Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call, “Laurie22.” She wrote about marrying a sociopath who documented his abuse. Names are changed.
I met Eddie during the pandemic. We had the most romantic socially distanced first date. As a cancer patient and survivor and single parent, I thought I hit my jackpot. I had waited so long and he wasn’t the typical guy I dated. Icy blue eyes. Short. Balding. But I thought that love meant that you looked inward. And I fell in love with him deeply.
We got married December 31, 2020 at a celebrity mansion. Within 72 hours of our marriage, we had an affidavit from his ex-wife (divorced 2 years) claiming abuse. He promised like everything else that it was just lies.
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We were in and out of court for months. I stood by him because I couldn’t imagine him hurting anyone. By summer, he was having outbursts.
The abuse starts
In the fall I was diagnosed with breast cancer — my eighth time. That’s when things hit the proverbial fan. I found out he was on dating websites. I found out he was planning to take a weeklong vacation after my cancer surgery by himself. I found out he had lied about almost everything. And then the abuse started.
At first it was chairs being thrown. Screens broken. A boot through a metal gate. Hangers shattered.
Soon he was hurting our pets and my kids. Right after Christmas I started making safety plans. And in January I kicked him out with the police.
He’s made every day of my life a living hell ever since. Financial abuse. Threats.
He currently has criminal cases against him. I got my order protection twice in court. And he is still trying to come after me for harassment. I haven’t had a day to breathe in almost 2 months.
A sociopath who documented his abuse
The worst part is after he left, I found two journals and hundreds of pages documenting abuse to his ex-wife. He cataloged it all. I paid for him to victimize her further in court.
No one was spared. Our dog is at a foster currently. My son is in some pretty significant counseling. With no prior mental health issues, I was diagnosed with PTSD. Our cat is on Prozac.
Eddie was the worst choice I ever made. And to top it all off? I found out today that he was planning to move to Colorado months before I ever kicked him out. And I have receipts for everything. Screenshots and court documents. I can prove everything I’ve said.
Hi Laurie, wow you have been thru so much in your life. I’m sorry to hear that you have had your breast cancer return and that you got tangled up with a evil sociopath who harmed you & your family.
I’m glad that you have found your way to Donna & Terry’s wonderful site Lovefraud. All your anwsers are here for you to heal from this evi sociopaths harm. It’s also a wonderful place to vent & ask question to understand what you endured at the hands of a sociopath.
Donna has written many articles on the dangers of online dating. These dating sites are a haven for these evil sociopaths to hide out & used manipulative words to suck in their target victims quickly into their evil con game. Not sure if that is where you met this evil guy or not but, if you did look up Donna’s excellent articles on online dating dangers.
That was a incredible blessing of his ex wife to send that affidative to you & (your ex) which helping you see the truth over time and escaping this evil guy and not believe his lying words to suck you back into his con game. Have you contacted the dating site you meet on to let them know this guy has a history of abusing women?
The stress from a sociopath creates health issues such as PTSD, anxiety, depression, sleep issues, mood swings etc etc. And, once we escape we must focus on our health to heal the PTSD. Sounds like you, your son & your pets ALL have PTSD. One of the major issues with PTSD is adrental fatigue see Adrenal fatigue. org and Dr Lam. com both sites have good free info (my doctor game me Dr Wilson adrneal fatigue vitamins when I escpaed my evil sociopath ex husband because I was suffering from PTSD/adrneal fatigue) (you can buy adrenal fatigue vitamins at your local health food store basically they are B complex vitamins etc which our bodies need desperately from the stress we were under in the relationship.
Also, needed to heal from the stress is zinc, magnesium, C, D = all needed for our brains to function well (see Dr Bergs videos on each of these) most adults are deficient in Zinc, Magnesium, D.
In addition the stress messes with our good gut bacteria..so look into raw framented veggies such as sour kraut, pickles (must be raw Costcos, Trader Joes, Sprouts, health food store have RAW with just salt added to rebuild your immune system. or you can make your own see you tube vids. This is good old fashion probiotic with has good bacteria in it to rebuild our immune system back up from the stress and for you for your cancer/cancer treatment. Dr Berg, Dr Eckberg, Dr Mindy Pelz all have info on Raw framented vegges and and another excellent you tube channel is Eric Baker Nathorpath to heal the gut.
For your breast cancer look up these:
1) book on amazon The Iodine Crisis: What You Don’t Know About Iodine Can Wreck Your Life by Lynne Farrow
(see also vid interviews with her on you tube)
2) watch ALL of Dr David Brownstein iodine interviews on you tube. Start with video on you tube “Judy carnivore Dr David Brownstein iodine” plus many others with Dr Brownstein on you tube.
turns out that Iodine (not the kind in salt) is crucial in preventing and healing from breast cancer.
google: “Dr Brownstein iodine protical”…you need other vitamins & minerals such as selenium, b, zinc etc when taking Lugol iodine. Do your home work on this and see if you can find a functional medicine doctors to help you or other doctors that are educated on iodine treatment (not every doctor is) and there is like everything in the medicine community a controversy with the use of iodine.
Wishing you all the best with all of your healing. You are incredibly strong minded & also in body & soul to get thru this trying time of your life. Stay strong and you will get thru all of these healing struggles.
Take care. 🌸🌼💖
ps for your cat look into medium rare red meat = this is what cats need to eat (dogs too) red meat has a ton of vitamins & minerals in it to heal your cat. See you tube video “Ted Talk Dr Danial Amen depression”…these Rx drugs do not work…so best to slowly get your cat off of these Rx. but, you have to do it slowly see vids on net and talk to your cat’s vet. Look into vitamins & minerals for your cat also.
you tube channel “Veterinary Secrets” is a good channel for pet health natural remedies but, there are many on yt.
I’m also SO sorry to hear what all you’ve been through. I hope you focus on your health. I’d like to second Jan7’s info on PTSD (check into Complex PTSD too), adrenal fatigue, and eating red meat. I too faced and healed these issues; as well as fibromyalgia and CFS/ME. My strength came back over a month when following a more fat-protein diet (William Walcott metabolic type) including red meat, butter, cream, and so on.
I am curious about his recording abuse he did to his ex-wife. Did he admit to it, or was he writing ways to dismiss it? I find when sociopaths think they can safely admit to their true opinions and feelings, their own viewpoint is quite different from what we might imagine. In a way, he gave you a window into his true self. I experienced with my two narcissistic and psychopathic partners that on rare occasions they would tell me who they really were. Others who have talked about this said the same. It’s just that usually it’s a small bit of info in our bigger, busier lives, and we pay more attention to the more overwhelming amount of what they want us to see. It’s very interesting he felt some need to write it all down. Pride?
I hope you can prevail with your evidence and find some peace and calm. It’s more important to fight for your and your family’s health than to fight him, if at all possible.