I wrote an article not long ago about settling on a name for the personality disorder that we spend our time here talking about. I suggested using “sociopath” as a general term for exploitative people. Many of us have taken to shortening this term to “spath.”
Well, a Lovefraud reader “Justdreamin” informs us that “spath” is taken. She saw it on a flower pot, and sent us the photos.
It turns out that “spath” is a shortened version of “spathiphyllum,” which is the botanical name for the peace lilly, a common houseplant.
We might have to come up with a new name. If I were a beautiful peace lily, I wouldn’t want to share a name with the nasty predators.
Ox Drover
Gem, such an uplifting post! THANK YOU!!! My husband was like that, never good looking even when he was a young man, but he was so fascinating that every woman wanted him. He made THEM feel good about themselves and his charm won hearts. From 6 to 96. I’ve known a few other people that way–both men and women that LOOKS had NOTHING to do with their charm, but because they were so charming, if they walked into a room everyone perceived them as beautiful/handsome because of their charm.
Hope your fall is as pretty as our spring is turning out to be (so far!)
Eva
I shouldn’t have said anything. I don’t care your horny condition. 🙂
Katy, surely if some comments about sex were censored they must have been stronger or of very bad taste, and this is not the case.
Surely hens is already looking for those channels Oxy has recommended him. After such a sexy spath…poor hens.
KatyDid
yeah Eva, Hens thinks being set in his ways is not sexy… but a man who is stable and has a tv remote is always going to be sexy to other men.
Eva
😀 of course, Katy. Hens that still believes in spath heterosexuality. He’s too romantic.
ErinBrock
Okay, Okay…..I hate to be the buzzkill here for ya Mr Hens……
My 2 cents read…..
Dyno dish boy was there to do a job….on a professional level…….
If he gave you ANY sort of ‘personal’ come hither shit……he was out of bound.
It’s totally not professional to do anything other than leave you with the service you signed up for. DISH ONLY…..the kind with the remote!
Not to knock the snowy hotness of you hens…..but it sounds as if he was a playa and is in peoples homes daily and sometimes get’s a little noogy here and there……
STEER CLEAR…..
Have fun with it…..alone….in your mind…..but I would NEVER suggest you did anything ‘covert’ with anyone you hire to come into your ome to do a job.
Fun is fun…….but reality says……even if he was Mr. Perfecto….you had a quickie on the couch and coffee the next week, which led somewhere……..IS THAT REALLY WHAT YOUR LOOKING FOR?
I think not! THad be you walking right back up spath ally into danger zone!!!!
Stop looking for qualities the ex had……howd that work for ya darlen?
XXOO
EB
KatyDid
EB… at the risk of TMI, Hen’s should stop looking for ANY of the ex’s qualities 🙂 ???!!! to quote Geoff: “Oh my!”
FightAnotherDay
Hi all,
I got this in my e-mail today from a devotional I subscribe to.
I post this mainly for the newbies here. I know we all have different beliefs, but of you can look past the religious references here, there is a lesson for all of us.
If you live near the country, you’ve probably had the interesting experience of stopping in the middle of an empty road at night, waiting as a wide-eyed deer fixates on your vehicle’s headlights. For a moment, the animal is oblivious to the danger of hurtling metal vehicles. A deer will disregard personal safety in favor of staring at the bright lights. In our own lives, many of us find ourselves staring into a kind of debilitating headlight. We live in a state where we feel trapped, a place from which we cannot move. Our captor could be anything–a broken relationship, an old bitterness we just can’t let go of, a job or family situation that has become unsatisfying. The common factor is that whatever the circumstances, we are left feeling hopeless.
Some of us have existed for years in this place of immobility. Like the Galatians, we are shocked to realize that our Christian identity alone does not grant us immunity from this trapped state. In these times we pause to ask ourselves, “Is this the abundant life that Jesus offers?”
Often the thing that keeps us from freedom is not our specific difficulty. It is our fear to leave it. Let me say that again. It is our fear to leave. In this case, we become trapped by our own attitudes. We fear change, even if that change will bring us healing.
The truth is this–while you may never be able to heal a broken relationship despite your best efforts, you can find personal healing in Christ. Although you are powerless to alter past hurts, you are able to let Jesus handle your pain.
Remember Paul and Silas who shouted praise songs through the halls of a dark prison? Your situation depends mostly upon your personal attitude. Perspective is everything. So what has you staring blindly, trapped and immobile? What are you afraid will happen if things change? Pray that God will give you a new perspective to see your problem through his eyes.
Ox Drover
Dear FAD, AMEN Sister! It isn’t that we can change the situation, but we CAN CHANGE OUR ATTITUDE ABOUT IT.
hens
FAD That was a nice post. I think I am living my own truth instead of trying to escape it.
hens
Erin Bee – You Be right – again…