If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.
1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.
2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.
3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends.
4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.
5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.
6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.
7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.
8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.
9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.
10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.
For more on this topic, see Donna Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.
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By the way, does anyone else do what I do since the BIG NC? Walk around in circles, saying: “Thank you God for the amazing peace and quiet….oh my God, it is amazing!”
Does anyone else here do that since the BIG NC ball was dropped? That is how you KNOW that what your heart is telling you is A LIE. There is a difference between co-dependency/addiction and REAL LOVE. mwah! xxoo
It’s just an addiction and when we wean ourselves off it, we will be fine. Look ahead everybody and join me tomorrow, when I wake up, finding the GLEE in the song of the birds.
night night; sleep tight…
*A BIG HUG FOR EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU*
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((“U”)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
DUPE and her ‘big girl britches’ 😉
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Excuse me geminigirl:
SEEN THE LIGHT & her big girl britches! 😉
night….
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eb, you sweet dear person…
do not fret. it wasn’t you – xxoo
You will be fine if you look for the light….
Forsake your broken heart and see you.
Be happy WITH ME in the morning, eb…..
*HUGE HUGS*
“Seen the Light”
a/k/a DUPED 😉
dancingnancies
duped, haha that list is gold! So true.
duped said :
Yep, exactly.
skylar
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geminigirl
Sky darlin, NO you DONT need Oxy to tell you what in your heart you already know, which is,-NO you CANT help people who wont help themselves.{Take a horse to the water, etc.}You simply CANT help this friend of yours unless and until she is ready and willing to be helped.
Especially if she is a low IQ stereotype dumb blonde.Yea I know you dont have to be an Einstein to “get it” re spaths, but you DO need to be willing to be willing to get help, get the F–k out of the relationshit,you need the energy, balls, head space to JUST DO IT. Sounds like shes not there yet.
Also, she may be unwittingly draining YOUR precious life blood energy which should be focused on helping YOU stay
focused.-Maybe your emotions are RIGHT to block her out. You need [after your horrific life}all your energy to go on healing YOU right now.Is God trying to tell you something? well, yea, maybe He/She is saying “leave her alone for now, you cant help her,stay the F–k away from her, she is dragging you DOWN. Much as you love her, you need to love YOU MORE.”
{{{HUGGS!!}}
Mama gemXX
Louise
Seen the Light:
Thank you!! You are special. I am getting stronger and stronger! 🙂
Louise
skylar:
No, you cannot help her. I have been there many times…just cannot help someone who isn’t willing to help themselves also. Try to support her emotionally as much as you can, but you need to concentrate on yourself. If and when she is ready to see the light, I know you will be there for her.
Joanie123
“10 signs that you’re with a sociopath”
Mine kept a trophy cabinet. I mean literally. I was watching Donna’s video on You Tube how she went into her lock box and found all James love letters and it reminded me of what I found.
My spath husband kept a big locked file cabinet. One day he left for a long weekend and I knew where he kept the key so I unlocked it and went snooping.
Inside he had a manilla file on every woman he had ever dated and inside each file was something that had belonged to that woman. I was freaked out about it. I can remember thinking this guy is like a serial killer he keeps trophies. To this day I am freaked out thinking there now is probably a file of me sitting in there. When I saw that it confirmed my suspicions of what he was.
Louise
Joanie123:
Interesting. Sounds like they do like to keep trophies. I wrote a letter to mine once and thought for sure it would have gone straight into the confidential waste bin at work, but he told me it was in his drawer. Now I believe him! I couldn’t imagine why he would want to keep something so personal that if found would have implicated him in an affair, but now I see it’s all about the possession.