A story of classic sociopathic betrayal: ‘The most vile person I ever met’

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story of sociopathic betrayal from a reader who posts as “Mary2.”

I met him a year ago. He was charming, kind, and seemed so perfect. He told me he was separated and that his wife was living in another state.

We did everything together. Then, one day, she returns. I asked why? He said to get more things. She was actually going back and forth between her mother’s residence and here.

I continued to believe him. He met my girls, my mom, my sister, my co-workers. All thought he was wonderful.

He told me his wife was crazy. When she kept returning he said she just had Dr appointments because she had cancer. I asked to see the separation papers. He kept making excuses.

I started playing detective. I found so many fake Facebook accounts, Twitter accounts, etc. He literally told me they were trying to steal his identity. Again, I believed him.

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After some time, he became irritated because I started asking questions. He began to put me down, became physical, and started ghosting me. He would always return with a huge excuse. He threatened to kill himself twice. He told me she was crazy and awful. I believed it all.

He also said he was in a coma for two months from the war.

Finally, after feeling suicidal, I found her and contacted her. We talked for hours. They were not separated! They were in marriage counseling!

He told her we were just friends and he was helping me out because my ex had molested my daughters so he felt sorry for me (not true)!!!

He said she was going to beat me up. She and I talked for hours.

We cross-referenced our journals. He wasn’t with me; he wasn’t with her. I followed him one night and caught him in a hotel room with a prostitute. I got so physically ill I had to take off work.

He was never in a coma. He told me he worked for the CIA! Not true!!!!

I cannot believe it. I cannot.

He told her I was white trash. She told me he was addicted to porn, called her fat, and she too felt like killing her self. She thanked me for reaching out to her.

Apparently I’m one of many. I thought he was divorcing. I thought he was the one. The things he said to me I will not write. It’s vile and filthy. I went to the police and filed a report against him.

So many lies. His car broke down, he is in New York, he has business meetings, etc. so he would tell her this and come stay at my house.

She won’t escape. Not ever. It’s too late for her. He has made her so sick.

I’m determined to do this. He sent me an email (because he’s blocked on my phone) four weeks ago. I blocked that also.

Who is he? He went from charming and dinners to prostitutes and staying married? He went from cards and love letters to bruising me and hurting me and calling me horrific names?

I was conned. She said I’m not the first and then thanked me for coming forward. I wasn’t coming forward. I was begging and searching for help. I was begging her to tell me the truth.

Who is he, I asked? No coma, no cancer, no divorce, no separation? It was all a lie! Every single word.

I’m sick, I am beyond devastated and I am stuck at home alone dealing with this. My head is spinning. I drove by his house so many times. I stopped.

He broke into my house twice. Once he took my dog. I don’t know. He’s dangerous.

My friend who is an older friend. So nice. I went with him somewhere and they found him in a ditch from blunt forced trauma. No witnesses except he yelled at me and said, “You will pay for this.” My friend almost died. I need help.

He is two different people! Maybe three. He cried and cried and said she was lying. Oh and she said they still sleep together. What !?

He’s the devil. He is the most vile person I have ever met.