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Interview: Lying to get someone in bed is sexual assault

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Catch Joyce Short, author of Carnal Abuse by Deceit, and soon-to-be released, Don't Swallow That Catfish Hook, discussing why "lying to get laid" is a crime on CBC radio Sunday, September 11, 2016 at 11 am EDT. Jim Brown, an award winning producer and the highly acclaimed host of The 180 — Canada's national radio show to spark conversation on hot topics — jumped right in on the important question ”¦ “People often tell little white lies to impress a possible partner. At what point do those lies add up to fraud?“ Short stresses that this discussion applies to sexual assault by fraud victims, whether they live in Bombay, Boston or Bangkok. "All around the world, victims suffer the humiliation a …

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Lies, manipulation, cheating, fraud, drugs, fake remorse, threats – this marriage to a sociopath had it all

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Noreen." My soon-to-be ex-husband of 14 years, whom I thought was loving, adoring and charming, is actually a very manipulative, deceitful and emotionally abusive sociopath. Met at 17 He hooked me at 17 years old. I was fun, ambitious and a lot of boys pursued me. Best of all, I was naive. I see the good in everyone. And even though he did some bad stuff at the time ”¦ I attributed it to him just being a teenager. I was amazed how he seemed to be a magnet to everyone around him. People were drawn to him. He was so charismatic and no matter what he did ”¦ they loved him. We met working for a retail shop an …

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Senior Sociopath survey: Were you involved with a sociopath who was over the age of 50?

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There's a rumor floating around in mental health circles that sociopaths "burn out" with age, that they engage in less antisocial behavior as they get older. Is this true? Lovefraud wants to find out. So we've developed a survey to gather data from you. Were you involved with a sociopath while he or she was over age 50? The individual could have been any of the following: Your spouse or ex-spouse Your romantic partner Your parent Your stepparent Your child Your stepchild Your sibling Another family member A work colleague A business associate A friend, neighbor or acquaintance If you are familiar with how this individual behaved while over the age of 50, please …

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It’s Not Complicated–He’s a Sociopath

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  Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 22: The Show Must Go On “Where secrecy or mystery begins, vice or roguery is not far off.” — Samuel Johnson   Keeping my life all but invisible and inconsequential to Paul was not the only pillar upon which the “success” of my marriage (i.e., lack of tension) depended. Another pillar was accepting living in an information void. Secrecy is symptomatic of soci …

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Help for building your support team so you can end a toxic relationship

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  By Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW Starting September 24, 2016, I will be hosting a five-week Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Seminar & Support Group by teleconference for people in the US and EU. I especially invite readers of Lovefraud.com to join me in this powerful, supportive environment dedicated to cultivating the skills and strategies you need to create your best, happiest, sanest life possible after a difficult relationship with a toxic partner. In my recent book, The Five Step Exit: Skills You Need to Leave a Narcissist, Psychopath, or Other Toxic Partner and Recover Your Happiness Now, I recommend that anyone who is involved with a toxic partner, preparing to …

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How do I avoid dating a sociopath like my father?

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[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/UKtYJyhTe40" title="How%20do%20I%20avoid%20dating%20a%20sociopath%20like%20my%20father?"] A 24-year-old woman asks for advice. Her father is a sociopath, and so was her boyfriend. She doesn't know what a healthy relationship looks like so how can she learn to avoid dating another sociopath? I explain that the young woman not only had poor role models, she's suffering from a betrayal bond. The best thing she can do is work on her personal recovery. Then, I tell her how to protect herself from sociopaths. Letters to Lovefraud Videos is a new feature of Lovefraud.com. If you have a question that you'd like me to answer in a video, please send it to donna at l …

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Florida judge is publicly shamed for berating a domestic violence victim

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[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/gM7Q5M2Yuy0" title="Judge%20Jerrii%20Collins%20reprimanded%20by%20Florida%20Supreme%20Court"] A Florida woman called the police in April 2015 the father of her child choked her and threatened her with a knife. The man was arrested and put on trial. Suffering from anxiety, the domestic violence victim failed to show up to testify. Florida Judge Jerri Collins berated the woman, charged her with contempt of court, and threw her in jail for three days even though the victim pleaded that she had a 1-year-old child to care for. On Wednesday, Judge Collins was publicly reprimanded on live TV for her "intolerable" behavior by the Florida Supreme Court. This …

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No Contact vs Justice

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as "justlikeyou." I will not give up my power. You have taken enough from me. First a little background. I'm a nurse. I'm a proud American. I have worked in the field of developmental disabilities for 20 plus years. I have lived in California all of my life. California is unique in the way we serve individuals with developmental disabilities. There are families who move to this state simply because of it. In 1969 the Lanterman Act was passed in California. Simply put “The Lanterman Act declares that persons with developmental disabilities have the same legal rights and responsibilities guaranteed all other p …

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Some Sociopath Tools And Why They Work

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 21: A Second Look What was Paul really doing? What were the specific tools and techniques the master puppeteer employed that are also used by fellow sociopaths and manipulators? Paul started by using the technique of devaluing or minimizing my needs. As a sociopath, this came naturally to him, because a sociopath truly places zero value on anyone's needs but his own. By P …

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Domestic violence and brain trauma

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Many women who endured domestic violence suffer from headaches, memory loss, and confused thinking. The cause may be traumatic brain injuries due to blows to the head. Women may be exposed to the same type of head injuries as football players. Fists not football: Brain injuries seen in domestic assaults, on Foxnews.com. …

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