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Open letter to lawyers who have clients involved with sociopaths

Open letter to lawyers who have clients involved with sociopaths

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Dear Mr. or Ms. Esquire,

When a client tells you his or her opponent is a sociopath, please be aware of the ramifications for your legal case.

First of all, do not disregard the statement just because the opponent hasn’t killed anyone. A common perception is that sociopaths are all deranged serial killers. This is not true—only a small percentage of sociopaths commit murder. But all sociopaths are social predators, and live by exploiting others.

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From the presenter, Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com:

In 2008, I heard the words, “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” (NPD) to describe my then-husband, Seth (not his real name). It took a few years for the reality of those three little words to really sink in.

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Is he a narc? Is he really hurt, or just his ego is hurt?

Is he a narc? Is he really hurt, or just his ego is hurt?

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Vania.” English is not her first language.

I think my ex is a narc but I’m still not sure. So I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for just 3 months. But it means a lot to me because I’m someone who’s super not easy to open up with people, so once I did and once I fall, I will fall so hard. And I also think I am an empath.

Former Marine Raymond McLeod wanted for killing his girlfriend

Former Marine Raymond McLeod wanted for killing his girlfriend

Raymond McLeod, charged with murder, was last seen in Central America. (San Diego Police Dept.)

Krystal Mitchell, a mother of two from Arizona, went on vacation to San Diego with her new boyfriend in June 2016. She never returned.

Raymond McLeod, a 34-year veteran of the U.S. Marines, has been charged with her killing. McLeod took Mitchell’s car to the airport, then rented another car and drove to Mexico.

McLeod has since been seen in Mexico, Belize and Guatemala.

The victim’s mother, Josephine Wentzel, a former police detective from Washington state, said of McLeod, “He is charming, he is deceiving, he is a liar, and he is a viper.” She has asked for the public’s help in finding him.

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My tortured journey to discover the sociopathic truth behind the coincidences

My tortured journey to discover the sociopathic truth behind the coincidences

Editor’s note: The following story was written by the Lovefraud reader from Australia who goes by the name “Acharbet.” He says,The names I use below are false in order to protect the innocent, guilty and bystanders. I have preserved people’s genders in their names, but have obscured ethnicities, which I consider to be irrelevant to my story.”

As mine is a convoluted story, a tortured story, and clearly not a terribly customary story, I am not going to write it in a terribly customary way. I will use no firm and fixed chronology. Instead, I am going to reveal events in the order in which their truths revealed themselves to me.

When white-collar criminals commit fraud, unknowing wives are devastated

When white-collar criminals commit fraud, unknowing wives are devastated

Romance scamMy ex-husband, James Montgomery, was a white-collar criminal. He pretended to be a businessman, but in reality I, and the other women from whom he took more than $1 million, were his business. Federal prosecutors couldn’t be bothered going after him.

Other white-collar criminals, who are likely sociopaths like my husband, commit fraud with their employers. This gets the attention of law enforcement. When they are prosecuted, the casualties include their wives.

In an article for the New York Times, Abby Ellin describes the devastation suffered by women who had no idea what their husbands were doing. They find that other people don’t believe that they were unaware, but I do. I know what it’s like to be conned by a sociopath.

BOOK REVIEW: ‘Psychopath Free’ — helping you understand your disordered romance and recover yourself

BOOK REVIEW: ‘Psychopath Free’ — helping you understand your disordered romance and recover yourself

Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People, by Jackson Mackenzie

Review by Donna Andersen

I admit I’ve been remiss. Jackson Mackenzie’s book, Psychopath Free, came out in 2015, and I just finished reading it. I think I need about 48 hours in the day.

Anyway, if you’ve been romantically involved with a psychopath or other disordered individual, Psychopath Free will ring true for you. Jackson does an excellent job of describing the cycle of an involvement with a psychopath, from the glorious beginning when you’re feeling high on all the attention, to the confusion of the mind games in the middle, to the utter devastation when you are brutally discarded.

Webinar preview: How to Navigate a Court Proceeding when the Opposing Party Is a Sociopath

Personality disordered individuals lie, blame and exaggerate in life — and do the same in court. By anticipating what your opponent will do, you will not be blindsided; you’ll be prepared. Here’s how to overcome their tactics and prove your case.

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In your dealings with a personality-disordered individual, you’ve learned that this person lies, blames and exaggerates. In court, despite swearing an oath to tell the truth, he or she will continue to lie, blame and exaggerate.

How do you protect yourself? How do you make your case?

Austin bomber called himself a ‘psychopath’

Austin bomber called himself a ‘psychopath’

Mark Anthony Conditt (Facebook)

For three weeks, someone terrorized the city of Austin, Texas by delivering package bombs. Two people were killed by the blasts, and four more were injured.

The first three victims were minorities, so law enforcement considered the incidents to be potential hate crimes. They also considered terrorism.

Apparently, there was no reason for the bombings. The perpetrator, Mark Anthony Conditt,  who blew himself up as police closed in on him, had recorded a 25-minute confession video. In it, according to U.S Representative Michael McCaul, Conditt referred to himself as a “psychopath.” Conditt admitted that he didn’t feel any remorse.

Are you changing in ways you don’t like? Maybe your partner’s a sociopath
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Are you changing in ways you don’t like? Maybe your partner’s a sociopath

Husband Liar Sociopath

Sociopaths are fueled by our reactions to them—so sociopaths trigger our emotions. What are the signs this is happening? 

Looking back on my unwitting marriage to a man I now believe is a sociopath, I realize that some of the warning signs that I was in a relationship with a sociopath were changes in my own behavior. My book, Husband, Liar, Sociopath chronicles that marriage and the painful lessons learned. My book, Narcissists, Sociopaths & Wolves  includes a summary of some of the warning signs of being in a relationship with a sociopath.

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