If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.
1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.
2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.
3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends.
4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.
5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.
6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.
7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.
8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.
9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.
10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.
For more on this topic, see Donna Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.
love the aliteration. 🙂 Good stuff.
kim:
Thanks…haha…I think that’s about the best poetry I can do. I was never a poet.
kim frederick
Why did his tramp tell him to tell you he loved you?
Hi everyone,
I wanted to thank everyone who gave me advice and listened about the restraining order hearing it really helped alot. The hearing was on Thursday and he didnt even show, which made things alot easier. It was short and i didnt need to say much for the judge to understand how i felt. He inturupted me after one sentence said that i anwered his question and then granted the order for 3 years. I feel very relieved that i can finally try and put my life back together one step at a time knowing he cant come near me. Thank you again
Congrats on the restraining order bebe!!
I’m curious, what was the one sentence you spoke?
Bebe09, I’m so glad for your restraining order and I want to convey what courage it takes for anyone to attend those hearings. I had to attend 2 hearings for the restraining order against me and I was SO triggered while I had to sit there and listen to these plaintiffs (mostly women) describe what horrors they experienced. I mean, it was horrific and one poor gal who didn’t speak English had to tell her story through an interpreter, complete with photos and her bloodstained nightgown. I sat in the back and just wept.
So, GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! And, ANYthing that happens, report it, immediately Bebe.
I’m curious about your single sentence, too….if you’re comfortable sharing, it may help someone else who is considering filing for a restraining order, themselves.
Brightest and most sincere blessings
YEA!!! BeBE!!!! Good for you and I’m nosey too, what was the sentence, and BTW, good for the judge!!! Three years is wonderful!
And yea, if he comes near you, put his sorry arse in jail.
Congrats Bebe! I’m so glad that’s over with and you can start to move forward with putting your life back together!!! 🙂
Thank you everyone….well everything was written in my statement he had in front of him but he asked me if I wanted to go forward with the order nd when I said yes he asked why….and I said that I was afraid if he dropped the RO that he would think it was ok to contact me and that I felt like thats was what he was waiting for and I started to try and say that he was angry that I told the truth to my family but he stopped me there …i think the words im still afraid were all he needed to hear the rest was written down in front of him.
Truthspeak:
I know what you mean it was definitly an unexpected expirience watching other hearings and listening to there stories but also very hard and sad.
Bebe09, it takes tremendous courage to take someone to Court for a Restraining Order, especially when it is someone that was once loved and trusted. Hearing the other stories during those hearings just tore me apart.
Congratulations and TOWANDA!!
Brightest blessings!