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Archive for December, 2013

Father, Dmitriy Kanarikov, throws his 3 year-old son, Kirill, off roof of Manhattan high-rise then jumps to his death

Separated parents Dmitriy and Svetlana Kanarikov had an agreed-upon visitation schedule for father Dmitriy to spend time with his 3-year-old son, Kirill. The visits seemed to go well until Dmitriy tossed his son off a high rise building and then jumped to his death as well.

The couple had separated in August, when Dmitriy had turned violent toward Svetlana. Dmitriy had threatened  his estranged wife, telling her “he would take the child away” and “she would ”˜shoot (herself) from grief,’” Svetlana Kanarikov revealed. Svetlana believed this was Dmitriy’s “sick way” of following through on that threat.

Lessons from Sandy Hook: Disturbed people live among us

On Friday, the Connecticut State Police released documents related to the investigation into last year’s terrible school shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut.

We know the broad strokes of what happened on Dec. 14, 2012: Adam Lanza, age 20, shot and killed his mother, Nancy Lanza, in the home that they shared. Then he went to the nearby Sandy Hook Elementary School and killed 20 first-graders and six adults.

Released were thousands of documents, photos, audio recordings and videos. I downloaded one section of the report and opened some of the documents. One that was particularly chilling was the report of Newtown Police Lieutenant Christopher Vanghele, who was one of the first officers on the scene. My stomach was in knots as I read it.

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Advice for relatives of elder abuse victims hooked by sociopaths

Editor’s note: The following letter was received from a Lovefraud reader.

Many years ago my wealthy (and elderly) widower father entered into a relationship with a sociopathic woman. She is very charming and beautiful. This was marriage number four for her. Her last marriage had been completely predatory.

My father’s health is good, his mind is sharp but his memory is failing. The more his memory fails, the more his wife isolates him. She does this in brazen and cruel ways too numerous to write about here in this short note. She also encouraged him to drink alcohol and take potent sleeping pills. He was hospitalized several times for overdose. My father has a substantial estate and it was clear that she wanted to clean him out.

Man pleads not guilty to assaulting teens; says he couldn’t swim in Rapid River Ride

Mohammad Salem Nazari, 33, from Afghanistan, was arrested for indecently assaulting seven teenage girls on the Rapid River Ride at Sydney Olympic Park Aquatic Centre in Australia.

Nazari pleaded not guilty, claiming he couldn’t swim in the whirlpool current that placed him in the middle of the 14- to 18-year-olds.

Police said Nazari showed no remorse and the girls were traumatized by the alleged assaults.

Dog-paddle swim sex defence: Afghan asylum seeker Mohammad Salem Nazari says alleged assaults on teen girls were accidents, from The Telegraph News.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.

 

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: An intense relationship, until he threw me back

Editor’s note: This letter was sent in by Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Renata.”

I know, as far as abuse stories go, this isn’t a doozy. I’m sure other women and men have gone through far worse. And that is precisely why I want to share my story, because, even though this guy isn’t a major abuser, he’s a manipulative, conniving and voracious predator.

Cautionary ‘catfish’ tale about online romance and revenge

Brian Hile, 29, of Fremont, Michigan thought he had a two-year, on-line relationship with a beautiful girl from San Diego, California named Tiffany Watkins. He actually fell in love with a gay guy in South Africa who had stolen photos of  Watkins off the internet and pretended to be her.

Once Hile found out he had been “catfished,” he wanted revenge. Even though Watkins was unaware that her images had be stolen, and knew nothing of Hile, she and her boyfriend were listed on Hile’s “to do” list as targets to kill. When Hile boarded a bus to California with revenge on his mind, family members got concerned and called authorities. Hile was intercepted a mile from Watkin’s home and arrested. He was sentenced to five years in prison.

Rock star sentenced to 35 years for sex offenses that break new ground of shock, revulsion and incredulity

Ian Watkins, a 36-year-old singer for the band the Lostprophets, was sentenced, along with two women, for child sex offenses. The two women were the mothers of the children who were sexually abused.

During sentencing,  Justice Royce said: “Those who have appeared in these courts over many years, see here, a large number of horrific cases.

“This case breaks new ground. Any decent person ”¦ will experience shock, revulsion and incredulity.”

Lostprophets’ Ian Watkins sentenced to 35 years over child sex offences, from BBC News, Wales.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.




						

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all Lovefraud readers!

This is the season of renewal. No matter what has happened in the past year, or past many years, this is the time to look to the future.

The future can be better. Believe in yourself, and you’ll find a way.

During this special season, my husband and I wish the best for all Lovefraud readers. We hope you find health, happiness and peace.

Merry Christmas!

Love and appreciation to all,

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly

 

Recover from the sociopath by experiencing beauty

Donna Andersen at Longwood Gardens
Donna Andersen at Longwood Gardens

What, you’re probably wondering, is that pattern behind me? The gigantic, voluptuous red curves on a field of green?

They’re apples. Thousands of red and green apples. The apples are floating in a few inches of water on the floor of the indoor conservatory of Longwood Gardens.

The display is breathtaking. It is beauty for the sake of beauty. And it is incredibly healing.

Terry and I recently treated ourselves to a couple of days off.  We took a trip not far and one of the places we visited was Longwood Gardens.

Sandusky case: What did officials know?

Jerry Sandusky, former assistant football coach at Penn State University, is in prison, convicting of sexually molesting multiple boys. But three former Penn State officials, President Graham Spanier, Vice President Gary Schultz and Athletic Director Tim Curley, all face charges of covering up evidence and child endangerment.

A key issue in the trial will be the role of Cynthia Baldwin, Penn State’s general counsel. The following article is about her grand jury testimony, in which she describes her perception of how Spanier handled the issue. It isn’t pretty. Spanier’s attorney, however, disputes her story.

How lawyer went from adviser to witness against Spanier, on Philly.com.

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