Ending a relationship with a sociopath is not a normal break-up. Sociopaths (people who could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorders) do not pursue romantic relationships in search of mutual love and companionship. They are looking for someone to use in some way — such as for money, sex, or to siphon off your emotional energy. Therefore, when you end a relationship with a sociopath, you can't get together, hug, cry and wish each other well, as you might with a normal person. When leaving a sociopath, you need to be strategic. Here are 10 mistakes to avoid: Thinking you can still be friends You may still be c …
Stalking, burglary, identity theft — all by one criminal
Most criminals specialize. They're drug runners, or they're car thieves, or they're credit card fraudsters, etc. One of the indicators of a psychopath, however, is "criminal versatility." That means psychopaths engage in all kinds of crime. A Lovefraud reader sent me a story, and "criminal versatility" seems to apply. Christopher Endicott, of Dakota County, Minnesota, was sentenced last week for stalking, burglary and identity theft. According to KARE11 in Minnesota, Endicott said in court, "I don't pretend that what I did makes sense, even to me. There is no excuse for my actions." Here's what Endicott, a former principal, did, according to KARE11: Broke into his neighbors' …
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Daniel Spence, gay fake millionaire, scams friends, family, lovers and strangers
The Observer recently ran a story about Daniel Spence, a sociopathic con artist (although the article didn't identify him as a sociopath). Read it here: The Grindr Grifter, on Observer.com. It's a good and well-written description of how a sociopathic con artist works: Spence, originally from Texas but most recently operating in hipster Brooklyn, made outrageous claims of wealth and power, flaunting the money he acquired by defrauding friends and lovers. Here are some instructive highlights: 1 . Yes, sociopaths operate in the gay community. Spence appeared to be gay, and targeted gay men. However, he may or may not have been authentically gay, because the sexual orientation of …
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Children with a sociopath — do you stay or do you go?
Finally figuring out, after years of marriage and a couple of kids, that your partner is a sociopath, is a good news/bad news situation. The good news: You are not crazy. You were not imagining things and you were not overreacting. There is a bona fide, medical reason for the insanity you have been enduring — your spouse has a serious personality disorder. The bad news: Now that you know what the problem is, you need to figure out what to do about it — and all of the options are difficult. I'm writing this blog in response to the post in the Lovefraud Forum submitted by "Gccc," called 16 years, 2 children later, my life imploded. A death of sorts. Following is what she wrote. The Vo …
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John Martin Hill scams woman for $80,000 – just his latest love fraud victim
Here we go again — another online love fraud case. John Martin Hill was arrested in Tennessee last week, accused of taking $80,000 from a Georgia woman he met on Match.com. But apparently, she was just the most recent victim. Police in Gwinnett County, Georgia, are talking to detectives in four other states — Virginia, Delaware, Maryland and New Jersey — about dating scams he allegedly pulled there as well. Hill had convinced the Georgia woman that he was a millionaire and in love with her. On the day they met in person, they agreed to get married within the week. The woman gave him $80,000, and Hill disappeared. Man accused in online love scam connected to crimes in multiple states, on …
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Gender identity: fun and games for psychopaths
One of the issues raging through the political landscape these days, stirring up passions on the left and the right, is the Equality Act, passed by the United States House of Representatives on May 17, 2019. Proponents of the law generally say that everyone should be treated the same, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. Objections to provisions of the law are often based on opponents' views on biology or religious convictions. But this law should also be evaluated in the context of the millions of psychopaths living among us, who I believe will have a great time exploiting it. And that's what Lovefraud's research — highlighted below — indicates. What the Equality Act s …
Superhero creator Stan Lee allegedly a victim of elder abuse
In real life, superheroes need to watch out for sociopathic predators, just like the rest of us. Stan Lee, the creator of Marvel Comics characters, including all the Avengers, like Iron Man, Spider Man and the Black Panther, was allegedly subjected to elder abuse by the man who was supposed to be his business manager. Keya Morgan was arrested in Arizona on Saturday, May 25, 2019, for elder abuse. He was charged with theft, embezzlement, forgery or fraud against an elder adult, and false imprisonment of an elder adult. Police say Morgan stole more than $262,000 from autograph sessions Lee did a year ago. Police also say Morgan took Lee from his home to a condo where "Morgan had more …
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Australian love fraud victim released after 6 years in Cambodian prison
Yoshe Ann Taylor, a mother of two and former kindergarten teacher from Australia, thought she found love on the Internet. She communicated throughout 2013 with "Precious Max," who said he was a successful South African businessman selling Cambodian arts and crafts. Actually, Precious Max was a con man and drug dealer. When he invited Yoshe to visit him in Cambodia, he sent her home with a knapsack full of arts and crafts "samples" — and two kilos of heroin sewn into the lining. Yoshe was arrested at the Phnom Penh airport and charged with drug trafficking. Despite protesting that she was a victim of love fraud, she was convicted and sentenced to 23 years in prison. Precious Max, who w …
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Book Review: Why humans are both virtuous and violent
The Goodness Paradox: The strange relationship between virtue and violence in human evolution, by Richard Wrangham Review by Donna Andersen The central premise of this fascinating book is that humans — Homo sapiens — are domesticated primates, and this accounts for our ability to be both incredibly altruistic and incredibly brutal. The author, Richard Wrangham, is a professor of biological anthropology at Harvard. In making his argument, he reviews thousands of years of evolution of both humans and other species. This book is a fascinating look at where we came from and how our evolution affects our behavior. Philosophers, religious leaders and ordinary people have debated the nat …
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Vietnam veteran sends nearly $30,000 to woman he met online
 It's a scam. His family knows it's a scam. But they cannot convince a 70-year-old Iowa man, a Vietnam veteran, that the woman he fell in love with does not exist. The man sent nearly $30,000 to the woman, draining his bank account. Elderly love scam, on kdsm17.c9m. This sad story plays out often — thousands of people have lost millions of dollars. But why does everyone fall for it? Because involvements with sociopaths are highly addictive. And make no mistake — con artists claiming love to swindle people are sociopaths. How can you protect yourself — or hopefully someone you love? Educate yourself about sociopaths, their typical ploys, and how you can be affected. It's all expla …
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