Editor's Note: This SPATH tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Corrine." I stayed married to a narcisstic personality disordered sociopath for 25 years. He always had mistresses he would throw up in my face and sincerely enjoyed hurting me, through words, looks, violence and strangulation. He used to hurt the children because he knew it would hurt me. I was always dealing with some crisis, real or imagined on his part. I realize now that it was what he used to distance himself so he would not have to be intimate. He never displayed affection, or caring for any of his children (three sons and one daughter). He died two weeks ago and there is nothing in his w …
I was love bombed into a relationship with a sociopath
Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Ms Love Bombed.” My involvement with a sociopath lasted five years. I didn't know anything about sociopaths until my therapist told me to look up the definition. That is when I realized I was involved with one. My spath love bombed me the minute we officially met. I had known him only from going to my husband's softball games. The first few years, it was only sex with him. He was living with another woman (which I didn't know for the longest time and he lied to me, saying they were just roommates). I always said I was his whore. He called me names and verbally, emotionally, and mentally abused me. …
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I discovered after 15 years of marriage, my husband was a con man
Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “SanityOK.” He was the president of a youth football league and VP at a company that I discovered he had been stealing from for 30 years. His boss completely trusted him, as well as everyone that knew him or thought they did. My children, his step children, thought that he walked on water. He was subtly controlling in the beginning and played mind games. He would tell me things like, "we already talked about that." I couldn't remember if we did or didn't and began to question my sanity. I became severely depressed after six years and was hospitalized. I thought I should be happy, because everyone els …
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I am now the enemy, and I’ve never witnessed such coldness from the person I used to call my wife
Editor's Note: This Spath tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who uses the name "Wiserfromit." I believe I was married to a sociopath for over ten years. She was an old date from high school and had recently run into my friend and gotten my email address. We started talking via email for a couple months (we lived about eight hour's drive from each other). We agreed to meet near her and on our first meeting, she said I love you. I went along with it because it felt too good to be true. We went looking for rings soon after and got engaged about five months after our initial contact. I had proposed to her when she was visiting me in my town and the next day, she was on the phone …
Blame the victim, again
Editor's Note: This SPATH tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name “Sisyphus Unchained.” He was handsome; he was charming; he had an incredible zest for life. But more importantly he was manipulative, deceitful and dangerous. In 2007 I met a man with whom I thought I shared interests: educational/community development projects in Southern Africa. He portrayed himself as the founder of a South African-based charitable project focused on the needs of orphaned/disadvantaged youths in the townships of Johannesburg (which much later, once I investigated further, all turned out to be non-existent). Over the course of the next four years he skillfully interspersed his r …
The critical thinking skills and instincts he tried to erode ended up saving my life
Editor's note: This story is from a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Eve2014." I have what is known as Narcissistic Victim Syndrome, and have suffered from it since I was narcissistically abused* by my father, who was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I have been diligently and continuously working on myself in therapy for many years, with a slew of diagnoses that are all incorrect. It is only because of my involvement with a psychoanalytic therapist who behaved like a sociopath,** that I have reached the depths of emotional devastation and worked like a demon to solve the mystery. I cannot say whether Dr. X is a sociopath, psychopath, or narcissist, as I am not …
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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Sociopathic wife determines what husband is ‘allowed’ to do
Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Friend's Keeper.” I am writing this about a friend who I am trying to help who is clearly involved with a sociopath. My friend is a male, married to a sociopathic woman. Her acts and behavior are really unbelievable unless you see for yourself. What he's ”˜allowed' She takes his entire paychecks (salary plus state pension totaling $14,000/mo), and puts him on a $100/mo allowance, which he gets only if he's good, while she takes the rest. She convinces him it's all for him. He's only allowed out of the house to go to work, and she times him on when he gets home. He's not allowed out on the even …
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He does not know how to tell the truth — he lies just to lie
Editor's Note: This SPATH story was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name of "Lauren2014." I opened my home, soul and heart to someone who had a ”past.” He was able to pull at my heartstrings and tell me horrific stories of his childhood and terrible accounts of his upbringing so that I would feel sorry for him. I was willing to overlook his “past” and the bad decisions he made as an adult because I felt it was attributed to his childhood. (Most of which are lies.) I thought every word he told me was the truth. I would later find out he does not know how to tell the truth. He lies just to lie. There were so many red flags in the beginning and I still ignored them. …
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He has no remorse for the complete fraud he was to me and our children
Editor's Note: This SPATH story was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name of "Beverly2014." I have told this story so many times and feel like no matter how much I discuss it I could never tell it all because there are so many details and incidents that occurred that it would be exhausting and somewhat impossible. I met my Sociopath about two years after my divorce from my first marriage which was abusive in its own way. My Socio preyed on my vulnerability and used it against me. When we met online he was instantly every dream I had ever dreamed of -- the "perfect" man. Looking back on everything it is so frustrating the level of deceit and energy he put into fo …
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I was bowled over; I really thought the guy was in love with me
Editor's Note: This SPATH story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "Mary2014". I first met J when he came to fit a new door. I had recently moved house and was feeling a bit overwhelmed by the amount of work to be done. He was extremely polite and well mannered and appeared to be attentive to my specific needs. He visited regularly bringing catalogues to choose doors, glass, etc., and seemed very keen to make sure that I was happy with the work he did. Although I did feel quite vulnerable having a strange man in the house he soon managed to put me at ease to the extent where I gave him a key so he could come into the house to work when I wasn't there. I …
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