Oh, no! How did I get into this? How did this happen? My life was ticking along just fine - or maybe not all that fine, but it wasn't like this! It's a disaster! Does this sound familiar? I'm sure we've all been there. Especially if we've been involved with a sociopath. Perhaps that's where you are right now. And if you are, the good news is that if you got into a mess, you can get out of it, too. Okay, it's true, there may be some aspects of your situation that you cannot change. If, for example, you're sitting in a car that you just wrapped around an enormous tree a moment ago, you can't rewind about ten seconds and take it all back. After all, life isn't like one big shoelace that you …
Magnify the Magnificence of Your Life
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, encourages you to magnify the magnificence of your life, even as you recover from a toxic relationship. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest, PDHom Wow. Look at that. Another new day. Isn't it magnificent? You might ask, "What's so magnificent? I have to do this and that and a bunch of other stuff I don't really want to do. And I'm still dealing with the miseries produced by that toxic relationship!! Can I just go back to bed now, please, and call it a day?" Well, I don't know, that's up to you. But you ask, what's so magnificent? For one thing, you woke up today. Yo …
Recovery and the Law of Attraction: Daydream Your Way into a New Reality!
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains the basics of recovery and the Law of Attraction. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest, PDHom Do you ever get lost in daydreams? Do you ever close your eyes and get so swept away by some delicious fantasy or other that it's as though you're really living it? Then something snaps you back to the here and now, and if you're a really good daydreamer, and you were very much "gone," it's quite a shock to land back here in your present circumstances? Ah, it was truly lovely while it lasted, wasn't it? Especially if you land back in unpleasant memories and the …
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How decluttering helps you recover from toxic relationships
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains how decluttering helps you recover from toxic relationships. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest, PDHom Everything is energy. Nope, that's not "woowoo" — it's science. And it means that every single item in your environment is holding energy. Whether or not it's positive or negative depends on the meaning that you've assigned to it. For example, if you're holding onto anything that is connected with a painful memory or someone who has adversely impacted your life, that energy is pulling down the "chi" (energy) in your home. Same with anything that's s …
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The Only Way Your Dreams will Die is if You Let Them
Editor's note: Lovefraud welcomes Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest, PDHom I know what it feels like to have your dreams blown to smithereens. It's especially painful when it's at the hands of someone you love(d). Someone you thought loved you back. And I know it can be scary to dream again. You don't want to risk yet another crushing disappointment. But it doesn't make sense to let past hurts prevent future happiness. And when you do that because of a toxic relationship and its fallout, you're handing that person your happiness on a platter. You're handing over your power …
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Protect, Feed and Share Your Light
Editor's note: Lovefraud welcomes Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest, PDHom You are a precious gift from the Universe. You might not feel like it sometimes, but that doesn’t mean it’s not true. In fact, it’s at precisely those times that it would serve you well to remember it and to connect with the beautiful Light that is you - your sweet spirit, the very essence of your soul. Perhaps you’ve spent too much time in the presence of people who do not appreciate your Light. It’s probably because it frightens them; they live mostly in their own shadow of Darkness that your Light is blind …
Why it hurts to leave the sociopath
Lovefraud recently received the following email from a reader asking why it hurt to leave the sociopath: Why would a person become distraught when the narc/sociopath that has wronged them gives them the silent treatment? I have ridden the merry go round for 10 years with a guy that has cheated and not told the truth. We break up (usually me pushing him away and him acting the victim and then we never can stay away.) He begs, I reject and then he retreats and I feel overwrought. Horrible. I feel heartbroken every single time. So hard to understand and get out of this cycle. Any explanation? Actually, there are two explanations, rooted in human psychology, for why it hurts to leave the …
Waiting for the Ripples to Reach the Shore…
Editor's note: Lovefraud welcomes Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach. In this article, she reminds us that this too shall pass. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest, PDHom Recently, a very dear friend was confiding in me. After a tremendous shock some months ago that left her reeling, she's been having a pretty bumpy time. She's been feeling stuck. Very, very stuck, and wondering if she'll ever see the light at the end of the tunnel (when it's not the train coming at her). One of the most difficult bits of her troubles has been that she's had no control over the situation. Finding herself in a toxic relationship that …
Everyday kindnesses of love after the sociopath
Yes, there is love after the sociopath, and the proof is in the kiwi tart that my husband, Terry Kelly, made for us today. We received a gift box of fruit, including golden kiwis. It came with a recipe for a kiwi tart. Yesterday, Terry bought the rest of the ingredients. This morning, he made the tart. Why is the timing significant? Because I have hypoglycemia, or low blood sugar. I need to monitor my sugar intake, and if I eat sweets too late in the day, such as after dinner, the sugar keeps me awake half the night. Terry made the tart early so we could enjoy it with our lunch, and I'd be able to sleep later. This is just the latest of the multitude of pleasures and kindnesses that …
Sociopaths, pain and the Primal Scream
UPDATED FOR 2020: The Primal Scream — I remember this book being all the rage when it was published in 1970, even though at the time I had just started high school. Everyone was talking about the book, by Arthur Janov, and the therapy he developed, called primal therapy. For me, that was the end of it. I never read the book. I never heard anything more about Arthur Janov. I haven't thought about Primal Scream or primal therapy in more than 40 years, until a Lovefraud reader brought it up. The reader sent me a link to an article on Arthur Janov's blog. (He was alive until recently. Janov died in 2017 at the age of 93.) The article was is entitled Why we need safety, and it was published …