I wrote an article not long ago about settling on a name for the personality disorder that we spend our time here talking about. I suggested using “sociopath” as a general term for exploitative people. Many of us have taken to shortening this term to “spath.”
Well, a Lovefraud reader “Justdreamin” informs us that “spath” is taken. She saw it on a flower pot, and sent us the photos.
It turns out that “spath” is a shortened version of “spathiphyllum,” which is the botanical name for the peace lilly, a common houseplant.
We might have to come up with a new name. If I were a beautiful peace lily, I wouldn’t want to share a name with the nasty predators.
hens
drool – ? who said I was drooling anyway? oh well I mite have snow on the roof top but I now have 210 channel’s….
KatyDid
oh wow Hens, so envious of you! I always wanted to be a channeler! Rah!
Katy, who has learned to hide her drool.
geminigirl
Yea Oxy! Right on!
Im nearly 72, but have no wrinkles,{I look after my skin,} and I try to dress nice,and put on a bit of make up, not too much!for MYSELF not anyone else.Theres this gorgeous looking guy in our newsagents, and i always say to him,
“Hi, Gorgeous!” He always looks so pleased, and blushes to the roots of his hair!
Lately if I go in there, and if his wife is not around, hes started to say.
“Hi, Gorgeous!” to me ,too.{hes around mid forties,}
“No, I mean it, he said the last time, “Today you really DO look specially gorgeous!.” {I had my hair done, and a new top on.}
I thought, hell, hes only saying it so Ill say it back to him,
but than I thought, “Why not just accept that and enjoy it?”
Edith Piaf, the singer, had a young stud lover in her old age, and it wasnt about her money, she was broke by then,but he was absolutely devoted to her.
Its all a question of confidence!One time I said it, and his wife overheard and said,
“You can have him!” “No thanks, I have a loving husband of my own!” I said.
How sad, I thought, that she obviously does NOT give him loving positive strokes!
Its our SPIRIT that shines,through, and that people warm to, NOT our outer aging coveing! This world is obsessed with youth,
and they never think old age will happen to them!
Cherie Blair, the ex British PMs wife, was patron on a society called,”NOJO”, which stood for,
“Not old, just older.”
Ive met 80 and 90 year olds with fascinating minds and personalities, who have lived, loved, travelled,and who were so INTERESTING and magnetic to be with, and Ive met young 20 to 30 somethings who were pretty,but boring, pompous, self absorbed, totally lacking in charm, eyes like boiled sweets,{no expression,}My ideal of beauty is an old wrinkled african woman with boobs down to her knees, no teeth, but a smile that would light up the world!
“Charm, as the writer J.M. Barrie said, “is a kind of Bloom on a woman, like the bloom on a grape.
“If you have it, you dont need anything else. But if you lack it, nothing on earth will compensate for the lack of it, not money, looks, dress, fancy houses, cars,etc. Real charm draws, like a magnet. It is genuine, its given away freely, without any expectation of a reward.It attracts people like bees to a honey pot.”It has nothing to do with looks.A woman or a man with real genuine charm will always attract, people long to be around them.It isa FREE GIFT!
In its essence, it is kind, compassionate, loving, fun, irresistable.Spath charm by contrast, has no real warmth or kindness in it.And it doesnt last, its all an act to suck you into their orbit.
Its al about confidence! So, backs straight, heads held high, we area force to be reckoned with!Like soldiers returned from battle, we have fought our battles, and are winning!Nothing in our lives will ever be as bad again as living with a spath!So, onwards and upwards,Excelsior!
We have MUCH to offer the world. With our P dar switched on,we CAN move fearlessly in this world, people NEED what we have to offer!As the Lord Buddha said,
“Walk in this world like the lotus plant, its roots in the mud of the river bed, but its beautiful head in the clouds! Walk through this world of pain and sorrow, with Bliss -bestowing hands!”A benison and a blessing to all we meet!
Love,
Mama GemXX
Eva
You’re all f***** horny today…..
hens
eva – when did you become a mind reader? ..maybe I should of asked him for hug?
KatyDid
Eva,
For me, It’s wistful admiration of what has never been and will never be… I’ve never been a horny toad.
Katy, who like to be silly sometimes
KatyDid
Hens,
Don’t ASK. Just put out your arms and they complete the gesture. If unsure, you can start with a handshake and an offer to come back for channel surfing and, ah hem, you’ll let him have the remote!
Eva
I’m not criticizing. Katy, do be silly sometimes. Hens, you had an erection hadn’t you? 😀 Ask the installer spath for hug, yes. You’ll see what he hugs.
Ox Drover
Oh, well, hens, maybe you can get some “adult” movies on there on your 210 channels…so you can watch all the hotties in the privacy of your own home….I turned off the cable after my husband died…he had all those bells and whistles, but I really don’t watch much TV…I do miss the weather channel and History channel, but figure for the price of cable I can buy something I’d rather have….
Wonderful day today 80 degrees believe it or not—and I got outside and did 3 1/2 hours of hard manual labor–got the deck water sealed for the year, took off some of my storm windows and did a little work on the garden raised beds…needed the exercise too….filled flower pots with composted soil and getting ready to start some plants. Moved the potted pony-tailed palm back out to the deck (will have to make sure it doesn’t get bit in one last freeze) Repotted my Christmas cactus and fixed myself some din-din!
Good day here guys! Hope yours was too.
KatyDid
no offense taken Eva, just been censored on here before b/c people complained about the sexual tone and I didn’t want to be offensive to you.