Editor's note: Following is an email exchange that I had with a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call, "Susana21." She describes encountering the narcissistic ex, and how it affected her. Susana 21 writes: After a long and difficult relationship, I finally ended things and, even though my logic had been screaming at me to do it years sooner, it took my heart a few more years and MUCH pain before it finally caught up. I was doing No Contact and was finally starting to feel better. Finally. !! And then ... A few weeks ago, totally by coincidence, I was leaving a store and a car pulled up beside me. My narcissist. If the situation was reversed, I would have totally ignored him and kept …
Move Forward in the New Year, from Goodbyes to Big Dreams
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, encourages you to let Spirit help you move forward in the New Year. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Another year draws to a close. Always a mixed blessing, isn't it? It will have been a year of both good and bad times. Unfortunately, many people focus on the bad ones and minimise the good. And perhaps this is the year that you ended a toxic relationship, or have continued recovering from one that ended some time ago, and those painful memories still bubble up now and then. Thank heaven we are resilient healing beings, especially if we choose to move past whatever …
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How explicit and implicit memory are affected by family violence
Editor's note: Caroline Parsons is an attorney from Queensland, Australia. Today she explains how explicit and implicit memory are affected by family violence. Learn more about Caroline Parsons on the Lovefraud Announcements page or in her author profile. By Caroline Parsons, Esq. Have you ever gone to collect your car keys and been completely clueless as to where you put them? Or spent ages searching for your sunglasses only to find them perched on your head? These are lapses of our “explicit” memory: the conscious, intentional recollection of factual information, previous experiences and concepts. So that we can eat, ride bikes and get dressed every day without having to consciously rem …
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Why I wrote ‘Involved with a Cad for 7 Years in the Twilight Zone’
By Darlene Nolin I wrote my new book, Involved with a Cad for 7 Years in the Twilight Zone, so that I could gain some peace while going through my journey of healing and recovering after marriage fraud and abuse. It enabled me to move forward with my life in a more positive direction. I wanted to shine a bright light on a very dark chapter in my life, instead of sweeping it under the rug. My story is an eye-opening cautionary tale exposing the devastating consequences of predatory foreign nationals who initiate internet relationships for the purpose of obtaining a green card through marriage to an American citizen. It was an ill-fated relationship marked by indifference, adversity, …
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Even after the sociopath, you can choose hope and recovery
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds you that even after your life has been blown to smithereens by a sociopath, you can choose hope and recovery. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest I'll bet you know what it is to be hopeful. And I'll bet you know what it is to feel completely hopeless, too. It's pretty miserable, to say the least. I've always said you can live a long time on just a little bit of hope. But when it's gone, it feels like life isn't worth living. You might be in that dark and painful place right now, especially if your life has just been blown to smithereens by a sociopath. But you …
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Don Charles Andrew Tyler Grey Fletcher AKA Andrew Funches AKA Ty Fortner now scams women internationally
Here's more proof that sociopaths never stop scamming. Back in June 2012, Lovefraud published a story about Andrew Funches, AKA Ty Fortner, scamming more than 10 women. Now, eight years later, we learn that he has a new name — Don Charles Andrew Tyler Grey Fletcher — but the same game. Except, where he once operated mostly in Chicago, he's now looking for targets in London and Barcelona! Yes, he legally changed his name to Don Charles Andrew Tyler Grey Fletcher. Having so many names is convenient, because he mixes and matches them, depending on the current scam. For example, in addition to scamming women, he was operating a bartending/catering business and proceeded to scam couples who …
When divorcing a sociopath, can we learn from ostriches?
Editor's note: Lovefraud welcomes a new author, Attorney Caroline Parsons from Queensland, Australia. Today she explains that when divorcing a sociopath, putting your head in the sand may not be the best idea. Learn more about Caroline Parsons on the Lovefraud Announcements page or in her author profile. By Caroline Parsons, Esq. Divorce is traumatic, even when it’s amicable. If you're divorcing a sociopath and the marriage was abusive, the impact is even more damaging to the psyche. There are a number of ways our brains adapt to trauma. We may numb the pain with alcohol or drugs, bury ourselves in work, dissociate, dissolve in anger or withdraw deep within to protect ourselves. Another …
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Christmas and Toxic Relationships: Not-So-Great Expectations
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains how Christmas and toxic relationships may increase the pressure others place on us, and the pressure we place on ourselves. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest This season is supposed to be about wonder and magic, about loving and giving, aspects of our lives that we're meant to be contemplating throughout the year but especially now. But somehow, it can become too easy to be swallowed up in shoulds, oughts and musts. Throughout the year, people expect us to be, do or give this or that, but at Christmas, this is all amplified. The expectations rise, and we feel …
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Toxic relationships are like being chased by a tiger
Editor's note: Lovefraud welcomes a new author, Attorney Caroline Parsons from Queensland, Australia. Today she explains how the violence — physical and emotional — of toxic relationships affects your brain. Learn more about Caroline Parsons on the Lovefraud Announcements page or in her author profile. By Caroline Parsons, Esq. In prehistoric times, when a caveman realised he had been spotted by a sabre-toothed tiger, his primitive brain flooded his body with cortisol so he could fight or escape the beast. “Freezing” (or becoming immobile) is also a response to extreme threat. When a modern brain reacts in a similar way to a traumatic event, it can result in post-traumatic stress. …
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In Recovery from a Sociopath, Faith and Hope Can Make All the Difference
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds you that in recovery from a sociopath, faith and hope are crucial. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest If you've been dealing with the fallout of a relationship with a sociopath, or if you're experiencing other challenges, things might feel awful for you right now. I hope not, but of course Life does have a way of being miserable sometimes. And in some cases, it can go on a very long time. It's not as miserable when you feel like you have some control over the situation...when you can actively do something to make it better, to change it in some way and get …
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