Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call, "Lanie19." They are all monsters. Try to put one in a box and you'll find they are as individual as we humans. It's worth the effort to educate humans but don't get so hung up on identifying them to know if the monster resembles a psycho, a sociopath, or a narcissist. What difference does it make if they kill you after they terrorize and torture you, if they beat you for years or if they lock you in an invisible cage and rip and tear and pick you apart discarding you like trash until their is nothing left of you? What difference does it make? Are we to be less guarded if an alligator is approaching us …
The importance of recognizing the complexities of sociopath relationships
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following commentary from a reader whom we'll call, "Andrea19." My story is similar to those of so many others in this forum. The things my X-husband did were obviously unacceptable. Our 15 years together was a time of seemingly perfect harmony punctuated by periods of hell, where he descended into ways of punishing me or my oldest daughter that three therapists by now have proclaimed to be classical cases of emotional abuse. He also started cheating on me the year we got married, and this only got worse over time. By the time I was pregnant with our second child. I was also the main income earner. In spite of this, I sacrificed my career by …
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This sociopathic girl hacked me and put spyware on my phone
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a woman who posts as "rabb1t." Names are changed. Few years ago I met a girl on FB called Catherine. It was a random add and we liked each others stuff but didn’t really talk for a a few months until May 2016. This girl saw, as she was on my friends list, that I was at a vulnerable time in my life. I had just come out of a bad relationship and I also found out that someone who I thought was my best friend was stealing from me. I expressed my frustration on FB and this Catherine must have seen it as an opportunity to psychologically and emotionally abuse me. Over the days we got talking and she started to send me voice notes and …
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My husband’s sociopathic ex-wife: theft, fraud, embezzlement and child abandonment
Editor's note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call Kimberly19. Names have been changed. I am married to Tom, Barbara's ex-husband and prime victim, and am raising her children, as we were finally successful in gaining sole custody with only very limited, supervised visits granted once a month. I have been served with a TRO (retalliation to pulling off her mask), slandered and subjected to hateful and manipulative comments. This, however, is nothing compared to all that she's done to my husband and the kids, as well as numerous employers. When everything 'blew up', it came to light that there was a massive fiduciary breach and they were days from …
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How my sociopath ex-husband used lies and CPS to take my kids away
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call, "Andrea19." Names are changed. I separated from my ex husband/sociopath in May of 2014. He lied in court under oath in on February 2015 and I had full custody of both kids for 8 months. We divorced in July 2015. October 2015 we had joint custody of both kids. Then my ex had both of my kids for three weeks in a row to take them on a cruise. I had a bad feeling with him having them for an extended period and I was right. He used the time to coach my daughter to say my boyfriend at the time had inappropriately touched her. On the day my daughter went to an unscheduled counselor …
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Adopted by a sociopath, leading to a lifetime of sociopaths
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Evelyn19." Names have been changed. There is so much. There have been 5 sociopaths of extreme significance in my life: My adopted father 2. Two husbands 3. One "boyfriend" 4. My son. These relationships span the entire course of my life. I never told anyone my story until now. I was afraid. Now I am alone, fighting to survive, and still afraid. But I thought maybe my story might open another's person awareness to the dangers, horror and complete destruction they can cause. I was born an "illegitimate" child of a 16-year old girl in a Catholic hospital in Texas. My biological grandmother and …
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Sociopath Survivor Journal Part 2: The failures of family court
Editor's note: A Lovefraud reader, whom we'll call Olivia19, shared her personal reflections, in a stream-of-consciousness style, on her experience with a disordered husband. We’ll publish sections of her journaling over several installments. Read Part 1: When Evil says 'I do.' Lies accepted in family court Left alone by all to prove what rightfully is yours, to pick up the broken pieces and make your life. He continues to make all our children's and my financial choices and lives in deceit and lies. He is innocent unless you prove his guilt; he need not prove truth and his lies are accepted or justified by misinformation and complication he creates. Chaos works, along with a lack of a …
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Sociopath Survivor Journal, Part 1: When Evil says ‘I do’
Editor's note: A Lovefraud reader, whom we'll call Olivia19, shared her personal reflections, in a stream-of-consciousness style, on her experience with a disordered husband. We’ll publish sections of her journaling over several installments. When Evil says “I do” Whether it be Sean, John, Gord, Thomas, Linda or Sue, evil takes on many names. Many faces. They live their lives with lies, half truths, twisting of words and circumstances, manipulation, financial chaos, deceit or out and out lack of kindness and respect. They abuse. They often have lived a second life for years. Suddenly you find yourself living the "common" story. Your marriage is plagued with those hurdles and roadblocks t …
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Meditation on a devastating experience with a sociopath
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call Barbara19. Are you ready for the rain? I recently went through a gut wrenching experience. I have not moved completely through the storm, however I am learning to dance in the rain. Before, I would hide in a cave to escape the feeling of wet clothes and dripping hair on my skin. If I couldn’t find a cave, I would pull out my umbrella, which was as large as a carnival top – yes, the red and white stripped one with the red center flag – I was so used to my umbrella I forgot it was there, just like the white elephant who sat in my living room for 14 years. Who wouldn’t want a cute elephant as a conti …
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Married to a sociopath at 16 and living a lie for 29 years
Editor's Note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Ellen19." I got married at 16 to a guy who was supposed to be a football star. He acted like he was very moral — never lying, never carousing. He was supposed to have had a 3.89 grade average. So popular, smart and moral — his family kept backing him up, and the occasional neighbor would come by to tell me how lucky I was. Fast forward 29 years. I finally divorce him because for the 15 years he was living off me, he had money but he refused to pay bills or provide food. I weighed 83 pounds and he weighed 220. Once I got away from him I found out he casually had sex almost daily and he was giving me H …
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