Book reviews

Many of you know me from my book, Husband, Liar, Sociopath:  How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned. Through writing the book and including chapters on Lovefraud, I’ve tried to share the insights I paid such a high price to obtain. For almost twenty years, I was married to someone I now believe is a sociopath. My corrosive, confusing marriage, the toxic divorce, and the ongoing, financially and emotionally punitive post-divorce aftershocks redefined my life in ways I never imagined. I had to understand how my life got so derailed, how my confidence was decimated, and how my identity was almost destroyed. Through my book, I wanted to share what I’d learned in case it …

Why I wrote, Narcissists, SOCIOPATHS & Wolves: Lessons From Little Red Riding HoodRead More

Three weeks after her baby was born, Jen Waite, a model and actress in New York City, discovered that her husband was having an affair. In fact, while she was in labor, he kept disappearing to call his girlfriend. Jen has just come out with a book called, A Beautiful, Terrible Thing, in which she tells her story. In an interview with the New York Post, she calls her husband a sociopath. Based on the article, it sounds like she's right. My husband's secret double life, on NYPost.com.   Jen Waite, 32, a model and …

A New York model’s marriage to a sociopathRead More

Book Review: A History of a Pedophile's Wife — Memoir of a Canadian Teacher and Writer, by Eleanor Cowan Review by Donna Andersen People born to disordered parents are likely to be vulnerable to psychopaths later in life. I've explained this to many, many people that I've spoken to in my personal consultations. Eleanor Cowan's book, A History of a Pedophile's Wife, explains exactly how it happens. Childhood without love Eleanor was born in 1948 outside of Montreal, Canada, the second child in what would become a large Catholic family. Her childhood was molded by the dictates of the Catholic Church, wholeheartedly accepted by her father, and the disinterest of a personality d …

How disordered parents set children up to be exploited by psychopathsRead More

By Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW In the wake of the Gay Pride Month massacre of 49 people gathered at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, the world has taken notice of the violence and threats of violence lesbian gay, bisexual, and transgender people face on a regular basis.   What's less visible is that the patterns of oppression we face in the broader society sometimes trickle down into our most intimate relationships.   Lesbian and gay people need to be able to turn to partners for safety, support, care, and kindness. This is especially important as we face discrimination and invalidation in the broader culture. Unfortunately, for many people in same-sex relationships, home is not a haven but, i …

Save on ‘The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free From Crazy-Making Relationships’Read More

Book Review: The Narc Decoder Understanding the language of the narcissist, by Tina Swithin. If you're involved with a sociopath, narcissist or other disordered individual, there comes a time when they attack. The love bombing has stopped maybe ages ago. They are through with you, or sense that you are through with them. They either regard you with contempt, or are furious that you figured them out and had the audacity to leave. They start sending nasty text messages and emails. Here's one that Tina Swithin, author of The Narc Decoder, received from her ex-husband while they were in the midst of a custody battle over their two daughters: Tina - The most tragic part is what you are doing …

What narcissists are really sayingRead More

  By O.N. Ward For several months, I've posted an entry here every Thursday. Some entries have been edited excerpts from my book "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) while others have been inspired by things I've read both on the Lovefraud website and elsewhere. From this point forward, I'll be posting chapters from my book in order, one at a time. Forward In Disguise The book is a memoir about having my life entangled for about 20 years with someone I now believe is a sociopath. The experience was soul destroying and life altering. As my life and spirit …

Husband, Liar, SOCIOPATH–How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons LearnedRead More

If sociopaths are so common and cause so much damage, why aren't more of us forewarned? Being victimized by a sociopath doesn't just happen to a few, rare foolhardy people, it happens to lots of people—lots of everyday people who play by the rules.  I know that blaming victims of sociopaths for the harm inflicted on them or simply ignoring them is a defense mechanism for others who want to feel that they could never be victimized. Those abused must have made a stupid decision, chosen to be blind, unconsciously wanted it to happen, played a significant role in their unraveling, and so it goes.  Of course, in most cases this isn't true, but it's comforting and self-protecting for nonvictims to …

Little Red Riding Hood: A Sociopath’s Fairy TaleRead More

Editor's note To Lovefraud's Spanish-speaking readers We are giving away five copies of the new Spanish translation of 'Red Flags of Love Fraud 10 signs you're dating a sociopath.' All you have to do is promise to post a review of it on Amazon! Regalamos cinco copias de la nueva versión en español de Red Flags of Love Fraud — 10 signs you're dating a sociopath a los lectores hispanohablantes de Lovefraud. ¡Tan solo tienes que cumplir la promesa de publicar una reseña del libro en Amazon.com! Ponte en contacto con donna@lovefraud.com.  Más información: Lo que deben saber todos los que anhelan una relación sobre los depredadores sociales: Carisma, encanto, tanto en común y también seductor: ¿ …

Copia gratuita a los primeros 5 lectores de ‘Alertas Rojas de Estafa Amorosa’ en libro electrónicoRead More