I wrote an article not long ago about settling on a name for the personality disorder that we spend our time here talking about. I suggested using “sociopath” as a general term for exploitative people. Many of us have taken to shortening this term to “spath.”
Well, a Lovefraud reader “Justdreamin” informs us that “spath” is taken. She saw it on a flower pot, and sent us the photos.
It turns out that “spath” is a shortened version of “spathiphyllum,” which is the botanical name for the peace lilly, a common houseplant.
We might have to come up with a new name. If I were a beautiful peace lily, I wouldn’t want to share a name with the nasty predators.
Eva
Uf surely a lot of it, and of different type or the flowers won’t have any erection.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
Donna and Just dreamin’, THANKS FOR THE HUMOR!!
🙂 brings a whole new meaning to that time honored lf phrase: ‘potted plant’.
Ox Drover
Probably needs a lot of BS to fertilize it! LOL
Ox Drover
One/Joy,
How did the slinky little black dress do at your to-do? I haven’t heard on the blog from EB in several days now I’m kind of getting concerned about her…just hope she is still moving and getting rid of things, not et by the bar!
Hope you are doing well too! Nothing exciting going on here, just still spring cleaning! But making progress…son D repaired some of the earthquake damage here, VERY minor, but from the 4.7 we had there were some cracks in the plaster and doors wouldn’t close right and latch. Had to move one latch hole 1/2 inch to get it to work so the door would latch closed.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
might as well put this here.
okay, deep breath.
i am day 14 with little sleep due to the schedule of my db new neighbour and his sweet but lonely dog. i am at my limit.
my conference is this weekend. i am tired tired tired.
when i have some time i want to talk with you all – i need to come up with a strategy to deal with the db neighbour, who is abusive and seemingly without a care as to the harm he inflicts on others.
i haven’t been to neurofeedback for a few weeks – they moved into new offices (ie newly painted, etc. which i cannot be exposed to)
all of this: I am on edge.
i did something really wild an dout of control today. the worst thing in the world for me, is someone trying to control me….or my being controlled by circumstances – and i am dealing with a lot of that right now….
so….
i was at the grocery store – i was so tired, i was messing up at work, so i went out to get some gorceries and get my hair cut for this weekend.
i bought something that had a tear in it. under the advice of the clerk i i went and replaced it after i paid for my groceries.
i go waltzing out of the store and a young woman runs after me and tells me i am under arrest. i ask her for her badge, she says it’s in the store, i ask, ‘ are you a cop’, she says no. I ask her what she is, and seh tells me she is a loss prevention officer, and demands i go into the store with her. I tell her to get stuffed. I am late for an appt. and she has not ID. She tells me she is going to call the cops. I say, for what, she says, resisting arrest. I say, well you don’t have any ID, so i am leaving now, and you can follow me to my appt if you want.
long story short. i went to my appt. came back, talked to the clerk that asked ME to replace the item. Told her to talk to the young woman. The young woman is still trying to intimidate me and get me to comply. Didn’t work. I told them it was THERE problem – their procedures were the problem and that i was not going into the office, i was not talking to the cops, and they could just bloody well deal with it. And i left.
Now, why on earth did i fight with this young woman? Why did i not take the few minutes… i am tired, exhausted, pissed off, under pressure…..and she had no ID (it is my right to refuse to talk to her.)
but still. yes, i had an appt, i would miss, but really….why did i fight with her?
because she tried to get me to ‘comply’ and i am fucking SICK of this kind of bullying.
i am not proud of this. i couldn’t turn off my rage. i was furious.
but i somehow think her day was shittier than mine.
i have turned into my father and sister….they act like this all the time – father is PROUD of acting like this, and sister – well, i don’t think she can stop herself to tell you the truth. She would need lots of help to get to the point where she could.
so at 50+ i have finally become like those people i tired so hard not to be like.
this all happened 2 hours ago. I am finally calmed down, but i wouldn’t want to speak with anyone – i have a short fuse right now. I am looking forward to spending some time in nature next week, and putting together a strategy to deal with the db upstairs. so tired….
that rent a cop….running after me, and me saying, ‘follow me to my appt….’ i was unreasonable. But, i also had a right to refuse. She tried all her strong arm crap, and i just got furious and refused.
exhale.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
Hi oxy – earthquake damage! glad it was very minor.
my blakc dress isn’t slinky – classic and at the knee – but it’s sexy because of it – think 1960’s italian. 🙂
my do is this weekend. lots going on here – mostly sleep deprivation, and furiousness. I really need a break, and some sleep. I have taken to going to bed really early – tonight i will go to bed around 9 pm to try to get enough sleep before the douchebag and his dog wake me at 4.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
Oxy, I think the bear is probably good – it would likely be sonny who would be causing problems for EB. isn’t that sad…the wildlife is safer than the blood born. but, look who i am saying this to….
Ox Drover
Dear One/Joy
You know you acted like an ass today, you are right about that…but IN SPITE OF THAT YOU SOUNDED SANE….tired but SANE. NO!!!!! you are NOT like your father or your sister and I have seen tremendous progress that you have made here lately and believe it or not, today wasn’t that bad…I would have hit the witch! LOL Which would have been more inappropriate cause I’d be in jail!
SLEEP DEPRIVATION makes one crazy–but in spite of that, you are not crazy. You sound TIRED.
TIRED is okay, and CRANKY is okay…you had a right to be both tired and cranky, so get over it okay! Get some sleep if you can and some how there has to be a way to stop this creep and his pitiful pooch from waking you up besides something criminal. LOL (((hugs))))
bluejay
one/joy_step_at_a_time,
I loved your response to the loss prevention officer, not having a problem with how you handled it.
hgg522
How ironic to my story. When I first moved to Illinois from
Florida, I lived with my spath and his family for the first few months I was up here. Needless to say, the first two weeks were fine (part of the seduction phase). But, after that..hello RED FLAGS. i walked into the bathroom and his sister was doing his hair…both were naked and her boobs were in his face..literally. When I said something about it, they both threw accusations at me, diverted the attention off of them and on to me and I was left standing there thinking there was something wrong with me for thinking anything.
After a few more of these episodes and his sister spitting on me (these are adults mind you in their 20’s), I told spath I was getting an apt and he could either come with me or not. Well, we ending up renting an apt in the same town. We had no furniture. Just our bed and some dishes. We had a little 3 tier book shelf that held our coffee pot and the only thing in our living room that I bought to put in front of the bay window…a PEACE LILY. We took a picture in front of it. I wish I had it to share. LOL. Oh if I would have only known then. I married him shorly after that. Had 2 kids. Baught a house. Lived in a fog. Got tired of the Fog, the lies, the deceit, abuse. I divorced the spath. He wont go away. He has manipulated the court system. Bribed 2 evaluators. Continues to make my life a living hell. The Peace Lily died years ago. Should have been a sign…When does it end.
Peace