Archive for March, 2017

New Lovefraud CE education site coming soon!

Middle-aged thoughtful woman using laptop at homeBig changes are coming for Lovefraud Continuing Education. We’re in the process of moving to a new course delivery platform, one that will be much easier to navigate and offer more advanced features.

Browsing and registering for courses will be much easier. And, every course will include a forum. You’ll be able to discuss the information and ask questions of the instructor and other learners, during the course and afterwards.

The new platform is extremely flexible and robust. Lovefraud instructors will be able to design just about any format we can think of, so we’ll be able to offer you information in a variety of formats.

Our original Lovefraud CE platform will shut down as of tomorrow, and … Read more

Study says kids do better with fathers in the home – but doesn’t mention sociopathic fathers

Boy crying while sitting on the stairsResearchers at the London School of Economics say that children born to a single mother have better health, intelligence and social skills when their biological father lives with them.

Kids fare no better if a stepfather joins the family than they would if their mother stayed alone.

Many studies claim to “prove” that kids are better off when they live with both their mother and father. Unfortunately, these studies rarely determine if the father is disordered.

As Dr. Liane Leedom explains, living with a disordered parent is not good for kids at all. In fact, these kids can be seriously damaged.

But because of the cultural belief that “all kids should have two parents,” many well-meaning parents try … Read more

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Teacher Tad Cummins, 50, allegedly romances and abducts his student, 15

Tad Cummins is accused of kidnapping his student.

Tad Cummins is accused of kidnapping his student.

Tennessee authorities are searching for Elizabeth Thomas, 15, who they believed was kidnapped by her teacher, Tad Cummins, 50, on March 13.

Brent Cooper, district attorney for Maury County, Tennessee, says the two exchanged “romantic” and “troubling” emails.

The Thomas family attorney, Jason Whitley, said Elizabeth “is under his spell, and she is being controlled by him,” according to ABC News.

Authorities also said Cummings was researching “teen marriage” shortly before the two of them disappeared.

Teacher visited teen’s workplace days before alleged kid napping, sister says, on



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Game theory and the sociopath

Man Behind Bars

Shock. Total disbelief. Utter incomprehension. That’s what we feel upon finally realizing that when the sociopath cheated on us, blew through our money, twisted our emotions and messed with our minds, to him or her it was all just a sick, depraved game.

Sociopaths do not form emotional connections with other human beings. They do not experience love. They do not feel honor, altruism or concern for others. The words they speak and the actions they take have only one objective: getting what they want. To them, life is a game, and they want to win.

Game theory is a field of study that, according to Wikipedia, “attempts to mathematically capture behavior in strategic situations, in which an … Read more

Making meaning of your betrayal by a sociopath

Woman with arms raised at sunset on the beachWhen we realize that we’ve been involved with a sociopath, and that person has callously betrayed us, we inevitably ask, “Why? Why did this happen to me?”

To help find the answer, one of the books that Lovefraud recommends is The Betrayal Bond—Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships, by Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. The book explains the deep psychological wounds caused by trauma, and offers a way for us to identify and overcome abusive relationships that we may have experienced.

When I read the book, I was struck by what Carnes wrote on page 68:

My experience with survivors of trauma is that every journey of recovery depends on the survivor coming to a point where all that person

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If you don’t know about sociopaths, it’s easy to make bad decisions–very bad decisions

Husband Liar Sociopath

Chapter 42: Writer’s Block

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

For a month, my work on this book stalled at this juncture. Yes, I had been distracted by the upcoming holidays, “life,” and Paul’s continual efforts to hurt me emotionally and drain my remaining assets through ongoing post-divorce litigation. I could also use the excuse that a seemingly inconsequential event that was a metaphor for my years with Paul … Read more

Texas woman discovers her fiance is a con man and calls off wedding

Brett Joseph and Stephanie Hoskins

Brett Joseph and Stephanie Hoskins

Stephanie Hoskins, 23, was set to marry Brett Goodman, a wealthy oil worker from Australia, on March 31. Luckily, before she tied the knot, she discovered her fiancé was not who he claimed to be.

His real name is Brett Joseph, he’s an unemployed con man and love rat who defrauded dozens of women back in Australia.

Stephanie cancelled the wedding.

Texas woman calls off her wedding after discovering her fiancé is a Tinder love rat accused of defrauding dozens of women overseas, on… Read more

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AP reveals alleged physical and emotional abuse in World of Faith Fellowship


Cult turn right

(Photo by Kevin Dooley)

The Associated Press recently published an expose in which 43 former congregants of the World of Faith Fellowship religious sect, based in Spinsdale, North Carolina, claimed they were physically and emotionally abused in the church.

They were “regularly punched, smacked, choked, slammed to the floor or thrown through walls in a violent form of deliverance meant to ‘purify’ sinners by beating out devils,” AP wrote.

Two assistant prosecutors in North Carolina, who were ministers of the church, have been charged with sabotaging investigations into the secretive sect. They allegedly provided legal advice and participated in a mock trial for four congregants who were charged with harassing a former member.

AP Exclusive: Ex-congregants reveal Read more

How to attract a new relationship after the sociopath

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly at Longwood Gardens in February, 2017.

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly at Longwood Gardens in February, 2017.

Lovefraud recently received the following e-mail from a reader:

I have a question for you. I’ve been divorced for 3 years now from my ex-husband who had a porn addiction. I’ve tried the Internet dating sites on and off since, and have had nothing but bad experiences. What do you suggest I do/ how do I go about finding someone? I am really lonely and would like to have a man in my life. However, I’m so afraid of attracting the wrong kind still. If you have any suggestions, I’d be happy to hear them.

If you’ve had a run-in with a sociopath, before attempting to date … Read more

Documentary producer Vivian McGrath reveals her abusive first marriage

Vivien Mcgrath

Vivian McGrath

When Vivian McGrath was an 18-year-old actress, she met a man at a party who swept her off her feet. He was handsome, intense and oozed sexual chemistry. They talked for hours. Vivian was already hooked.

She tells her story in her first-person article published in the Daily Mail. It sounds like all of the stories published on Lovefraud.

When Vivian was seven months pregnant with their child, her husband strangled her, and almost killed her. Yet when the baby was born, Vivian allowed him back into her life. Every child needs a father, right? He promised to change.

Well, we all know how that went.

After a few more years, Vivian left him for good. … Read more

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