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Identifying sociopathic behavior is easy; giving advice is hard

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Just about every day, Lovefraud receives e-mail from readers who are looking for answers about confusing, contradictory and abusive behavior exhibited by people in their lives. The new readers don't understand what they are dealing with; they just tell, either in a few paragraphs or lengthy compositions, their stories. The e-mails describe some or many of the following behaviors: Pathological lying Pity plays Shallow emotions Devalue and discard Cheating or promiscuity Addiction to drugs or alcohol Controlling demands Financial irresponsibility Manipulation of children Broken promises Claims of “you made me do it” Pleas of “I'll never do it again” The …

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Convicted con artist Patrick Giblin again pleads guilty to scamming women

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Patrick Giblin, 52, formerly of Ventnor, New Jersey, yesterday pleaded guilty to scamming more than 10 women out of $15,000 to $40,000. Giblin did this between January 2013 and December 2014 while on parole for previously scamming 132 women out of $320,241. Here's Lovefraud's original coverage of the story: Patrick Giblin trolls phone dating lines, taking money from 132 women, on Lovefraud.com. According to U.S. Attorney Paul J. Fishman, Giblin's most recent adventures in phone scamming went like this: From January 2013 to Dec. 16, 2014, Giblin allegedly posted advertisements and messages on telephone dating services throughout the United States. Giblin cultivated a telephone rapport with …

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Woman finds the ‘pickup artists’ who raped her – and bragged about it on the Internet

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A San Diego woman passed out in the apartment of some guys she just met in October 2013. She was raped. When she awoke, she went to the police. Many rape cases end up being "he said, she said" situations, where the perpetrator claims that the sex was consensual. But this woman conducted her own Internet investigation. She found that the man who raped her, Alexander Markham Smith, 27, and his friend, Jonas Dick, 28, ran a business called "Efficient Pickup." The idea was to teach men how to have sex with as many women as possible. To prove that their methods worked, Smith and Dick posted stories about their exploits including a detailed account of the San Diego woman's rape. It was enough …

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Radical Acceptance – a path to true emotional healing after the devastation of a sociopath

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Book Review: Radical Acceptance Embracing your life with the heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach. Review by Donna Andersen You realize, or at least suspect, that you have a sociopath in your life — that's why you're reading Lovefraud. You may still be in a state of shock — you never really understood that people like this actually existed. But they do; now what do you do? Lovefraud is full of information and advice about escaping a sociopath and dealing with the fallout. Generally, recovery means moving forward along two paths. You can pursue both paths at the same time, and progress on one path helps you with the other one. The first path is solving the practical problems the soc …

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Woman fakes blindness for 15 years, collects nearly $400,000 in veteran’s benefits

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Back in 2001, Veronica Dale Hahn, 60, of Bonifay, Florida, told the U.S. Department of Veteran's Affairs that she was 100 percent blind in both eyes due to her military service. The VA believed her, and started paying her veteran's disability benefits. In 15 years, she collected $394,800.85. In the meantime, she obtained driver's licenses in New Mexico, Alabama and Florida, with no vision restrictions. She drove her vehicle and worked full-time as a case manager at state correctional facilities. Hahn pleaded guilty last week. When she is sentenced, she faces 10 years in prison. Holmes County woman pleads guilty to fraudulently receiving veterans disability benefits, on Justice.gov. …

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I continued to choose him over everyone and everything that ever mattered to me

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received this story from a reader whom we'll call "Ellie." This is the story of how I allowed myself to become emotionally dismantled by the man to whom I chose to give my heart. I loved him unconditionally. I accepted and forgave him without judgment. I empathized with stories of his childhood, when he felt unseen, unloved and insecure. I nurtured him through times of deep depression, drug abuse and alcoholism. I made excuse after excuse by rationalizing his behavior and convincing myself that I knew he could be more than what he was. I believed he could be the man I saw him to be, the man he wished he could be ”¦ I held on to hope that it would be ok, and that th …

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‘Sextortion Queen’ tricks men into performing sex acts on Skype, then blackmails them

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Maria Caparas-Regalachuelo of the Philippines, aka the "Sextortion Queen," boasts that it only takes 30 minutes to convince men to get naked and perform sex acts via Skype. Then she posts the videos to YouTube and threatens to send them to the victims' families, unless they pay up. In an exclusive interview with the Daily Mail, she details exactly how the scam works. She has a crew of "chatters," mostly young girls and transgender men, who troll the Internet looking for targets. When they find a target, they play a pre-recorded video of an Asian woman performing a striptease, and then send a string of racy text messages. The whole process is tightly scripted. Caparas is now in prison in th …

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Girl, 15, charged with killing her father to protect her mother from abuse

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Johnathan Meadows lay sleeping in the early hours of July 28, 2016, when his 14-year-old daughter, Bresha, allegedly shot him in the head with his own .45 caliber gun. "Now mommy, you're free," Bresha said to her mother, Brandi. Brandi had endured years of abuse from Johnathan, she said. Her husband would get drunk and menace the family with a gun. "I wasn't strong enough to leave," she told Fox8, calling her daughter a "hero." Supporters pack courtroom where teen girl, 15, is charged with killing her father to protect her mother after 'years of abuse,' on DailyMail.co.uk.   …

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If you are being stalked, here’s advice from a woman who’s lived it

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January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Vicki Kuper of Iowa was stalked for years by her former romantic partner, Mike Bonert, and has successfully held him accountable so far. Vicki went to the authorities and got a No Contact order which wasn't easy. Bonert proceeded to violate it 24 times. Vicki then was able to have Bonert prosecuted, which also wasn't easy. He was convicted and sentenced to 11 years in prison, then an additional 10 years for his fifth stalking charge. He appealed his conviction, but still served four and a half years. The Iowa Court of Appeals recently affirmed Bonert's stalking conviction. Bonert is already out on parole, but he must wear a GPS ankle bracelet …

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17-year-old girl allegedly lures teenagers to a robbery that turns into murder

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Sheahonni Davis, 17, of Syracuse, New York, allegedly lured two teenage brothers to a meeting last Tuesday. Davis and two friends, Toriano Newson and Curtis Paige III, planned to rob the boys, according to authorities. The robbery went bad and the boys, Daniel Diaz-Marrero and Ismael Diaz Marrero, were shot dead. Girl, 17, lured two teenage brothers to a daylight robbery where they were shot dead, say prosecutors, on DailyMail.co.uk.   …

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