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By | January 3, 2019 0 Comments

Emotional abuse is a crime in Ireland

emotional abuseEmotional and psychological abuse in an intimate relationship is now a crime in Ireland.

The Domestic Violence Act of 2018, which went into effect on Jan. 1, 2019, created a new criminal offense of “coercive control.” Coercive control is defined as:

“Psychological abuse in intimate relationships that causes fear of violence or serious alarm or distress that has a substantial adverse impact on a person’s day-to-day life, manifesting as a pattern of intimidation or humiliation involving psychological or emotional abuse.”

Coercive control is already illegal in England and Scotland. Psychological violence is illegal in France.

In a radio interview, Margaret Martin, director of Women’s Aid in Ireland, explained coercive controllers frequently forbid or regulate their partners’ “freedom of … Read more

By | January 2, 2019 2 Comments

19 New Year’s resolutions to help you recover from narcissistic abuse

recover from narcissistic abuse

The New Year is always a good time for new beginnings. If your wish for the New Year is to heal from a destructive relationship with a sociopath and recover from the narcissistic abuse that you endured, here are 19 resolutions to help you in 2019.

1 . I will have No Contact with the sociopath — I will not call, text or send email, and I certainly won’t meet him/her in person.

2. If the sociopath contacts me, I will not respond.

3. I will not try to get information about the sociopath from others.

4. I will not follow or stalk the sociopath on social media.

5. I will remember that anything the sociopath says … Read more

By | December 25, 2018 2 Comments

Merry Christmas from Lovefraud!


Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
to all Lovefraud readers!

Lovefraud authors are taking time off for the holidays. We’ll resume posting articles on Jan. 2, 2019.… Read more

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By | December 24, 2018 0 Comments

The gift of understanding and recovery — a 5-part Lovefraud Masterclass

Feel better in the New Year! Starting in January, I’ll be presenting the six webinars to help you understand and recover from your romantic involvement with a sociopath. This is Lovefraud’s best deal ever! You get:

  • My 6 best-selling webinars, presented live with updated information, on Wednesday evenings starting on Jan. 16.
  • An opportunity to ask me questions during the webinars.
  • A private forum for each webinar, where you can ask more questions and connect with others
  • Immediate access to the existing recorded webinars

The webinars usually cost $25 each, so six of them would be $150. But the price for the Masterclass is only $99 — a savings of $51. And, if you sign up by January … Read more

By | December 22, 2018 0 Comments

If you’ve met a U.S. Army officer online, he might be in this lineup

10 Nigerian love fraud scammers were arrested for posing as U.S. Army officers.

Thousands of scammers are online, posing as U.S. military, trying to entice unsuspecting victims into sending them money. Authorities in Nigeria just arrested 10 men who were doing just that. Here’s the news:

Love scam: 10 Nigerians pose as U.S. Army officers, on

In romance scams, con artists may spend two to three months grooming their targets (that would be you). They slowly gain the target’s trust, proclaim love, and promise to be together. Then they start asking for money. If you hear any of the following, it is a scam:

  • “I need money for a satellite phone.”
  • “I need to pay for official
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By | December 21, 2018 0 Comments

MaryAnn Glynn, LCSW, to host free conference call support group 12/30/18 at 5pm EST

Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, December 30, 2018 at 5 pm EST.  Go and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

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By | December 20, 2018 1 Comments

After the breakup, do sociopaths return?

Here’s a question I hear frequently from Lovefraud readers: Do sociopaths return?

The answer: Some of them don’t, but some of them do.

Many people who have been romantically involved with sociopaths experienced the sudden “devalue and discard.” One day the sociopath loves you. The next day the sociopath tosses you aside like a used tissue and walks away, without ever looking back.

As the person left behind, you may be in shock. You may have had no idea that your partner was unhappy. You may ask yourself, did I do something wrong? Why didn’t he or she say something? Can’t we work this out?

You are also astounded at the callousness of your partner’s behavior. All those … Read more

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By | December 19, 2018 0 Comments

Fake spy with 3 wives — on TV and in real life

Mary Turner Thomson when she married Will Jordan.

The BBC is running a new TV drama called Mrs Wilson — about a woman who discovers her “secret agent” husband has three other wives.

This is exactly the story of Mary Turner Thomson, of Edinburgh, Scotland, whose ex-husband, Will Jordan, claimed to be an American CIA agent. In reality, he was a computer developer with three wives. The Daily Mail recently wrote about the similarities in the stories:

Woman, 53, who thought she had the perfect marriage with her American ‘secret agent’ husband discovers he is serial bigamist with THREE other wives and 13 children.

Lovefraud has been writing about this case for years. In fact, Lovefraud was instrumental … Read more

By | December 17, 2018 1 Comments

Three miserable Christmases with the sociopath, and how to heal from the memories

James Montgomery and Donna Andersen at Christmas, 1996.

I spent three Christmases with my sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery. Every one of them was stressful, unhappy, worrisome and bereft of joyful holiday spirit.

Christmas 1996

We had known each other for five months. We’d already had a secret wedding in Australia with his friends and family. For friends and family in New Jersey, we were planning another wedding in January, complete with bridesmaids, a fancy reception for 60 guests and a six-piece band. Montgomery had already blown through $50,000 of my money and credit, and I did not know how we were going to pay for the wedding. And shortly before Christmas Montgomery pressured me into leasing a … Read more

By | December 15, 2018 2 Comments

My husband’s sex addiction was just the beginning of his disorder

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call, “Marguerite2018.”

I spent over half my life with my now ex-husband. What I’m about to share is a glimpse, as I’m sure is the case for so many of us that have stories upon stories to share of the surreal experiences that we endured with our abusers.

During the course of our relationship, from time to time, I became aware of what I believed was periodic cheating or affairs. We had been through marriage counseling a few times & after each incident, I forgave & assumed it was behind us. In between incidents, there was evidence of heavy porn use. He always hid these things … Read more

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