[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/UKtYJyhTe40" title="How%20do%20I%20avoid%20dating%20a%20sociopath%20like%20my%20father?"] A 24-year-old woman asks for advice. Her father is a sociopath, and so was her boyfriend. She doesn't know what a healthy relationship looks like so how can she learn to avoid dating another sociopath? I explain that the young woman not only had poor role models, she's suffering from a betrayal bond. The best thing she can do is work on her personal recovery. Then, I tell her how to protect herself from sociopaths. Letters to Lovefraud Videos is a new feature of Lovefraud.com. If you have a question that you'd like me to answer in a video, please send it to donna at l …
Florida judge is publicly shamed for berating a domestic violence victim
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/gM7Q5M2Yuy0" title="Judge%20Jerrii%20Collins%20reprimanded%20by%20Florida%20Supreme%20Court"] A Florida woman called the police in April 2015 the father of her child choked her and threatened her with a knife. The man was arrested and put on trial. Suffering from anxiety, the domestic violence victim failed to show up to testify. Florida Judge Jerri Collins berated the woman, charged her with contempt of court, and threw her in jail for three days even though the victim pleaded that she had a 1-year-old child to care for. On Wednesday, Judge Collins was publicly reprimanded on live TV for her "intolerable" behavior by the Florida Supreme Court. This …
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Domestic violence and brain trauma
Many women who endured domestic violence suffer from headaches, memory loss, and confused thinking. The cause may be traumatic brain injuries due to blows to the head. Women may be exposed to the same type of head injuries as football players. Fists not football: Brain injuries seen in domestic assaults, on Foxnews.com. …
I help him escape; she manipulates him back and wipes out all his money
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a woman whom we'll call "Carlotta." I started out close friends with a man married to a sociopathic woman, which later turned into a romantic relationship. This woman was evil to the core. He attempted to divorce her multiple times, but to no avail. She always used manipulation to get him back. Once back, she wipes all the money out that I helped him save. She took every, every penny he had and left him with nothing. He made very good money, plus got a pension to boot. She would take everything for herself. His bank accounts never had more than a few dollars in it. She took out multiple loans in his name (she conned him into …
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Donald Trump, Hillary (and Bill) Clinton – narcissists with psychopathic features
I am truly depressed about the upcoming presidential election. Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton (and Bill Clinton, who comes with Hillary) have serious character flaws that I believe make them unfit to be president of the United States. The talking heads on TV have been practically foaming at the mouth as they disparage whichever candidate they don't support. Unfortunately, they have plenty of legitimate material to work with. Just when you think Donald Trump can't say anything more incendiary, he does. And just when one Clinton scandal dies down, another one surfaces. I don't personally know any of the candidates. But some people who do know them have written tell-all articles and books …
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Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/ltxOgf0bIO0" title="Coping%20with%20Stalking%20-%20How%20to%20overcome%20fear%20and%20fight%20back"] Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back strategies from a woman who's done it Presented by Vicki Kuper Monday, August 29, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. Eastern More info Someone won't leave you alone. This person follows you, calls or texts constantly, shows up at your home or workplace, sends you unwanted gifts, or threatens you. As a result, you feel vulnerable, unsafe, anxious, stressed and afraid. You are being stalked. Vicki Kuper knows exactly what you're going through. She lived it. The man who s …
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When we stop wishing the past were different, we can recover from destructive relationships
Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar: The Miracle in The Madness —Pathway to healing from destructive relationships Presented by Travis F. Vining Thursday, Sept. 8, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. ET More info By Travis F. Vining It may sound silly, or even impossible to some who read this, but all we need to change the misery in our lives from pain to joy is a simple realignment of our perspective. Experience reveals the truth in this statement, but unfortunately, the process that facilitates this shift from misery to miracle is one of the most widely misunderstood concepts in the world ”¦ forgiveness. Not only is forgiveness commonly misunderstood, but in some cases, it is intensely disliked and invok …
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Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com, presents ‘Understanding the language of a narcissist’ on Lovefraud CE
Lovefraud is very pleased to announce that Tina Swithin, author of the well-known website, OneMomsBattle.com, will be presenting an important Lovefraud CE webinar: Understanding the Language of a Narcissist During a Divorce or Custody Battle Tuesday, August 9, 8-9 pm ET Recording subsequently available on demand Tina knows from first-hand experience the madness anyone trying to divorce a narcissist encounters. She says: Looking back, the red flags had been waving in the wind since our very first date. Those flags grew larger and more vibrant during our marriage. As it turns out, those same red flags that had been lining my path for years were dipped in highly flammable kerosene. I realized …
My new dog offers a lesson in letting go
Meet my new dog, Bo. My husband, Terry, and I brought him home from a shelter on Thursday. I've been meaning to get a dog ever since my previous dog, Beau, died of old age. That was more than 13 years ago. What took so long? I never felt like I had the time or the energy for another dog then suddenly, more than a decade slipped by. My first dog, Beau Beau was with me when I met my sociopathic ex-husband. During all the confusion and upheaval of my fake marriage to James Montgomery, my dog was the loyal companion that my husband should have been. After two and a half years with Montgomery, I discovered that my entire marriage was a scam. I left him, and Beau was my comfort. As …
‘Coercive control:’ Domestic violence without the physical abuse
In an article in the New York Times, writer Abby Ellin explains the concept of "coercive control" a pattern of behavior in which one partner in a romantic relationship dominates his or her partner. She writes: Coercive control describes an ongoing and multipronged strategy, with tactics that include manipulation, humiliation, isolation, financial abuse, stalking, gaslighting and sometimes physical or sexual abuse. England and Wales have just passed a law making coercive or controlling behavior a form of domestic violence. The United States should do the same. With coercive control, the abuse is psychological, on NYTimes.com. …
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