When looking for love, 20 million Americans look on Internet dating sites. Now, companies offer quick and easy background checks, although some experts worry about their effectiveness.
Read New online-date detectives can unmask Mr. or Ms. Wrong, on NYTimes.com.
Ox Drover
An ashtray?????WTF???? He stole from you and said that his mother sent it to him? LOL I had a “friend” that I am pretty sure now is psychopath who stole things, small things that she didn’t need, and she was a hoarder as well. She and her husband both have been banned from my life and my property! I’m done with people who lie and steal whether they are just dysfunctional or full on psychopaths, I don’t need any of them in my life or my home. LOL
Eva
I read, here i think, it is a kind of trophy. But why did he transformed the ashtray? It was a metallic one and he made it kind of older besides writing the inscription.
I remember he said to me in my apartment “this ashtray is totally industrial” so seems he took it his him to Switzerland and made an ashtray less industrial, more artisan and showed it to me with a happy smile while looking into my eyes. I think he was very excited while he showed it to me.
They take pleasure when they cheat you in front of your face, don’t they?
Eva
😀 yes very frustrating he didn’t take a pair of panties as usual. Just an ashtray…just my luck.
It was a nice ashtray. Cheap one but i liked that ashtray.
ErinBrock
Eva:
You should have taken it back when he had guests over……and put it away…..
messed with his mind a bit…..right back atcha homey!
Knowing he’s a thief…..he wouldn’t of known which ‘friend’ stole his ashtray.
I did this with the spath…..when i’d go over to my rental he was living in……I knew he had friends there staying…..so when they’d go out skiing, or go for the weekend, i’d take cash out of his drawer…….and put other things in his friends room, like his cologne tucked in a suitcase, hang his leather jacket in their closet etc…….
Soon after, he sent these friends packing abruptly, and the guy called me to ask what was up with the asshole accusing him of stealing from him!!!! I thought we were friends?????
I said…..Oh, that’s just ‘who’ he is….you may want to think about ‘who’ your hanging out with?!!?!
Counter control…..BACK SPATH!!!!!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
heheeee…The Inner Spath Award of 2010 has been awarded to ErinBrock for her many and inventive forays into mindf******* her spath ex.
soimnotthecrazee1
I second that award!!!! Very crafty EB!!!!! Gotta luv ya!!!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
she’s done some fun stuff to the business spaths too. ask her about the computer.
soimnotthecrazee1
One,
I will ask her. In the height of my breakdown from running from him. I pulled some good ones too! I have just tried to let it rest in my memory. To be honest, if I would have just been silent and left, I would have been better off…. but after what he did to me I was leaving the markings on the walls! Not litterally, just in his head and heart. He would try to one up me and i would one up him!
soimnotthecrazee1!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
that’s why stealth is so important. not only does it give us some sense of control, we play a game that is silent and if done right, keeps THEM off balance, not us.
and i hate to say it, but i doubt you left a mark in his heart…that would suggest he had something to work with in that area.
soimnotthecrazee1
EB,
As per One above… tell me , tell me, what did you do to the computer?
NTCRZE