How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

Army sexual assault prevention officer charged with setting up a prostitution ring

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Sgt. 1st Class Gregory McQueen, a  Sexual Harassment/Assault Response and Prevention officer, is accused of setting up a prostitution ring at Fort Hood's III Corps headquarters and recruiting young, cash-strapped female privates to have sex with older soldiers. In a case that has focused national attention on the issue of military sexual assault, McQueen, among others, has been charged with 21 counts of abusive sexual contact, pandering, conspiracy and adultery. According to investigative documents, the alleged ring was revealed when a young private told authorities McQueen tried to recruit her and then sexually assaulted her during what she termed an “interview.” A pre-trial evidentiary …

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Play-by-play: NFL player Richie Incognito’s bullying of teammate Jonathan Martin

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On October 28, 2013, Jonathan Martin, an offensive tackle with the NFL's Miami Dolphins, abruptly walked out of the team's practice facility and checked himself into a hospital, requesting psychological treatment. He left because his teammates had subjected him to continuous bullying and harassment. The NFL commissioned the law firm of Paul, Weiss, Rifkind, Wharton & Garrison LLP, to find out exactly what happened. Last month its report was issued. According to the author, Ted Wells, The Report concludes that three starters on the Dolphins offensive line, Richie Incognito, John Jerry and Mike Pouncey, engaged in a pattern of harassment directed at not only Jonathan Martin, but also …

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Convicted felon may have fathered 1,000 children through artificial insemination while working at a Utah fertility clinic

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A Utah couple discovered through a DNA test that  their daughter, who was conceived through artificial insemination, does not carry the DNA of the man she has called daddy all her life. The biological father was Thomas R Lippert, a convicted felon who worked as a technician at Reproductive Medical Technologies, the fertility clinic in Midvale, Utah. Lippert replaced clients' sperm for with his own. Before working at the clinic, Lippert served two years in prison for kidnapping a college co-ed for three weeks and using electroshock therapy on her to make her "fall in love with him," KUTV reported. The clinic is no longer open and Lippert died in 1999 at the age of 49. Authorities from …

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Documentary reveals the shameless practices of big business divorce

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"I think death would be easier than a divorce." "People can get as much justice as they can afford. Most people can't afford any justice." "Follow the money" Divorce Corp, a documentary narrated by Dr. Drew Pinsky, will hit theaters in January 2014. The tag line sums it up: " Marriage is an institution. Divorce is big business." Interviews with divorce attorneys, divorce mediators, judges, and litigants reveal the inner workings of the $50 billion a year U.S. family law industry. The film's creators, Dr. Drew Pinsky, Joseph Sorge, Philip Sternberg and James Scurlock, had no idea when they began their project that they would uncover the dark corner of the judicial system where fiefdoms …

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Narcissists at work

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A Lovefraud reader sent me a link to a free e-book. The reader's only comment was, "ugh."  Here's the book: The Upside of Narcissism in the Workplace The book was created by Hogan Assessment Systems. On its website, this company says, "Hogan uses the powerful science of personality assessment to help you hire the right people, develop talented employees, build great leaders, and impact the bottom line." I downloaded the e-book. It's very short only nine pages. It points out that young people in general exhibit more narcissism than in the past, but in "controlled doses," narcissism may be good for an employee's career. The e-book points out the potential pitfalls of narcissism. …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: A sociopath in a very senior position

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Editor's note: The following letter was sent by the Lovefraud reader "Speakout." Have you ever wondered what happens when your sociopath goes to the office? Where to start ”¦ I should begin by saying that my experience included getting to know his ex-wife after I was fired, reading the transcripts and emails of their seemingly endless divorce. She is the one who opened my eyes. I reacted poorly to her when she first told me about her experiences with him; I sat there in stunned silence. I had to let it sink in. She told me later that my response confused her. I had no idea such creatures as him existed. I'm a girl geek I'm not good with feelings and people. Some highlights that …

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Keeping sociopaths out of the workplace

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At Lovefraud, most of the discussion is about sociopaths in romantic relationships. But here is a key concept to understand: Sociopaths don't just exploit romantic partners. They exploit everyone who crosses their paths, in all aspects of their lives. That includes everyone they work with or do business with. Forbes.com just posted the following article: How to screen out the sociopath job candidate The author, Rob Asghar, asked  Dr. Matha Stout the warning signs of a sociopath in a job interview. Number One on her list was overwhelming charm. Wow, that sounds familiar.     …

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FTC survey shows 25.6 million Americans fell victim to fraud in 2011

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WASHINGTON, D.C. The Federal Trade Commission released on April 19, 2013 a statistical survey of fraud in the United States during 2011, which showed that an estimated 25.6 million adults — 10.8 percent of the adult population — were fraud victims. “The FTC fights fraud every day by taking scammers to court and telling consumers how to avoid being scammed.  Studieslike this one help us fine-tune both our enforcement and education efforts,” said Charles Harwood, Acting Director of the FTC's Bureau of Consumer Protection. While fast-growing online commerce has benefitted consumers with greater choice and convenience, the survey indicates that, as of 2011, the Internet was also the place …

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White collar sociopath Bernie Madoff: The movie

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In God We Trust, a documentary about Bernie Madoff from the perspective of his long-time secretary, premiered yesterday at the Tribeca Film Festival in New York City. In the trailer, the secretary, Eleanor Squillari, says that she worked for Madoff for 25 years and never knew about the fraud he was perpetrating. Lovefraud readers who were also unknowingly involved with sociopaths for decades can certainly relate. Madoff through his secretary's eyes (video), on Blogs.WSJ.com. Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.     …

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What happens when we fail to take action against bad behavior

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A few articles in the news recently illustrate a disturbing failure in that can be seen in a multitude of situations throughout society. These cases are from the U.S., but I imagine the pattern applies just about anywhere. In Dallas, Texas, Antoine Flowers, hired for a top information technology post at Dallas City Hall, resigned after four months on the job. Two weeks later, he was arrested for stealing and pawning $10,000 worth of the city's iPads. The real question is how he got hired in the first place. Flowers' resume stated that he'd worked as a software engineer at NASA, was a college education director and had served in the Army, with top-secret clearances. This did not raise …

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