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Could oxytocin – the brain’s love chemical – be the real ‘love potion #9’?

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Editor's note: Joyce M. Short is the author of a just released book, “Carnal Abuse by Deceit.” The book chronicles her life with a predator, the subsequent aftermath and her road to recovery. It also provides advice for victims and their supporters, and discusses the issues surrounding criminalization of rape-by-fraud. Joyce lives in New York City, where she's a real estate broker, professional tennis instructor and a strong advocate for her community. By Joyce M. Short Does Love Potion #9 Really Exist? The hit record written by Leiber & Stoller back in 1959, Love Potion #9, was originally recorded by The Clovers and published by the Aberbach brothers who owned Hill & Range Songs …

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Reports of U.S. child abuse are down, but fatalities are up

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Reports of child abuse and neglect totaled 686,000 during fiscal 2012, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. That terrible number is actually an improvement, down from 688,000 in 2011. A total of 1,640 deaths were attributed to child abuse and neglect. About 70% of the children who died were under 3 years old. Parents were the perpetrators in 80% of the cases. New federal data: Child abuse reports dip slightly, but child fatalities rise, on StarTribune.com.   …

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Narcissistic men and hostility towards women

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Psychologist Dr Scott Keiller from Kent State University at Tuscarawas conducted a study with 104 men to measure attitudes regarding traditional roles of men and women. He found that narcissistic heterosexual men are more likely to have hostility toward heterosexual women than toward gay women or men.  The narcissists perceive heterosexual women as having more control over whether their sexual desires are fulfilled. A man with attitude, from Science Centric Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.   …

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Married to A Sociopath: A False Sense of Control

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By Quinn Pierce   Learning Avoidance When you are in a relationship with a sociopath, you quickly learn the act of avoidance.  Without saying a word, a sociopath can let you know exactly when he or she is angry or disappointed with your behavior.   That leads you to begin reacting to subtle clues and hints that may never be stated, but are clearly understood. For me, I began avoiding all situations that would create that indescribable tension in the house.  The feeling of walking on egg shells while holding my breath. Hollow Choices Sometimes, it would mean turning down a shopping trip with friends, or a trip to the store without the children.  It just became easier to avoid …

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Bruce Lipton explains why genes are not destiny

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I use "sociopathy" as an umbrella term to cover several disorders in which people exploit others antisocial personality disorder, psychopathy, narcissism, borderline personality disorder. One of the truly scary aspects of sociopathy is that it is highly genetic. If a child has a sociopathic parent, or sociopaths somewhere on the family tree, the child could inherit a predisposition to become a sociopath as well. So how do you prevent this from happening? By using experience to modify biology. Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., is author of a book called The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter and Miracles. In this video presentation, Lipton lays out the basic science of …

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True recovery from the sociopath through tapping and energy psychology

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I believe true recovery from sociopathic betrayal is literally in our own hands. Many people have quietly become aware of a healing technique known by several names: tapping, energy psychology, emotional freedom technique (EFT).  Using this approach, many people have recovered from emotional pain, physical pain, illness, anxiety, depression and PTSD. So what is it? With your fingers, you tap certain points on your body mostly on your face while bringing to mind specific aspects of the condition that you want to heal. The tapping creates an electrical charge that breaks the connection between your memory of your experience and how you feel today. It doesn't matter when the past experience …

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Documentary reveals the shameless practices of big business divorce

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"I think death would be easier than a divorce." "People can get as much justice as they can afford. Most people can't afford any justice." "Follow the money" Divorce Corp, a documentary narrated by Dr. Drew Pinsky, will hit theaters in January 2014. The tag line sums it up: " Marriage is an institution. Divorce is big business." Interviews with divorce attorneys, divorce mediators, judges, and litigants reveal the inner workings of the $50 billion a year U.S. family law industry. The film's creators, Dr. Drew Pinsky, Joseph Sorge, Philip Sternberg and James Scurlock, had no idea when they began their project that they would uncover the dark corner of the judicial system where fiefdoms …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: The menacing spirit

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Editor's note: The following article was written by Lovefraud reader "Carmella" and refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery.  The subject that I've been deliberating very long and hard about posting is very sticky, very personal, and somewhat spiritually volatile, but as I reflect, I begin to see how this phenomenon has followed me throughout my life from its very beginnings. I realize that my exposure to this psychological/spiritual archetype had even caused me to "join the ranks" temporarily as I (and here is the irony) searched for an escape from it. The archetype of which I speak is that of the menacing spirit the spirit of the bored, …

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Co-Parenting With A Sociopath: Children and Healing

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By Quinn Pierce Two weeks ago, my older son was admitted to the hospital due to his anxiety.  He was unable to overcome the panic attacks and overwhelming fear that has plagued him since the end of the summer, and we decided it was time for a higher level of care. As traumatic as the decision was for me, I knew in my heart it was the best decision for him; and it truly was.  It may have been the most difficult day of my life, but I kept in mind the healing that would finally begin for my son. The Constant Drama Takes a Toll I also kept in mind the fact that all of this might not have happened if it were not for my ex-husband, my son's father, who has riddled our lives with such chaos …

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Joyce Alexander believes her son, William ‘Patrick’ Alexander, already convicted of cold-blooded murder, will kill her too

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Editor's note: This is the story of the Lovefraud author Joyce Alexander, who comments as "Ox Drover." By Donna Andersen William "Patrick" Alexander didn't want to go back to prison. He was 19 years old, almost 20, and had already done two years for aggravated burglary. Patrick suspected that 17-year-old Jessica Witt, of Dallas, Texas, was going to rat him out. Or perhaps she already did. Patrick had used a credit card stolen from Jessica's grandfather to pay for a trip to California, in violation of his parole. He racked up $8,000 in charges. On January 17, 1992, Patrick and one of his unsavory friends were at Jessica's apartment. Patrick told the friend that he was going to …

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