If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.
1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.
2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.
3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends.
4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.
5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.
6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.
7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.
8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.
9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.
10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.
For more on this topic, see Donna Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.
hens
stargazer – when you was your poorest you put a trip to COSTA RICA on your credit card? star – if ones has a credit card they are not poor just in debt…..Now when you dont have a credit card or any cash where are you going to vacation?
Stargazer
Yes, and I don’t understand your question. I suppose if you don’t have a credit card, you can’t use it for a vacation or anything else. *scratches head*. My point was not saying everyone who is poor should go into debt or go on vacation. The point was that I was not thinking like a poor person. I thought about something I really wanted and made it happen, instead of focusing on all the negative stuff. I set aside my poverty mentality to do it. It was a very positive thing. It helped me to move forward in life.
hens
i didnt mean to offend or start a debate – i understand what you meant..good to see ya~!
Ana
Hens, you got yourself unsnared..loloololol this place is just crackin me up tonight!!
Stargazer
So what did you mean by your comment? *scratches head*
I will also add that it’s cheaper to take a two-week vacation in Costa Rica than it is to spend a few days in Las Vegas, all things considered.
ElizabethBennett
Candy-selling the car is not an option because I am employed by two nursing agencies and I have to drive an hour to and from work when they call me to take a shift, plus I’m upside down on the car and I would never get what I owe if I sold it. I was denied unemployment by my job and I am waiting for my hearing to go to court. I have plenty of evidence that supports that they were wrong for terminating me because I didn’t d ANYTHING wrong-it was retaliation for me making a complaint about workplace hostility. I should have close to 3000 coming to me from unemployment.
Ana
LOL…or a disney cruise!
hens
Oh Star – Poor, to me is no money to pay your credit card, so you loose your credit card. Only cash you have is change in a coffee can. No credit, no job, no money. That is the poorest I ever was. A trip to Costa Rica to change my perspective was not an option.
Stargazer
Hens, trust me when I say I’ve been there and much worse. you can’t imagine some of the things I’ve done to survive. So I don’t say stuff like that lightly. My point is that if you focus on poverty, guess what you will get more of? It really helps to have a vision of what you want if you actually want to get there some day. When you are living your life and not making it be about money, the money just comes. It’s strange how it works. At least it’s worked that way for me.
Back_from_the_edge
I came here to write something and completely forgot what it was that I was going to say. I got to re-reading this blog and all of the amazing ‘validation’ on this page and it made me forget what I was going to RUMINATE about; imagine that? 🙂
My field trip was a complete success.
Spent most of the day in Hollywood, with friends and family.
It was an outing none too soon to be forgotten, if ever. 🙂
I came here to say that we have been on a mystical journey that could have gone one of two ways for us. There is not a day goes by that I do not wake and “THANK GOD” for my life. While that may ‘sound’ like a nice ‘something’ to say, I would not say it if it were not absolutely TRUE.
There was a reason my life has been spared and only through the Good Graces of the Angels. I don’t know what that reason truly is anymore at this point and age in my life, with my medical condition, but I am pretty sure the reason is “ME”.
I have been freed to live what’s left in peace and quiet; sure, it hasn’t been easy breaking away from someone that I worshiped the ground they walked on….I can’t recall any other moment in my lifetime where my heart was so completely shattered.
BUT: (and notice it is a BIG BUT!) I am here to tell you, without any doubt, whatsoever, no contact is the only way to go. It will give you time to think and you will see the webs starting peeling away and you will become totally and completely shocked and mystified. Almost STUNNED. But don’t let that throw you off course. Get away from it and look at it. It looks a lot different when you are away from it. Spend more time concentrating on YOU and not all the negative thoughts always trying to slither into your head. GET THEM OUT OF THERE!
Spaths may threaten you and attempt things but they can’t do anything to you if YOU REFUSE TO PARTICIPATE.
If they continue to participate, they can be legally stopped; at least here, in the U.S.
Who was that, that said that, yesterday, or the day before…???? the same thing I just said. Whoever that was, (sorry, I can’t recall or remember), “THANKS” for saying that. That pretty much hits the nail right on the head.
I spent almost five years being completely tormented all because I was a nice compassionate person. Now, I don’t think I am whining when I say that I expect the same respect and courtesies as I give out. I don’t expect someone to be just oh so perfectly polite, 24/7, but my goodness gracious, when someone tries to kill you and then laughs in your face when confronted about it, that being their only response, suddenly, at once, it’s like being hit with a brick wall.
But, the good thing about brick walls is that they are easily removed with mostly team effort: one brick at a time. Slowly and methodically and the next thing you know: all the bricks are gone and the wall has been rebuilt. Comprende`? You FORGET the wall fell down in the first place, a few years on down the road.
Hope you guys are all doing well today.
I am jealous of you guys in Beautiful Australia…
What’s that about? How come I can’t be there on that Gold Coast doing a little scuba diving? 🙂
Mom: I am happy you have returned and I pray for you always. xxoo
Happy smiles to ya hens…TRY to behave and not microwave anymore phones, will ya? xxoo
More later – I am on a mission.
DUPED