If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.
1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.
2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.
3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends.
4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.
5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.
6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.
7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.
8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.
9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.
10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.
For more on this topic, see Donna Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.
conomo
Hedley…never to late…face your fears …and never let YOU check out …at least not for long…..we are allowed
ErinBrock
Oxy….i think your just trippen……
Yesterday you were shoving pnut butter down your throat….NOW your
Jerking 5lbs of meat……Dang girl….that must take some energy!!!
5 LBS!!!!
Uh, yeah….DON”T GO CHOKEN ON THAT GIRLFRIEND!
🙂
I am cracking up…….I guess it’s my mind that’s warped……I find humor in ANYTHING….so ya gotta watch your words…..
ErinBrock
Gotta go change my Alpaca panties…….
Ox Drover
Dear EB,
Yea, I tell you, that peanut butter thing got me to thinking, and shook up a bit too. Who was it Mama Cass that choked on something and died? I had a patient once who choked on some ham and it took us FOREVER to get that ham out of her and get her pinked back up. I was beginnning to need some AIR by the time I got that chunk of bread and peanut butter out! I kept my head til afterwards and then started pouring sweat and thinking “what if” and all that kind of thing, my mind and thoughts RACING! About 20 minutes later D and his friend drove up from their training weekend, and I just kept thinking what would have happened to him if he had come home and found me dead!
And you know, I think we get up every day and wake up and go to bed at night and never really think about “this could be my last day” from any one of 1000 reasons that were just as dumb as choking to death on a peanut butter sandwich. So I guess it behoves me to “get myself right” and try to live each day like it was my last! What would I want to do, or say if I knew this was my last day on earth? Would I want to live it mad or sad, or angry? Nah, I think not! I’d rather, a whole lot rather, live it happy and laugh and joke, and sometimes rant a few minutes, but bottom line, just enjoy every breath! G’nite!
Ox Drover
Alpacca panties????????
ErinBrock
I’d rather live my last day…..jerking meat!
A few years ago….in the ‘heat ‘ of things…..the song….live like you were dying hit……
I Sang that at the top of my lungs….and in tears……
It’s true….we/NONE of us know…..when it’s gonna be the last…..so we do have to LIVE!!!!
It’s NOW or never…..tomorrow is a gift!
Nighty night……
tulip55
‘After the detachment is physically complete with a N there is the nagging abyss of was that all for nothing? It’s a terrible loss and there is nowhere to go with that loss. It’s static. It doesn’t evolve into lost love. It just remains as a loss.
Grieving a N is a burden, it’s a hole in one’s life. ‘
I found the above while perusing this site after a long absence. It struck a chord with me as it so accurately describes how I feel, even after 9 years of being free.
I value all of your stories as so much is familiar to my own situation. I plan to become a regular on the site from now on.
conomo
Oxy…f*k … we knew what you meant…Alpacas?? EB?? What do panties have to do with alpacas?? Oxy what was is….
ErinBrock
Yes…..I turned in my grannie panties for home made…(knitted by kim), pair of alpaca g-strings…..one for each butt cheek….
and Oxy made me soil them with laughter…..
ErinBrock
Tulip:
Glad your around…..and I look forward to your posts…..
9 years….good for you! I bet you have some stories to tell!!!
Welcome ‘back’….