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Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back

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Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back strategies from a woman who's done it Presented by Vicki Kuper Monday, August 29, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. Eastern More info Someone won't leave you alone. This person follows you, calls or texts constantly, shows up at your home or workplace, sends you unwanted gifts, or threatens you. As a result, you feel vulnerable, unsafe, anxious, stressed and afraid. You are being stalked. Vicki Kuper knows exactly what you're going through. She lived it. The man who stalked her called her 1,200 times in one month. That's an average of 400 times per day. Authorities issued a No Contact order but the man w …

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Entice, Erode, Control–Just Some Ways Sociopaths Use “Love”

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By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 18: Of Economics 101 And Frogs In Hot Water You need not have studied economics to know that scarcity drives up value. A sip of water for someone parched in the desert is immensely more valuable than the same sip of water at the end of a meal at a white tablecloth restaurant where an attentive waiter refills your glass constantly. Is love any different? A single g …

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When we stop wishing the past were different, we can recover from destructive relationships

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Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar: The Miracle in The Madness —Pathway to healing from destructive relationships Presented by Travis F. Vining Thursday, Sept. 8, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. ET More info By Travis F. Vining It may sound silly, or even impossible to some who read this, but all we need to change the misery in our lives from pain to joy is a simple realignment of our perspective. Experience reveals the truth in this statement, but unfortunately, the process that facilitates this shift from misery to miracle is one of the most widely misunderstood concepts in the world ”¦ forgiveness. Not only is forgiveness commonly misunderstood, but in some cases, it is intensely disliked and invok …

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7 reasons not to seek closure from a sociopath

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Relationships with sociopaths are intense. In fact, they are intentionally intense the sociopath demands your attention, showers you with affection, and proclaims everlasting love quickly. What's the rush? They want to hook you before you escape. All their moves are intentional. You, of course, don't know this. You believe that the sociopaths are in hot pursuit because they are smitten and can't live without you. The two of you are, as they swear, soul mates. Then, either suddenly or slowly, the relationship is over. Huh? What happened? How could this person who painted a glistening picture of your future together just turn and walk away without looking back? You want to …

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Tina Swithin, author of ‘Divorcing a Narcissist’ to explain what they’re talking about

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Divorcing a narcissist is my superpower — what is yours?  By Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com and Divorcing a Narcissist In 2009, I discovered that there is only one thing worse than being married to a narcissist and that is divorcing a narcissist. Being someone who cringes at the mere thought of conflict, I was not prepared for the onslaught of attacks, lies and character assassinations that were launched at me. Even though I had been told by a therapist that my ex-husband was a “narcissist,” I had no idea that the horrific attacks were to be expected while going through a divorce with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Email, text messages and the teleph …

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I was desperate for closure, revenge and for the truth to get out

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Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as, "lucky2Bfree." Donna, We spoke a while ago and it really did help me, it was good to speak to somebody who genuinely understood how I felt and also get some perspective on the situation. To recap, my fiancé borrowed a lot of money for me and told me stories which I now know to be false.  We were living together in the United States, but when I returned to my native country to nurse my terminally ill mother he told me he needed to leave America and wanted to join me. He borrowed more money, told me he was falsely arrested and needed me to pay the bail bond but suddenly went quiet, leading me to believe something awful had hap …

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He’s Not Depressed, Anxious, or Sleep Deprived–He’s a Sociopath!

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By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 17 : The Twilight Zone With my biological clock ticking loudly, once we had been at our new jobs for eighteen months, Paul and I decided it was time to have children. After just two months of trying, the pregnancy test registered positive. I danced around our house. At last, I was going to be a mother! Oddly, Paul showed little interest in our developing child. H …

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Travis Vining, son of a serial killer, talks about healing from destructive relationships

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We try to ignore the agony of betrayal, hoping it will go away. Paradoxically, says Travis Vining, author of Transforming Darkness to Light for Giving, it's not in spite of our difficulties that we find freedom, but because of them. Travis Vining will be presenting a Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar  called, The Miracle in the Madness - the pathway to healing from destructive relationships. He will explain how to gently, courageously, overcome the pain of betrayal by a sociopath. Travis' goal is to offer the example of his personal experience to reveal exactly how to apply these spiritual principles to our own lives. The underlying purpose is not to convince the participant that cer …

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10 reasons to roll your eyes at sociopaths

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  Everything sociopaths say is for effect. They are not capable of honest communication every statement has an agenda. If you have a sociopath in your life, your objective is to get to the point that you simply do not take them seriously. When they are making promises, don't hope that this time they'll really come through. Your reaction should be, "Yeah, right." When you hear any of these statements, the best thing you can do is roll your eyes: I love you Impossible sociopaths are not capable of love I'll never do it again Yes, they will although it may take a while. Sociopaths can control their behavior, so if they need to walk the straight and narrow …

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