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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Is he blind to the fact that he exploits and manipulates?

October 29, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 12 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Clara." My ex friend, after lying, abusing, manipulating everyone has now found himself in a whirlwind of trouble. Owes everyone in town, credit card issues, issues with every law agency known to man, IRS, trouble with his two previous ex wives, etc. Is now going around saying to everyone what goes around comes around, everyone is out to get him, he can't win or get ahead, no one has any sympathy or empathy for him. He "tries" to be a decent caring guy. Except he fails to mention he pathologically lied to everyone, stole money from people, was sleeping with other guys' wives, carrying on with single women …

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He knew her for 20 years, but didn’t know she was a lying, cheating sociopath

October 23, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 9 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Jesse." I'm so saddened by the events from the past 5 months it pains me to relive them. I'm just trying to move on. I saw someone I know but really wasn't close to her. We saw each other a few times in the past 20 years, just a hello she was always smiling and happy, shy. My close friends knew her also but not close either. So we went out one afternoon to catch up on our lives since we knew each other. Funny looking back how our lives were exactly the same, or so I was being "mirrored" well. Quickly we were in Love. She was living at her parents, sleeping on the couch. No real job. So I moved her in, …

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My sociopath husband embezzled $400,000 from me, and it was legal

October 21, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 29 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Miriam." I met a con man in 2002 on Match.com while I was living and teaching school in Germany. We were married one year later in Germany and moved three times during the marriage. He lied to me every day for seven years. Because of the fraud, I lost my retirement house, much of the furniture and furnishings I had collected over 20 years, my car, my life savings, and seven years of my teaching salary. My husband only worked part time for nine months, but was managing all of our money. He made promises to me that were all broken. He had opportunities to work but always told employers "we don't need …

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The sociopath would always make me think I did something wrong

October 7, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 2 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Felicia." I was separated from husband and joined a personal training center. The trainer through months of me training with him convinced me to help him open a restaurant. I worked long hours for no pay. He would tell me, I'll make you a partner, just prove to me you can run the restaurant. This went on for a year. I divorced and after the divorce he started to tell me I was the best thing that happened to the restaureant, that I would start to make a lot of money. He then started to ask me to go places with him that pertained to the business. Then he would tell me I was beautiful and we eventually started …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Pushed, and then abandoned, by a controlling older brother

September 30, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 3 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman who lives in Greece and Cyprus. We'll call her "Evangelina." My brother is 14 years older. He took charge of my life's choices (where to live as a child, what to study as young person applying for university), and I blindly followed, as I fully trusted him. He was my brother after all ”¦ He then turned nasty every single time I did not fulfill his expectations. He even lied and said often that a choice that was made by him, was only mine. Like studying archaeological conservation when I knew I am weak in sciences. But he insisted it's for my interest not to study what I want and I'm inclined toward (I'm good with arts so I wa …

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He controlled my moves and thoughts with diabolical and methodical precision

September 26, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 13 Comments

Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Ingrid." I met my Sociopath over 10 years ago and just like in all the books and blogs I have read as of late fell hard and fast for what I thought was honesty as he would look me right in the eyes and tell me everything any women wants to hear ”¦ you know how beautiful I was, how he wishes he would have met me in his twenties, how we are so much alike, blah, blah, blah. Unbeknown to me he was gathering all the information he would need later to control my every move and thought and that he did with DIABOLICAL AND METHODICAL precision and I being the honest and open hearted person I am I believed him. My Sociopath used and …

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All of his abuse was secret

September 17, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 2 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call “Marla Marie.” Following 9/11, I moved back home and within just three years married my ex-husband. I think the trauma of 9/11 inspired me to hurry up and get a life, and in doing so I overlooked some red flags. I was also naive in love matters. My ex-husband is the hallmark charming, handsome nomad. Although even prior to marriage not all of his stories "checked out" it immediately escalated once we were married. He was using drugs, had a criminal record and two prior marriages. He also had a child he never knew/saw. We were married and divorced within 2 years. All of his abuse was secret. He would berate me …

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I was supposed to give and give, but was not allowed to ask for anything

September 16, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 42 Comments

I have spent the last 7.5 years in a relationship with a sociopath. I gave more than I had to give mentally, emotionally and financially. He barely worked in that time. He lied, cheated and did his best to convince me I was crazy. He would steal and swear on his children he would never do that to me. The last two years of the relationship I would often tell him he was a sociopath, but it wasn't until the last six months that I truly started researching the disorder and everything I read on the topic was him to a T! It was as if someone sat back documenting his behaviors, then put them all together to create this disorder. The charm, false sense of entitlement, pathological lying, parasitic …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: I lost my marriage, my children, my job and my home

September 3, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 4 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman who calls herself “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend.” My story began in high school where we started dating. We were both at the end of our junior year and began dating as summer was beginning. It started off fantastic; I mean that's why I stayed to get back those first few weeks of our relationship. Then the jealously started, the manipulations, the isolation: it was too much for me to take and begin my college years. So I told him we were done; of course this was after he "tried to commit suicide" in front of me by taking a handful of aspirin; he pinned me down in my car in the dorm parking lot and I screamed to the point that someone ca …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: The ride on the sociocrazytrain was painful, but I don’t regret it

August 26, 2015 // by Lovefraud Reader// 10 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call Roseann. I just wanted to thank you for developing the Lovefraud site, sharing your experience and writing your books. I have read both. The books and your site have helped me tremendously, not only initially when I needed to understand what was happening, during the no contact time and even now, when he's long gone. It helps me to remember who I was back then and to see whom I am now and I'm pleased with my progress and the choices I made. Cutting contact All in all, I spent the better part of 10 years dealing with my on and off relationship/friendship with my spath and THE best thing I did was cut …

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