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If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.

1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.

2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.

3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends.

4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.

5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.

6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.

7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.

8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.

9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.

10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.

For more on this topic, see Donna Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.

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  2. Ox Drover

    I notified Donna…I think it is best to not engage.

    Henry, I was NOT, I repeat, NOT calling you a meglamaniac or any other name. I am sorry if you thought I was…I admit the sentence is not clear about who I am calling a name. I was also joking about your “patent” and put them in the same sentence. Let me go back and re edit the post.

  4. Ox Drover

    Milo, DUCK egg at that! LOL Yep! for sure….now I need to go chop 2 pounds of onions for the egg and potato salad I made with two dozen eggs and 5 pounds of potatoes. LOL I found I CAN COOK on one leg by holding on to the counter. I was gonna make chili, but ended up making Taco soup as that is the FAVORITE of one of the guys….I try to “pet” my guys a bit by making their favorite dishes.

  5. MiLo

    Oxy ~ just got done making ox-tail soup ( at least 5 gallons) – I like to spoil my guys too. My adopted Amish sweetie, that runs our farm, said he ordered me some extra bones this time. When I asked why?, he just grinned.

    Baby goats were FINALLY born, coldest night of the year ofcourse. She did have 3, but only 2 lived. They look healthy though, we’ll see.

    Take care of your injury, we are not getting any younger.

    Sky ~ behave yourself.

  8. skylar

    Milo,
    I just googled Oxtail soup. It looks good. Is there something special about oxtails that makes this soup different from soup made with beef stew meat? Do you leave the bones in? Is there very much meat on the tail?

    oh, I just saw your post. Mrgreen is my spath alter ego.
    All the bad things I do, I blame on him.
    http://codex.wordpress.org/Using_Smilies

  9. Stargazer

    The uppers and lowers were the first giveaway for me. But then when I saw the website, that clinched it. Makes me glad that things didn’t work out with that one guy I really liked last summer. He told me he was bipolar and that when he was manic and off his meds, he had delusions of grandeur. I was thinking….how bad can that be? Now I see how bad it can be.

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