If There’s a Way into This Mess, There’s a Way Out

Oh, no! How did I get into this? How did this happen? My life was ticking along just fine – or maybe not all that fine, but it wasn’t like this! It’s a disaster!

Does this sound familiar? I’m sure we’ve all been there. Especially if we’ve been involved with a sociopath. Perhaps that’s where you are right now. And if you are, the good news is that if you got into a mess, you can get out of it, too.

Okay, it’s true, there may be some aspects of your situation that you cannot change. If, for example, you’re sitting in a car that you just wrapped around an enormous tree a moment ago, you can’t rewind about ten seconds and take it all back. After all, life isn’t like one big shoelace that you can just undo whenever you want.

Whatever’s going on, you’re all tied up in knots and you don’t know where to begin to undo them.

First of all, just for a moment, forget where you are. Forget the fact that you’re seriously in the soup and just look ahead. Never mind what’s wrong just now; what do you want to be right? Come on, push aside all the bits that are upsetting, distressing, disturbing, or fill-in-the-blank. Yes, you can.  You are in control of your thoughts. You get to choose what goes on in your head. Your life or the situation may feel out of control at the moment but it’s temporary. The only constant is change, so hold onto that knowledge and begin by changing your thoughts.

Set all your worries to one side for a moment. Forget where you are, and see where you want to be. Just close your eyes and focus on what you want. Do not think about how you want this or that to stop, because then you’re still focusing on what you don’t want. Be very clear about this. Focus on what you do want.

This is an extremely important difference and it is vital to your ending up where you want to be, and as quickly as possible. Firstly, it’s because positive thoughts produce hundreds of times more energy than negative ones, which will make you feel better and get you moving again. Secondly, it’s because the Law of Attraction is at work all the time, whether you’re thinking about it or not. So if you focus on what you don’t want, you’ll only attract more of it.

Now, if you’re really struggling at the moment, I know how hard it is to try to plaster on a fake smile and tell yourself (and the Universe), “My life is fabulous!!!” It feels like a big fat lie and unless you can believe what you’re saying, the Law of Attraction won’t work.

So here’s what I always tell my clients: Start with a progressive statement. Something that begins to shift the energy from where you are to where you want to be. For example, “I’m open to my life getting better every day.” Or “I’m willing to believe my life can improve.”

Can you feel the positive shift in those statements? It’s just like opening the door a crack to let in the light. It allows your mind to begin to accept more positive statements about your current situation and the future you want to create.

Once you’ve got the hang of it, it becomes quite simple to flip negative thoughts into positive ones. Then hold the vision. See what you want to create. As you’re looking to the future and seeing where you want to be, don’t be thinking, “Thank heaven this situation is over!” – because then you’re still focusing on “this situation!”

To demonstrate my point, if you’re rushing to get to an important appointment and you’re worried that you’re going to be late, don’t be thinking “I don’t want to be late!” – because then you’re still focusing on being late and you’re more likely to trip yourself up with little things that do, in fact, delay you to the point of being late. Instead, think about everything going smoothly so that you arrive on time.

Every time you think of what’s wrong, change that feeling, that thought, and that image into the vision of what you want and hold onto it for a few moments. Not only will it lift your spirits, it will also keep you focused, feeling positive and moving forward.

As for more immediate help with “how to get out of this,” find one thing you can do today to take a step toward the way out. Perhaps you’ve been so distracted by the problem(s), your house is a bit of a disaster or there’s a ton of filing or unopened mail waiting for you. Pick just one thing you think you can do today and do it. Make a dent in that mountain of laundry. Tidy up one room. Brush your hair. Something. Anything. Just do one thing that begins to move you toward where you want to be. 

Do at least one of those “somethings” every day. If you can do more than one, go for it. That’s great! Every one of them will just make you feel better and give you energy. And you know why? Because you’ll be taking control of your life again.

The more you feel like you’re in the driver’s seat, the more you’ll look through the windscreen and see that vision for your future. Each time you see it, it’s not going to seem so far off in the distance. Each time you see it, that vision will become a little clearer. And that will only make it easier for you to know exactly which roads to take and where you need to turn in order to get there.

You might well be in a really enormous mess just now. But you can unwrap the car from that massive tree trunk. You can get the front end repaired or rebuilt. The tree will heal – and so will you.

Yeah, you got yourself into this. But you can put yourself back behind the wheel and get out of it, too – one mile at a time.

Just see where you want to be. Then hold that vision…

This article was originally published at LibertyForrest.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.