Archive for May, 2013

Watch Donna Andersen this weekend on Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry?

If you haven’t yet seen me in Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry?, this weekend the Investigation Discovery channel is running an “Update Edition” of the show. Correspondent Pat Lalama will recount what has happened to me since the show first aired. She will mention of and my new book, Red Flags of Love Fraud — 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.

Back in August 2010, my show, called Don Juan Down Under, was the premiere episode of Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry? It was the highest-rated premiere in the history of the Investigation Discovery network. Since then, I estimate that the show has been broadcast perhaps 50 times, all over the world. I … Read more

Critiquing expert views, part 2: Psychology Today blogger on psychopaths who care

Editor’s note: This is the second in a series of articles critiquing what mental health bloggers are saying about sociopaths/psychopaths. Here is the first article: “CNN blogger on Ariel Castro.”

The headline in a recent blog article on the Psychology Today website stopped me in my tracks:

Despite popular opinion, psychopaths can show they care

This article was written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., who is a professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Here is the first paragraph, with my comments in parentheses:

The quintessential psychopath shows callous disregard for others, a complete lack of empathy (although they are great at pretending to show empathy when it suits them), a glibness and superficial

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Mitchell J. Stein convicted in stock market fraud

Mitchell J. Stein, a lawyer from Boca Raton, Florida, was found guilty multi-million dollar stock market manipulation and fraud scheme. Lovefraud heard the news from a woman who was romantically involved with Stein—apparently one of a multitude of women Stein targeted.

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United States v. Mitchell J. Stein, on

Here’s the Lovefraud reader’s blog:

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Psychopaths everywhere?

I have heard it suggested that there may be those who “attract” psychopaths.  It does not matter what the relationship.  Some feel that there are people who are simply prone to involvement with individuals with psychopathic features.  Is this true?  Maybe.  Maybe not.

Why do they feel this way?

Talk to victims.  There are many who have been involved with psychopaths who feel that they are “everywhere.”  The same story keeps happening over and over.  It’s like Ground Hog Day or Fifty First Dates.  Perhaps these victims have had several romantic experiences with psychopaths.  Perhaps they feel many of their family members are psychopaths.  Others report experiencing a variety of different encounters in various areas of life.… Read more

Critiquing expert views on sociopaths, part 1: CNN blogger on Ariel Castro

People who have committed horrific acts have been in the news a lot recently. Prime examples are Ariel Castro, accused of holding three women captive for 10 years in Cleveland, Ohio, and Jodi Arias, convicted of viciously murdering her ex-boyfriend in Mesa, Arizona.

Who is so heartless and cruel that they can engage in these terrible behaviors? The answer is probably that the perpetrators are personality disordered. So various mental health experts have been writing blog articles on the cases and personality disorders, which Lovefraud readers have been forwarding to me.

Some of the statements made in the articles I agree with, and some I don’t. So I’m going to write a series of critiques of the articles. … Read more

Sociopaths, crying, sex and cooking

Lovefraud recently received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call “Judith.” She asked questions that many readers may wonder about, so I’ll answer them in this post.

Sociopaths do not feel emotions, empathy or cry – Yes, he did play the ‘cry game’ when I would tell him the relationship was ‘over’ (which I did a few times) or want to walk out of his door.

Q1. He used to cry incessantly for his parents/grandparents who love him a lot, and feeling homesick (staying alone). Or cry that I was not with him in the same place and how much he misses me (online chat). He would mostly be drinking when he cries like a river.

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New York EMT charged in wife’s fiery death

Paul Attila Novak, formerly an emergency medical technician in New York City, has been charged in the 2008 death of his wife, Catherine Novak, who was burned beyond recognition when a massive fire consumed her home. Paul Novak then collected $800,000 in insurance money and moved to Florida with his girlfriend.

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Conflict of interest in Connecticut family court

Last week Anne Stevenson, a Lovefraud reader, contributed and article to the Washington Times outlining a web of  improper relationships among judges and family court service providers in Connecticut.

CT court employees face tough questions over conflicts of interest in

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African scammers target elderly Australian women

Police stopped a woman, 73, from boarding a plane to Africa to meet a man who claimed to love her. Another woman, Jette Jacobs, 67, had sent $200,000 to her love interest, “Jesse Omokoh.” She was found dead in Johannesburg.

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What we should do when sociopaths experience no consequences

Lovefraud recently received the following email from a reader who posts as “Salvation2012.”

Thank you for helping me decide when I needed to cut my losses during my divorce. I did cut my “losses,” yet the total I received tallied up to a number similar, just not in all cash. Because I settled in his eyes, he told everyone I was just proving how I was the guilty one and didn’t want to risk being exposed. To the end he will deny permanently injuring me and bleeding me of money, and cheating on me (which I only later found out about the extent).

My recent concern is watching him seemingly have no consequences. I’m not a vengeful person,

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