How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

Some Sociopath Tools–Isolation And Intermittent Reinforcement–They Keep You Hangin’ On

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By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 19: Of Social Isolation, Pigeons And Food Pellets, Slot Machines, And Intermittent Reinforcement Isolating a woman is a classic strategy that physically and emotionally abusive men use to make her easier to control. It is a red flag that should never be ignored. My move to Minneapolis to be with Paul, distancing me from family and friends back East, was an ideal …

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Former Penn State assistant coach Jerry Sandusky denies assaulting boys, wants new trial

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Four years ago, Jerry Sandusky, former assistant coach of the vaunted Penn State football team, was convicted of 45 counts of sexual abuse towards boys. Now, claiming that he never had sex with boys and that his lawyer did a terrible job of representing him, Sandusky wants a new trial. 'I was naive': Jerry Sandusky blames his conviction on 'chaotic' defense, on PennLive.com. In the meantime, another former Penn State assistant coach, Mike McQueary, has filed a whistleblower lawsuit against the university. He says he was wrongfully terminated after reporting that he saw Jerry Sandusky in the shower with a boy. Former Penn State coach Mike McQueary's whistleblower trial date set, on …

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Donald Trump, Hillary (and Bill) Clinton – narcissists with psychopathic features

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I am truly depressed about the upcoming presidential election. Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton (and Bill Clinton, who comes with Hillary) have serious character flaws that I believe make them unfit to be president of the United States. The talking heads on TV have been practically foaming at the mouth as they disparage whichever candidate they don't support. Unfortunately, they have plenty of legitimate material to work with. Just when you think Donald Trump can't say anything more incendiary, he does. And just when one Clinton scandal dies down, another one surfaces. I don't personally know any of the candidates. But some people who do know them have written tell-all articles and books …

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We lost our daughter to a mind-controlling Internet predator

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Though I am one parent, I am easily the voice of all the parents and families who are living with the horrors of Internet luring of our innocent children for the purpose of human trafficking. The issue is real and our painful journey through this with our only daughter has clearly heightened our awareness of what we have been told is the newest form of “cult like” persuasive coercion, luring, grooming and human trafficking which began with a deliberate and meticulous indoctrination into the world of pornography through an online video game. Our lives have been forever changed. As with anything that can be beneficial, the Internet can also be dangerous. The Internet is the key that opens …

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Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back

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Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back strategies from a woman who's done it Presented by Vicki Kuper Monday, August 29, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. Eastern More info Someone won't leave you alone. This person follows you, calls or texts constantly, shows up at your home or workplace, sends you unwanted gifts, or threatens you. As a result, you feel vulnerable, unsafe, anxious, stressed and afraid. You are being stalked. Vicki Kuper knows exactly what you're going through. She lived it. The man who stalked her called her 1,200 times in one month. That's an average of 400 times per day. Authorities issued a No Contact order but the man …

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Entice, Erode, Control–Just Some Ways Sociopaths Use “Love”

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By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 18: Of Economics 101 And Frogs In Hot Water You need not have studied economics to know that scarcity drives up value. A sip of water for someone parched in the desert is immensely more valuable than the same sip of water at the end of a meal at a white tablecloth restaurant where an attentive waiter refills your glass constantly. Is love any different? A single …

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Silicon Valley tech millionaire’s history of beating women may finally catch up with him

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Three years ago, Gurbaksh Chahal punched and kicked his girlfriend 117 times in 30 minutes. It was all recorded on the surveillance camera in his penthouse bedroom. He was charged with 47 felony counts. Chahal had built and sold multiple Internet start-up companies for hundreds of millions of dollars. All his money apparently bought him a get out of jail free card. His girlfriend refused to testify and the video was ruled inadmissible. Chahal's crimes were reduced to two misdemeanors. He got probation, 25 hours of community service, and a $500 fine. Then in September 2014, he did it again. This time, he may go to jail. Read this unbelievable story: Video of Silicon Valley mogul kicking …

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When we stop wishing the past were different, we can recover from destructive relationships

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Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar: The Miracle in The Madness —Pathway to healing from destructive relationships Presented by Travis F. Vining Thursday, Sept. 8, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. ET More info By Travis F. Vining It may sound silly, or even impossible to some who read this, but all we need to change the misery in our lives from pain to joy is a simple realignment of our perspective. Experience reveals the truth in this statement, but unfortunately, the process that facilitates this shift from misery to miracle is one of the most widely misunderstood concepts in the world ”¦ forgiveness. Not only is forgiveness commonly misunderstood, but in some cases, it is intensely disliked and …

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7 reasons not to seek closure from a sociopath

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Relationships with sociopaths are intense. In fact, they are intentionally intense the sociopath demands your attention, showers you with affection, and proclaims everlasting love quickly. What's the rush? They want to hook you before you escape. All their moves are intentional. You, of course, don't know this. You believe that the sociopaths are in hot pursuit because they are smitten and can't live without you. The two of you are, as they swear, soul mates. Then, either suddenly or slowly, the relationship is over. Huh? What happened? How could this person who painted a glistening picture of your future together just turn and walk away without looking back? You want to …

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Tina Swithin, author of ‘Divorcing a Narcissist’ to explain what they’re talking about

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Divorcing a narcissist is my superpower — what is yours?  By Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com and Divorcing a Narcissist In 2009, I discovered that there is only one thing worse than being married to a narcissist and that is divorcing a narcissist. Being someone who cringes at the mere thought of conflict, I was not prepared for the onslaught of attacks, lies and character assassinations that were launched at me. Even though I had been told by a therapist that my ex-husband was a “narcissist,” I had no idea that the horrific attacks were to be expected while going through a divorce with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Email, text messages and the …

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