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Please keep Lovefraud co-founder in your thoughts and prayers

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  I've written quite a few times about the wonderful relationship that I have with my husband, Terry Kelly. Yes, there is love after a sociopath. Terry is my business partner in Lovefraud. He funded building the website and the printing of my books. When business decisions about Lovefraud need to be made, he's my consultant. He even handles shipping when we receive book orders. I'm writing this as I sit in the ICU waiting room of our local hospital. Terry suffered a heart attack on Tuesday. It's been a long week. This came totally out of the blue. Terry does not have any of the typical risk factors of heart disease. No family history. No smoking. He's not overweight, he eats well, he …

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Sue Klebold, mother of Columbine High School shooter, tells her story on ABC 20/20

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On April 20, 1999, two students from Columbine High School in Jefferson County, Colorado, went to school intending to kill as many people as possible. In a 49-minute massacre, Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold killed 12 students and one teacher, shooting many of them at point-blank range. They injured 21 additional people. Three more victims were injured trying to escape the bloodbath. Columbine High School massacre, on Wikipedia.org. Worried parents heard about the shooting as it was underway, and feared for the safety of their children. One of them was Sue Klebold, mother of Dylan Klebold. But Sue's worry turned to horror when she realized that her son was one of the murderers. Sue Klebold has …

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Been to counseling because of abuse? Fill out the Therapy Satisfaction Survey – closing soon!

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If you sought professional counseling because of an involvement with someone who may be disordered, Lovefraud wants to know about your experience. Working with Dr. Liane Leedom and the University of Bridgeport, we are gathering data for scientific research about the therapeutic experience of those who sought therapy in the context of an abusive relationship. The survey is completely anonymous no personal information is collected at all. What did you experience? Did the therapist understand what you were talking about? Did he or she help you realize what you were dealing with? Or was the counselor completely clueless about personality disorders? Did the person make you feel worse instead of …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: I was his “front” – no one would believe he was hiring hookers

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Editor's note: The following story was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who posts as "stillinshock." I was going through a horrendous divorce with a man I had a child with when the predator struck. I was in a vulnerable position, scared to death by the man I was divorcing who was threatening to take my children, my home, my freedom and my life. My spath was a retired cop. Swooped in playing the knight in shining armor (boy, I am sure he could smell the blood in the water). He was friendly, charming, and could tell stories and entertain for hours. EVERYONE liked him. I wasn't looking to date ”¦ I was going through a divorce, but he came highly recommended by mutual friends, and I started to t …

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Q&A with Amber Ault, PhD, MSW – clinical social worker specializing in personality disorders

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Editor's note: Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW, is author of "The Five Step Exit—The skills you need to leave a narcissist, psychopath or other toxic partner and recover your happiness now." She will also be presenting online courses in Lovefraud's upcoming Continuing Education program. What experience have you had dealing with sociopaths or other disordered personalities—personally, professionally, or both? I provide mental health assessment and services both to people who have personality disorders, including psychopaths, narcissists, and people with Borderline personality and to partners, family members, and others who are intimately involved with them. In my role as a mental health crisis wo …

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So when is a spiritual leader actually a sexual predator?

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Marc Gafni, denounced by many Jewish leaders as a sexual predator, is remaking himself as a New Age guru. The news prompted author Chaya Kurtz to write a blog post outlining the warning signs that clergy and gurus have ulterior motives when approaching women. A few of her warning signs are include: The spiritual man who thinks you're special The spiritual man who wants to see you outside of class The man who wants to spiritually connect with you through your body The spiritual man who pierces you with his eyes The religious man to whom the rules don't apply Many women have written to Lovefraud about being pursued and abused by men they met in church or through other religious or spiritual …

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Petition to stop Marc Gafni, former rabbi turned spiritual guru, from ‘abusing again’

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Marc Gafni, of Pacific Grove, CA, wants to remake American spirituality, according to a recent profile by the New York Times. He's founded an organization called the Center for Integral Wisdom, to "evolve the source code for human existence," according to its website. Gafni's executive board of directors includes high profile supporters and New Age luminaries: John Mackey, co-founder of Whole Foods. Barbara Marx Hubbard John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Jack Canfield, author of Chicken Soup for the Soul Adam Bellow, Vice President and Editorial Director of HarperCollins Books But Gafni, who was born Mordechai Winiartz, was a rabbi until Jewish leaders essentially …

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In the wake of a sociopath, feel better with Energy Medicine

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[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/Di5Ua44iuXc"] Involvements with sociopaths are often called "toxic." This is totally appropriate, because whether these predators engage in subtle manipulation and deceit that leaves you wondering what is "off," or whether they inflict outright emotional, physical, financial and sexual abuse, your body, mind and spirit are flooded with toxins. Sustained sociopathic exploitation drains you. Eventually, you can become so physically, emotionally and psychologically depleted that it becomes difficult to handle day-to-day life, let alone the drama of the sociopath. But to escape and recover from the sociopath, you need your strength. How can you rebuild it? …

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Copia gratuita a los primeros 5 lectores de ‘Alertas Rojas de Estafa Amorosa’ en libro electrónico

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Editor's note To Lovefraud's Spanish-speaking readers We are giving away five copies of the new Spanish translation of 'Red Flags of Love Fraud 10 signs you're dating a sociopath.' All you have to do is promise to post a review of it on Amazon! Regalamos cinco copias de la nueva versión en español de Red Flags of Love Fraud — 10 signs you're dating a sociopath a los lectores hispanohablantes de Lovefraud. ¡Tan solo tienes que cumplir la promesa de publicar una reseña del libro en Amazon.com! Ponte en contacto con donna@lovefraud.com.  Más información: Lo que deben saber todos los que anhelan una relación sobre los depredadores sociales: Carisma, encanto, tanto en común y también seductor: ¿ …

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