooked – then I couldn’t get out. So felt like so many of you, that if I stuck it out long enough – the magical Knight in Shining armor i “thought” existed would appear again – NOT! Halloween only comes but once a year for this idiot per VICTIM!
I do wonder though — do these people EVER EVER EVER even if it’s just one little inkling of a thought THINK they did anything wrong and that they actually HURT someone they felt (in their own sick perverse minds) they cared for? Do they have any ounce of remorse or sadness even for a brief moment???
skylar
Louise,
the last part is “we can’t forget”.
The middle part is confusing. Maybe: “if we tempt” ?
denbroncos007
Louise,
I used Google Translate and entered in what you wrote above and it added a few other spanish words, but this is what is translated it to mean ( obviously, I am not spanish) 🙂
Tempt me, that if we are tempted we can not forget
mandie
Louise–something like “don’t tempt me, b/c if we attempt (try?) we won’t be able to forget.” (or “won’t forget” and possibly “each other”) My Spanish is rusty these days. Basically, don’t tempt me or we won’t be able to forget…
Daisy
Skylar,
Check out Dr. Caroline Leaf. She has some really good stuff on reprogramming your brain.
Dr. Caroline Leaf received her training in Communication Pathology (BSC Logopaedics) at the University of Cape Town, South Africa. Dr Leaf also holds a Masters degree and Phd in Communication Pathology from the University of Pretoria, South Africa. Since 1981, Dr. Caroline Leaf has researched the human brain with particular emphasis on unlocking its vast, untapped potential. She as specifically focused on the cognitive neuroscientific aspects of TBI/CHI (Traumatic brain injury/Closed head Injury) and the science of thought as it relates to thinking, learning and renewing the mind, gifting and potential.
denbroncos007
Louise,
Mine would NEVER end it, he would always put it back on me – He would say things like “I know deep in my heart that you would be so much happier than me, and deserve so much better than me” or he would say “I am broken, I wish you could fix me but you can’t” or “Our relationship is so toxic that we can’t fix it, I would much rather be alone and happy than be miserable and in a relationship.” The last thing I never understood, he knew it was Toxic what he was doing and he even said he is the one with the problem, and it wasn’t me — so why did he say these things to me? He knew I would stay, but then he would turn around and do the exact same things he did before… WTF! Talk about me getting “mind-f’ed”
Now I’m thinking, what heart you “cock-nose” (Thanks Truth for the new word) – black heart! Of course, when he would say these things to me, I would feel bad and tell him it’s not true, I can help fix you and I am not going to be happy w/o you! I think he said those things on purpose right?