Last week, I was invited to participate in a “Women’s History Breakfast” at a local high school. The school asked six local women to speak about obstacles they’ve overcome in their lives and careers to a group of approximately 50 girls.
I used the opportunity to talk about sociopaths.
First, I briefly summarized my story: I married James Montgomery, an Australian, who told me he was a Hollywood movie producer and screenwriter, a war hero who served in Vietnam with Special Forces, and who came to Atlantic City to open an electronic theme park for adults on the Boardwalk. The only thing that was true was that he was Australian.
Montgomery took $227,000 from me, cheated with at least six different women during out two-and-a-half year marriage, had a child with one of them, and then, 10 days after I left him, married the mother of the child, committing bigamy for the second time.
I had the girls’ attention.
Then I told them that my husband began his career as a liar and a cheater in high school. One of the women that I interviewed for my upcoming book relayed to me a story that James Montgomery told her: While he was in high school, Montgomery picked up a girl for a date. As they were on their way to wherever they were going, she said she forgot something and had to go back home. The girl and James walk into the house, and sitting there were six other girls—he’d told each one that she was his girlfriend. He was busted.
Now I really had the girls’ attention.
What was this guy’s problem? James Montgomery was a sociopath. I explained what a sociopath usually wasn’t—a delusional serial killer. I explained what it was—someone with no heart, no conscience and no remorse.
Then I read a shortened version of the letter that Lovefraud posted last year from a 15-year-old girl, I didn’t want to be alone and believed that he loved me. The girl described her involvement with a guy who was two years older than her. It was mostly a phone relationship—he couldn’t be bothered to actually see her. But if she went out, he got mad because she wasn’t paying attention to him. Then I read the part of the letter where he tries to get the girl to go along with his sick sexual fantasies.
By now, the girls in my high school audience were shocked.
I concluded my presentation with points on how they could protect themselves from sociopaths: First, know they exist. Second, know the warning signs. Third, trust your intuition.
The girls asked a lot of questions: How did I recover from my marriage to my ex-husband? (Good therapy.) The guy in the letter was verbally abusive—are sociopaths violent? (Sometimes.) Is there any treatment for sociopaths? (Once they are adults, no.)
I hope that I’ve warned 50 girls to be on the lookout for sociopaths.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
okay miss google whiz – i want to know the properties of the essential oil of cumin.
silvermoon
Oil properties
It has a spicy and very penetrating smell.
Origin of cumin oil
Originally from the Mediterranean area, it is a small annual herb about 50cm ( 20 inches) high, with deep green, narrow feathery leaves and tiny white or pink flowers, followed by small oblong seeds.
Known since Biblical times, it is mainly used for its digestive properties. The Egyptians used it for headaches.
The Pharisees paid their taxes with it and in the Middle Ages, feudal lords paid serfs with cumin for services rendered. Cumin is an important ingredient in Indian curries and in Mexican national dishes.
Extraction
Cumin oil is extracted by steam distillation from the ripe seed.
Chemical composition
The main chemical components of cumin oil are cuminic, cymene, dipentene, limonene, phellandrene and pinene.
Precautions
Cumin has an overpowering smell and should be used very sparingly, yet it is considered non-toxic, non-irritant and non-sensitizing. It does have photo-toxic qualities, so should not be used when the skin will be exposed to sunlight.
People with a sensitive skin should avoid it and it should be avoided during pregnancy.
Therapeutic properties
The therapeutic properties of cumin oil are antiseptic, anti-spasmodic, antitoxic, bactericidal, carminative, digestive, diuretic, emmenagogue, nervine, stimulant and tonic.
Uses
Cumin is useful as a warming oil and helps relieve muscular pains and osteoarthritis.
In the digestive system, it is a stimulant that helps with colic, dyspepsia, flatulence, bloating and indigestion.
For the nervous system, it is a tonic and has a beneficial effect on headaches, migraine and nervous exhaustion.
Summary
Cumin oil aids the digestive system, is helpful for the nervous system as a tonic, and relieves muscular aches and pains.
Burners and vaporizers
In vapor therapy cumin oil can be useful for the digestive, nervous and muscular systems.
Cumin oil blends well with
It blends well with angelica, caraway and chamomile.
kim frederick
Silvermoon, You witch, You. 🙂
ErinBrock
In Morocco we went into some ‘voddo’ shop, and they sold all types of things….(shiat, I should looked for a spath eliminator spray).
We bought some seeds that they wrapped in cloth that we snorted….well….through the cloth….that would make it a sniff….or deep smell….
it cleared up the head and relaxing effects….
I think they were cumin seeds…..they were black and small like sesame seeds…..
VERY STRONG…..
silvermoon
As my will Kim………:)
silvermoon
EB,
I have always thought Morrocco was interesting. How did you like it after snorting cumin seed vapor?
one/joy_step_at_a_time
kim – well, as long as you are handing out compliments,….
thank you silvermoon (not a witchy name in the least…)
kim frederick
Ahhh, No.
kim frederick
That is to say, No not a witchy name in the least….and why I like it soo much.
The full moon is soo cool. It is my Goddess. It is all about YIN energy…Dhianna the hunter….the feminine principal.
silvermoon
“Think, before you strike me, Gorlois. Or I will teach you that a daughter of the holy isle is a servant of no man.”
Mists of Avalon……