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Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW offers FREE online chat room Jan 15th

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group.  Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online live chat support group next Sunday night, Jan. 15th, 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  

Here’s how to join:

At 8 pm come to the site and scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the green highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.  When the chat room is not open that link will take you to a page with info on the next group.  Hope to see you there!

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For the holidays, give yourself the gift of honoring your experience

christmas_gift_300x200How do you get through the season of joy and hope when a lying, destructive, individual has wreaked havoc in your life?

First, be gentle with yourself. You are a normal, caring, person. Perhaps you wanted to love and be loved, as all normal people do. Perhaps you felt sorry for the individual and wanted to help. Your intentions were honorable, but the exploiter took advantage of your humanity.

Second, honor your experience. What does that mean? It means accepting that it happened. Much of the pain and confusion of tangling with a sociopath comes from not wanting to believe that these individuals are what they are, and they do what they do. Accepting that yes, they exist, and yes, you were targeted, sets the stage for moving forward.

Divorcing a Narcissist: Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com, offers “Advice from the Battlefield”

If you married someone whom you now believe is a narcissist, and you are divorcing, know this: You are headed for a really rough ride, especially if you have children with this person.

Tina Swithin, founder of OneMomsBattle.com and author of the Divorcing a Narcissist series, has been there. She endured her ex-husband’s smear campaign, court officials who didn’t understand personality disorders, and two custody evaluations. It took years, but she finally succeeded protecting her children and is living in peace. Now, she coaches men and women who are facing their own divorces and custody battles with narcissists.


Professor who murdered his wife asks for money to start over, but maybe he shouldn’t have

Rafael Robb was convicted of murdering his wife (AP).

Rafael Robb was convicted of murdering his wife (AP).

Ten years ago, on Dec. 22, 2006, Rafael Robb, of King of Prussia, Pennsylvania, bludgeoned his wife, Ellen Gregory Robb, to death as she wrapped Christmas presents. He pleaded guilty and was sentenced to 10 years in prison.

Robb, a former University of Pennsylvania economics professor and an expert in game theory, was supposed to be released in January. A civil suit awarded $124.26 million to the couple’s daughter, who was 12 when her mother was killed.

After 10 years of abuse, New Jersey woman is found dead; police search for her husband

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Jeremiah Monell is wanted for allegedly killing his wife.

State Police are searching for Jeremiah Monell, 32, of Commercial Township in southern New Jersey, who allegedly killed his wife.

Tara O’Shea-Watson, 35, endured 10 years of beatings and abuse, friends and relatives say in an article in the Press of Atlantic City.

Monell would “freak out” on his wife if she talked to family members, the victim’s friend said. Over the past few months, according to the friend, O’Shea-Watson finally decided to enforce a restraining order and filed for divorce.

She was found unconscious and unresponsive in her home Monday morning.

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Husband takes his new wife shopping on their honeymoon, buys her expensive gifts, and then she asks for divorce

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from an American man, whom we’ll call “Brad.” He met a Moroccan woman who lived in the U.K. We’ll call her “Fatima.”

Fatima and I had unforgettable memories, which would be the base of any marriage. We laughed, we joked, we traveled, we spent so much time together.

I took her with me to Morocco with our group going to Casablanca because I really liked her and wanted to spend time with her. We enjoyed lots of moments together, and she helped me with business, religion, and talked about all areas of life with me.

Steven Dean Gordon, already a sex offender, guilty of murdering 4 women while wearing a GPS tracker

 

Stephen Dean Gordon, 45 (left) and Franc Cano, 27

Stephen Dean Gordon, 45 (left) and Franc Cano, 27

Prosecutors in Orange County, California, started calling him “Jaws” because he was such a vicious predator. Last week, Steven Dean Gordon, 47, was convicted of abducting and killing four random women in Santa Ana, between 2013 and 2014.

Gordon was already a convicted sex offender. His partner in crime, Franc Cano, was also a sex offender. Cano will be tried separately.

Both men were under supervision after being convicted in separate cases of lewd and lascivious acts with a child under 14.

How psychopaths use our biology against us

Invariably, once we realize we’ve been conned by a psychopath, this person has lied to us from the very beginning, and we fell for all of it, we ask why? Why did we believe? Why did we trust?

The short answer is that we did what we, as social animals, are biologically designed to do. Human beings have evolved over millennia to live in community, and trust is the glue that holds us together.

I read The Moral Molecule the source of love and prosperity, by Paul J. Zak. Zak spent 10 years researching a brain chemical called oxytocin and its role in human behavior. He says oxytocin inspires trust; trust is connected to morality; and morality is connected to the survival of the human race.

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Derek Alldred scams eight women of hundreds of thousands of dollars and skips sentencing hearing

Derek Alldred as a fake Navy SEAL

Derek Alldred as a fake Navy SEAL

Derek Alldred, a con artist who claimed to be everything from a doctor to a Navy SEAL to an investment banker for the Royal Bank of Scotland, has scammed at least eight women out of hundreds of thousands of dollars.

His most recent victim,  a woman from Arizona, met Alldred on a dating site. Alldred stole her jewelry and pawned it, then pleaded no contest to the crime.

Alldred pleaded no contest to theft charges and was supposed to be sentenced on December 13 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. He never showed up for the hearing, and his victims fear that Alldred will just find more targets.

Announcing Lovefraud’s winter 2017 continuing education programs for therapists

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Click to download a PDF of the Lovefraud Continuing Education brochure.

Psychologists and social workers: Learn to better help your clients, and earn continuing education credits, with these insightful webinars from Lovefraud Continuing Education.

Upcoming online webinars

Click the links for more information on each course. You can also download a PDF of the Lovefraud Continuing Education Winter 2017 brochure.

Helping Lesbians Leave Crazy-making Relationships: Addressing barriers to treatment and delivering effective support
Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW
Jan. 19, 12-2 pm ET
2 credit hours Ӣ $49
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