I want you to have a wonderful life. I want you to overcome whatever you’ve been through and dismantle any roadblocks to your heart’s desire. How, exactly do you do this? The surprising first step of healing is accepting exactly what is. Now, this DOES NOT mean that whatever you’ve been through is acceptable — especially if you’ve been deceived and betrayed by a sociopath (narcissist, psychopath). Evil is never acceptable. It DOES MEAN accepting that what happened did indeed happen: The normal human response to the disappointments and tragedies of life is resistance. But, as the saying goes, “What resists, persists.” The longer we dwell on resistance to the reality …
A sociopath claims, ‘We are evolution’s next step’
UPDATED FOR 2026. Do sociopaths know what they are? Many, many Lovefraud readers ask me this question. The short answer is that some of them do and some of them don't. The man who sent me the following email certainly has insight into his own personality: I would like to thank you for making your videos they have given me an insight into how you people recognize us. WE are not to blame for your short comings because you are weak minded and foolish enough to be taken advantage of. We are evolutions next step we don't allow silly emotions to cloud our judgments. In fact we use our advantage for survival because we are natures next course. I know I sound very narcissistic and apologize …
The pain of family estrangement
Editor’s note: The Lovefraud author Eleanor Cowan wants to educate survivors of narcissistic abuse into recognizing how their own actions may contribute to their misery. This is the fourth article in her collection of true stories called, “Impactful Stories for Stubborn Codependents,” and highlights the pain of family estrangement. Eleanor’s biographical book is called, “A History of a Pedophile’s Wife.” Ending the Long Game By Eleanor Cowan Sori answered the call on a sunny summer day, steps away from reaching the summit of Mount Royal. “Hey, Mom. How would you like to fly in and look after your fabulous grandkids while Heidi and I do a business trip for ten days?” “I’d adore …