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Lies and manipulation from a disordered wife and mother-in-law

October 25, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  3 Comments

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call Jerome21 about his disordered wife and mother-in-law. Hello, I married a woman who has a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. I moved her in and helped her get custody of her son back from a most likely personality disordered mother. Things were never great but I kept the faith that if I stayed loyal and helpful to my wife she’d eventually “see the light”. My mother in law was irate that the child she took from my wife was returned and she blamed me. After all I provided the home and the stability that made it possible. Almost immediately CPS were frequently at our home for false reports. We als …

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Spath Tales

Bigamy: My husband was married to three women at once

October 18, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

Lovefraud received an email from a woman whom we’ll call Clara2 about the bigamy committed by her husband. Names are changed. I was married on Nov. 3, 2007 to Lawrence Riley, three yrs older than me. We had dated a year prior to being married. During this time, I was diagnosed with breast cancer which he stood by my side during the process. When we got home from the hospital, one evening a girl called a burner phone which I had bought him after he was let go from his job. He needed a cell while out looking for other work. The girl claimed to be his wife. She told how after he and I had gotten into a fight he had come to her. They had stayed up all night drinking and having sex. The n …

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A father writes: Open letter to my son

October 17, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  6 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2021. Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a man whom we'll call "Scott." Scott was involved with a woman who he now believes is a narcissist or sociopath. We'll call her "Valerie." Valerie had a son and told Scott that he was the father, although he had his doubts. The two split up, but Scott supported the boy for 18 years and was active in his life. Then Scott found out that he was not the boy's father, and Valerie is now doing everything she can to keep the boy away from Scott. A father's tragedy I claim you as my son. I claim you as only a father can! However, you don't claim me, the man who raised you. The first time I saw your face your …

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Spath Tales

Mental health counselor learns about psychopaths the hard way

October 11, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Verna21.” She’s a mental health counselor who was deceived by a psychopathic co-worker. I worked at the Department of Corrections as a mental health counselor. One of the officers targeted me after my grandmother died and after I had gone through two years of abuse trying to stay in D.O.C. after I stood up for myself and asked for a group of officers to be held accountable for their sexually inappropriate behaviors. D.O.C. would not be responsible and they made accusations against me and although I was told that there was no proof or evidence of any behaviors on my part, it didn't matter because the off …

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Spath Tales

Learning the hard way that sociopaths do not change

September 12, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  1 Comment

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call Carmen21. After going back and forth with a man for many years, she learned that sociopaths do not change. I met J in 2006 at work. At the time, I was involved in a long-distance relationship with my first love of 8 years. I was attracted to J the moment I saw him. During a work conversation, J asked me what my story was. I had a feeling he already knew because everyone at work talked about how I can do better and couldn’t understand how I was so loyal to a long-distance relationship. J said he knew but wanted to hear it from me. I asked him if he was in a relationship. He said he was from Boston and moved …

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The six-month relationship: He lied, I paid

August 29, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  2 Comments

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call Sharon21. she met a guy online. While he lied, I paid, she said. Names are changed. Whew! This is hard to revisit! I’m still very much in the healing process. I have listened to so many books, I have read so much on Narcissism, it has consumed my life. Until I experienced what I did, Narcissist was just a word to me. I truly believe the Narc I was involved with could lead the pack! It was that bad. I’m an empath. Hands down. I’m educated. I’m professional. I hold a Management position with a large corporation. I spend my days, caring for and helping the elderly. I’m a single mom of 3 kids. I was with the …

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Spath Tales

I think my son is a sociopath

August 22, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call, Marsha21. She believes her son is a sociopath, and describes his behavior from childhood to the present. Donna Andersen responds to her questions after her letter. I think my son is a sociopath. I say this with heaviness in my heart. Saying it out loud makes me sound like a terrible mother. I often chastise myself as to where I went wrong, how I could have done better, I take the blame. I’m still not entirely convinced that he is, but I do know there is something definitely wrong with him (his whole life). Even as a young child, I think he was manipulating me. Besides the “normal” things kids some …

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Bullying and harassment in an Episcopal Church

August 8, 2021 //  by Donna Andersen//  2 Comments

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story of sociopathic harassment in an Episcopal Church, endured, amazingly, by one of the church’s leaders. Names are changed. My name’s Benjamin, and my same-sex spouse and I are the victims of a sociopath. Even worse, the sociopath is the priest who married us. My story begins with a well-known Episcopal church. When I arrived there in 2011, it was love at first sight. People were friendly and welcoming, and the church beautiful. Even better the rector, whom we’ll call Dave (not his real name), was personable and gave a great sermon. It wasn’t long before I was asked to run for the vestry, which is the board of directors in an Epis …

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Yes, sociopaths can create a totally fake persona

July 2, 2021 //  by Donna Andersen//  2 Comments

Editor’s note: Last year, Lovefraud published a letter from “Natalia20” entitled “The sociopathic singer and his many women.” She was with a guy for five years, and he was cheating with multiple women the entire time. Natalia20 has written to Lovefraud again with a question about her ex's fake persona. Although it has been more than a year since my break-up with my sociopathic bf of many years, I still have more and more thoughts coming. Highly spiritual man The latest one is this: I met a highly spiritual man who would start his day by Tarot card reading, always reading self-help or spiritual books, his flat full of crystals for protection/energies, burning incense, making rituals, anal …

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My story of psychological abuse and coercive control

May 30, 2021 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story about psychological abuse and coercive control from a reader whom we'll call Abigal21. Names and locations are changed. So, it was 2013, I met up with my friend for her birthday, she had invited her ‘friend’ a guy she sort of used to see. She said, can you hang out with David because he doesn’t know anyone here and it’s awkward because I am with my boyfriend … I said okay I guess …… I wasn’t in the best state of mind as I had recently broken up with a guy who was becoming abusive (I had a habit of attracting these guys … I now realize.). So David and I end up talking, exchange numbers and start dating. According to him he is single, …

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