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Editor’s note: A Lovefraud reader, whom we’ll call Marilyn23, tells how her husband stole all the assets that she’d built up over years and controlled her through his parenting rights. I was unknowingly groomed by my partner for years. I was an independent successful artist and businessperson. I had saved money to start purchasing investment properties. He insinuated himself into my finances, though I did not need his support.  He was very pushy and persuasive insisting couples should share financial growth. He always made false promises. That he would help with the work or expenses to renovate but just got overly controlling. I did all the work.  Read more: Why psych …

He stole all the assets, abandoned his child, and kept his parenting rightsRead More

Editor's Note: This story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader who we'll call “Marcia.” She describes her involvement with a man who she now believes is a sociopath, and how her relationship had three distinct phases. I met him on Chemistry.com in February of 2009. He wrote to me through the site and we corresponded several times before speaking on the phone. I liked his profile very well and enjoyed his style of writing and what he wrote in our correspondence. When we spoke on the phone, we had no problem starting and maintaining a conversation on the phone. He was articulate, intelligent and had all the time in the world for me. We met on March 6, 2009 for a drink. I got there first an …

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Our relationship had three distinct phasesRead More

Editor's Note: Lovefraud received the following story from a woman whom we'll call "Abigail." She relates how she fell for her so-called boyfriend's lies, over and over. I met my now ex-boyfriend June 2004. I had been divorced for 4 years; my kids were 7 and 10. He is a police officer. The night I met he seemed depressed, I asked him, "Why are you so sad?" He replied, “I got divorced this week.” By the end of the night I was really excited; I really liked him! I had been alone for four years. We started dating. Since I thought he was recently divorced, I didn't question him when he didn't call and sometimes, although I would speak to him, I wouldn't see him on the weekends. That only …

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: I fell for it a million timesRead More

Editor’s note: A Lovefraud reader is shocked to realize that his sister is a sociopath. Here he tells his story.  What I’ll be sharing here is not a good story … It is in fact a very sad and dysfunctional situation I am dealing with. I post this so that others may learn how to identify and navigate through if faced with a similar situation. Interactions with a controlling person:  Have you ever dealt with a controlling person? … Someone that feels they just have to have their way no matter what. They go so far as to try to control not only every outcome, but also every action of others around them. In addition, they work to manipulate others in such a way that, though …

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Editor's Note: In this post, another Lovefraud reader tells her story of being deceived by a sociopath. He was an attractive, well built-man for his 47 years. When we met three years ago, I thought he was extremely handsome and charming. He was fun to be around, and seemed to crave the same physical and emotional contact as I did. He said he was not married and that he had just ended a relationship with a woman he had been dating because she was pressuring him to meet his daughters and he was not ready for that kind of intimacy. Over a short period of time, about four weeks, he talked about his abusive mother, his time in the Navy as a SEAL and a reservist. He suffered from the same kind …

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Not one thing about him was realRead More