I recently finished reading Cults In Our Midst—The continuing fight against their hidden menace, by Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer. The book is not new—it was originally published in 1995, and the revised edition that I read was published in 2003. It is a comprehensive description of cults, which the author defines as:
a group that forms around a person who claims he or she has a special mission or knowledge, which will be shared with those who turn over most of their decision making to the self-appointed leader.
Before reading Cults In Our Midst, I’d read and watched TV programs about some cult leaders, and noticed the similarity between their behavior and the behavior of sociopaths. I developed the opinion that cult leaders were simply sociopaths who employed their natural “skills” of charisma, charm, deceit and manipulation to convince others to follow them, and do as they commanded, even when it ended in death, as in Jonestown and Waco.
I expected to see a similar view in this book, and was surprised not to find it. Singer was an experienced clinical psychologist, yet, in this book at least, she does not link cult leaders and personality disorders. Perhaps she didn’t conduct formal research on what the two have in common. But in reading the book, the connection seemed obvious to me.
Cultic relationship
Singer defines a cultic relationship as:
one in which a person intentionally induces others to become totally or nearly totally dependent on him or her for almost all major life decisions, and inculcates in these followers a belief that he or she has some special talent, gift, or knowledge.
She describes cult leaders as self-appointed, persuasive, determined, domineering and charismatic. The cults are authoritarian in structure, and have double sets of ethics—members are to be open and honest within the group, but deceive and manipulate everyone else. The overriding philosophy of cults is that the ends justify the means.
Gee, where have we heard that before?
Anyone is vulnerable
Singer points out that everyone is susceptible to these master manipulators. She writes that two-thirds of the people who joined cults came from normal, functioning families. Still, there are some situations that increase risk:
Any person who is in a vulnerable state, seeking companionship and a sense of meaning or in a period of transition or time of loss, is a good prospect for cult recruitment. ”¦ I have found two conditions make an individual especially vulnerable to cult recruiting: being depressed and being in between important affiliations.
By “between important affiliations,” Singer meant a person was not engaged in a meaningful personal relationship, job, educational training program, or some other life involvement.
Singer spends a lot of time explaining exactly how cults go about recruiting people. One of the prime methods she describes is something we are all familiar with—love bombing. The author explains this as flooding new recruits with “flattery, verbal seduction, affectionate but usually nonsexual touching, and lots of attention to their every remark.”
Again, sound familiar?
Learning to manipulate
So how do people become cult leaders? As I said, Singer never suggests that cult leaders are disordered people who are exhibiting their natural, disordered behavior.
Singer calls the perpetrators “con artists.” She says that their prime skills are persuasion and manipulation. She writes:
There is no end to the ways a person can learn to manipulate others, especially if that person has no conscience, feels no guilt over living off the labors and money of others, and is determined to lead.
She continues:
I believe that the successful cult leaders monitor, observe, and learn from what they try and, as needed revise and reformulate the folk art of persuasion.
So, reading this book, Singer seems to say that certain people simply decide that they are going to become cult leaders, and then figure out how to do it. She makes no mention of inborn personality traits or any type of personality disorder—even though her words are perfect descriptions of sociopaths.
Ostracized by her profession
During the 1980s, Singer was an expert witness on court cases involving mind control. She testified in the trial of Kenneth Bianchi, the “Hillside Strangler,” that he was not suffering from multiple personality disorder, as he claimed. On a TV show, Singer said that Bianchi was a psychopath. She also repeatedly testified against the Unification Church.
In 1983, the American Psychological Association (APA) asked Singer to chair a task force on Deceptive and Indirect Techniques of Persuasion and Control. Then, the APA rejected her report.
In fact, the APA filed a “friend of the court” brief in a case against the Unification Church. Dr. Singer and a colleague, Dr. Samuel Benson, had argued that the Unification Church recruiters “engage in systematic manipulation of the social influences surrounding the potential recruit to the extent that the recruit, in fact, loses the capacity to exercise his own free will and judgment.”
The APA stated that Singer’s theory of coercive persuasion was not a meaningful scientific concept, and her testimony in the case should not be allowed. The brief stated:
Specifically, the conclusions Drs. Singer and Benson assert cannot be said to be scientific in any meaningful sense (Point I.B.), and the methodologies generating those conclusions depart so far from methods generally accepted in the relevant professional communities that they are incapable of producing reliable or valid results (Point I.C.). Stripped of the legitimating lustre of a scientific pedigree, plaintiffs purported scientific claim of coercive persuasion is little more than a negative value judgment rendered by laypersons about the religious beliefs and practices of the Unification Church. (Point I.D.).
Read Brief Amicus Curiae of the American Psychological Association
Singer sued the APA, and lost. Afterwards, she reworked much of the rejected material on Deceptive and Indirect Techniques of Persuasion and Control into the book, Cults In Our Midst. Since the first edition of the book came out in 1995, powerful cults threatened and harassed Singer, and filed lawsuits against her. So the introduction to the revised edition explained that an account of one of the cults was deleted.
Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer died in 2003.
Cults In Our Midst is available on Amazon.com.
Lots of great information from you all- very appreciated.I guess what I’m asking is this: are psycho/sociopaths born that way or can drugs have the same affect on the behavior in your opinion? Could Jim Jones & Larry Layton along with other cult leaders been born “normal” with no spath traits – for real- nothing wrong – and through environment and drugs etc… somehow wound up with the same behaviour? If you look at thier backgrounds it doesn’t fit, where if you look at Bundy etc…the spathy behavioue was there all through his childhood & parenting. I’ve seen a few “real” spaths in my days & I just cant help but wonder if there are people who have taken so many drugs who arent really spaths but end up as as ruthless and unhuman as a real spath.
Brain damage to the centers where emotions are felt could create what appears to be spathic behaviors.
If we define narcissism and psychopathy as a state of emotionally arrested development – as in, having the emotional awareness of a two year old – then I don’t see drugs as capable of taking a fully integrated adult human being and turning them into a spath permanently. Maybe some drugs can numb emotions temporarily – I think meth and crack can.
On the other hand, there are many people in our society whom I call “fence sitters”. They also have the emotional capacity of a young child, maybe 7 or 8 years old. It’s easy to influence them because they don’t have set values which are fully integrated into their identities. Drugs can have a more dramatic impact on their brains.
So it all depends on what you start with before you add the drugs.
People are “cocktails” of their genes and everything that has ever happened to them. It is now becoming commonly accepted that the expression of genes is very often tied to the environment of the organism.
ironschool7,
Having known and having had many close personal relationships with alcoholics and addicts in my life experience… I can only speak from what I know and have witnessed with addictive behaviors.
Both drugs and alcohol can produce many bad & inexcusable behaviors in people. Yet I believe there are many fine lines that differ from an addicts behavior vs spath behavior. The lines although FINE they may be, still exist.
If you have a close personal relationship with an addict you can occasionally still SEE the person that you know and love trapped within the disease that seems to now define them, their actions and their behaviors. In other words if you stripped away the alcohol or drugs from them they wouldn’t be DOING what they are doing under the influence.
There is ALOT of guilt that is buried below the surface of an addict. The guilt even plays a part in the cycle of the addiction. Particularly during the early years as addiction progresses.
And an addict doesn’t WANT to be an addict…Although sometimes their behavior doesn’t show this outwardly. It can appear that they are in control of their behavior. But the truth is they are totally out of control & if you know them well enough you can see the suffering.
This guilt is NOT found in spaths. Nor is the suffering. With a spath all of this is an illusion they create. Not real.
There is something that is hard to define here….In other words yes, the addict SEEMINGLY IS making the choice on a daily basis to continue to drink or drug to continue the cycle of the addiction.
However you also begin to understand that for the addict this choice isn’t the same as it would be for you or I to make a choice if we would like to have a cocktail for dinner.
The addiction itself has taken away from them the ability to make this choice with normal REASONING behind it.
Many drugs often take this one step further and do cause delusional thinking & psychosis.
Also many studies have been done where depending on how old the person was when they first started drinking or drugging……If they started young there is a very good chance that they have arrested development.
So if they started at 15 let’s say even though they might be an out of control alcoholic at 45 years old now….They still have emotional capacity of a 15 year old.
Most addicts need help to stop using. If they continue they can inflict alot of pain to their family and loved ones.
But the intent behind this pain isn’t the same as pain inflicted by a spath.
NOW there are many spaths that also drink and drug. This is a total different story.
I do not believe that drugs contribute to ending up being a spath.
Redwald, sorry about the CRS, I’ll have to check and see my source, but I am SURE that the bi-polar thing is in one of the research books I read. I will also e mail Liane Leedom and see if she knows the source. I can’t remember where the left handedness came from either, but I remember it also as well as the ADHD…it maybe from Liane’s book, just can’t remember off hand.
I have another source of research that I will contact too. I’ll get back to you ASAP. Joyce
Red I have sent off my missives to my experts so hopefully will hear back in a day or two.
The mania in bi-polar can cause grandiose thinking and so on, and many of the people with bi-polar seem to like the highs of mania, and refuse to take medication because it robs them of this “high.” Many also “self medicate” for depression with drugs and alcohol, as do psychopaths, and the alcohol and drugs by dis-inhibiting them bring out the spathy behavior in spades, maybe increase the physical violence as well.
Just because someone has ONE mental health issue doesn’t mean they can’t have two or more. The Trojan Horse psychopath was bi-polar, left handed, diagnosed ADHD and ASPD as well as was also a drug user /substance abuser. Talk about a LOSER PEDIOPHILE! LOL
As far as I know my son Patrick is not bi-polar, depressed and hasn’t shown any great problem with drugs that I know of, but really he hasn’t lived in my house since he was 17 and drugs are available in prison. I know he got nabbed once for drinking rot gut liquor and passing out when he first went to prison. Another time he drank paint thinner (the report said) but I don’t have a lot of evidence. He is not ADHD I am pretty sure, but he is left handed.
Thanks, Oxy! Yes, disorders that mimic one another can be confusing. That “grandiosity” that can appear in the manic stage of bipolar disorder can look just like a typical case of narcissism. Then the mood shifts, the “cyclothymia” often seen in borderline personalities could be confused with bipolar disorder. It’s all very difficult for a diagnostician, I’m sure.
Red,
and it works the other way too.
When my spath was in the middle of his last conjob on me, he became “unhinged” so to speak.
This guy is what would usually be described as rock steady.
Nerves of steel, unruffled. Though he networks like a hummingbird, it’s always with the air of authority.
Yet, during his last “performance” he resorted to crying, yelling, threats etc… All of this was to demonstrate that he was under “stress” because Homeland Security was after him. LOL.
So this would make it even more difficult for a diagnostician to figure out. A spath can appear bi-polar by using his acting skills, just as much as a bi-polar can appear spath during a manic stage.
I’ve been lurking on enough of the spath websites to learn that they not only study empaths, but they study the other PD’s and mental illnesses in order to mimic them as well. It helps them slide under the radar when they commit murder or whatever.
One spath guy was even bragging how he was taking in a few thousand from the government by using his mental disorder to get government assistance. Then he was running several businesses on the side. He said that the first couple times he tried to get diagnosed as schizophrenic, he failed but he would just move and try again with a different agency. He finally succeeded. He’s a happy spath now.
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I must add that my spath wasn’t faking all of his craziness during the last con. That is when he “lost it” and called his mother a c**t. He had never shown disrespect (for her) before since I had known him. He had kept it under his mask that he hated her since he was 12 years old.
His attack on me and his determination to murder me brought it all to the surface. I was just a subsitute victim for the woman whose love he really wanted but could never feel, his mom. Their cons make them giddy. I’ve heard it said that a predator is most vulnerable when he has his prey in his sights because he becomes most focused at that time.
My experiences have led me to believe that cult leaders are simply adept psychopaths/sociopaths who have discovered the ultimate platform to act-out their greatest desires to control, manipulate, and emotionally exanguinate their victims.
The “garden variety” of spath that we discuss on these boards are typically people whom we had intimate relationships with – intimacy does not always mean sexual, either. The inclusion of drugs (prescribed or illegal) does not, in my humble opinion, factor in to the development of a sociopath – it only exacerbates their grandiosity and tactics.
OxDrover often remarks about educating the professionals, FIRST, and she is spot-on with this belief! Even the “pros” cannot come to any rational conclusions on this issue, and most “professionals” are either ignorant of true sociopathy, or they’re spaths, themselves.
Always remember this fact: power corrupts. What’s more powerful than the ability to form, mold, alter, and nullify a person’s core beliefs?
SKYLAR!!!! Omigosh, it just dawned on me how flipping TRUE your statement was about how and what the spath “studies!”
The exspath read all of the popular spathy books after I did! By reading these books, a spath can actually learn to guard their “tells” better and troll for victims more effectively!!!! THEN, when they are caught between the hammer and anvil that they’ve created for themselves, they will mimic organic mental disorders to excuse their behaviors and choices!
About 2 weeks before I discovered what the exspath really was, he actually asked me, “Do you think I might be bi-polar?” Now, this was prior to the repulsive and alarming physical evidence that I discovered, and I look directly at him and said, “What do you think the symptoms of bi-polar disorder are?” Well, he named off a couple of them that were correct, and I suggested that he’s never exhibited any of those symptoms, but a professional (UGH!) would be qualified to give him an answer.
Holy cow, Skylar, thank you SO much for that valuable insight!!!!