On and off for the past four years, I’ve been mentioning my upcoming book about my experience with a sociopath, James Montgomery, and my recovery from the ordeal. Well, the book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, is at the printer, and will be available in about a month.
In writing the book, I had five goals:
- Drawing attention to the problem of sociopaths.
- Showing how sociopaths weave their web of lies to trap people.
- Exposing the impotence of social institutions in dealing with these predators.
- Explaining why, from a spiritual perspective, we fall into these relationships.
- Offering hope that we can, even after these devastating encounters, recover and flourish.
I’ve launched a new blog specifically for this book. It’s called, simply, Love Fraud ”¦ the book.
I invite all Lovefraud readers to visit the new blog. You’ll find more information about the book. You’ll be able to read the introduction and a chapter. I even have a photo gallery. And, there are reviews. I’ve asked some Lovefraud authors and members to read advance copies of the book and write their impressions. Two are posted.
Autographed and numbered copies, plus FREE shipping
My family, of course, has known for a long time that I’ve been working on the book. Two years ago, my young nephew, then eight years old, asked me, “Can I have the first one?”
Of course, I said yes. Then I thought, how will he know which is the first one?
The solution is autographed and numbered first edition copies, which we’re making available to all Lovefraud readers in a special pre-order offer. If you reserve your book now, while it’s at the printer, when they arrive, I will autograph and number it, in the order in which purchases are received. (We’re up to number 5.)
Plus, SHIPPING IS FREE for all U.S. destinations. International shipping is 40% off.
For more information about this offer, visit the Lovefraud Store.
Different discussion
I’ll keep posting articles on Love Fraud ”¦ the book. As you all have a chance to read the book, you may have questions, which I’ll do my best to answer.
I expect that the blog will take our discussion of entanglements with sociopaths into a new direction. As painful as it was, I learned that the entire experience was an opportunity for spiritual growth. Although we’ve touched on the topic here on the Lovefraud Blog, it will be even more prominent on the new blog.
If you want to post a comment on the Lovefraud Book blog, your regular log-in credentials should work. The log-in link is on right side of the page, at the bottom. If you have any problems, please let me know.
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Donna,
this is a great promotional site for the Book, and I hope you sell 10 MILLION COPIES because the word about psychopaths goes with each copy that you sell.
Lovefraud the blog has been a life saver for many of the bloggers here but there are millions of men and women in the US alone who DESPERATELY NEED the information about “what is a psychopath?” Most of them don’t even know that they NEED the information that quantifies and qualifies the thing that is making life a hell on earth for them.
Thanks not only for the book and the blog, but for the many day to day things that you do that impact the lives of everyone here! ((((Hugs)))) and God bless you Donna!
Donna
I happened upon the book whilst looking around the site and had the pleasure of reading the chapter 9, as I have said before and I’ll say it again…it’s awesome… if that chapter is anything to go by.
You took me with you, I felt I was there with you, cringing with you, falling back into the illusion that ‘everything will be fine’ versus no this is a really bad situation!! congratulations, and as I have said before I want to continue the journey with you as I can feel you leading me into safety and growth from this inhumane experience…I know there has to be a spiritual reason and I already realised it’s part of the bigger plan.
I remember when I was in HIS foreign country last year grappling with a nightmare situation, I did tune in to spirit….I did not agree with what I was hearing, which was it’s okay it’s okay…it really was not okay…
Donna, I really think the new website is wonderful! I read the chapter posted on the site, and I can’t wait to read the book! You and Lovefraud have help me more than I can ever say, and now you will be able to help even more people. Thank you so very very much.
Donna I just ordered your book, it will be one of my most cherished possesion’s. Thank you …
henry
Donna
OMG-I read the introduction and it is awesome. I can’t wait to read a chapter, after I finish my dinner. If it weren’t for this blog, I wouldn’t be where I am in my recovery. I would still be stuck in shock and devastation and unable to move. When I first came here, I was in terrible shock, with PTSD, anxiety attacks, and I felt like I was in quicksand or having my feet stuck in concrete. Words can’t describe how much progress I’ve made and how much better I feel. I also shout out a big THANK YOU to all the people on here-it’s impossible to name all of them. I am going to order the book as soon as I get paid next week! I surely hope that it gets the word out and educates people. I want to see it in Barnes and Noble and Borders and all those places like that!
Goodnight guys, can’t get on any thread but this one!!!!! Monday I am saying GOODBYE to AT& Farkiing T!!!!!!
I just ordered my copy. The international shipping cost from USA to Europe was really inexpensive and I look forward to reading about this.
I agree completely that our encounters with sociopaths is designed to have us grow spiritually. I think the guy on the Transsociopathica site called it “our soul evolution trigger”.
Good luck with the book and I hope you sell millions.
Thank you all so much for your support! I am so excited about the book finally coming into fruition. I do hope many, many people read the book and learn that these predators are out there. I also hope that it helps people realize that recovery is possible, and that life can be even better after the sociopath.
Frank Lee Speaking
This is the last hope I have, that the encounter is designed to have us grow spiritually, I can handle it if that is the case!!
“our soul evolution trigger”
Along with Donna’s Book, That’s the most exciting thing I’ve heard yet….I’m off to investigate!! thank you so much!
You should be very proud of what you have done Ms Andersen. I have major respect for yourself and others who have been victims of sociopaths, realised that there was a bigger picture to the experience and then turned it around to help others.
I was on another group dealing with sociopaths and some of the posters there were self confessed sociopaths. One of them said something which I will never forget to a victim. “do you ever think that maybe there is a reason for everything in nature, including sociopaths like me?” – After reading this and thinking about it further I had to agree with the sociopath. They come into our lives and “shake it up” and if we process the experience and learn from it we become ultimately more balanced and holistic human beings in the long term. I certainly have.
Another aspect is when you move into this ‘Transsociopathic’ phase (to quote that blog again) – you start to recognise sociopaths like second nature. This is were the ‘100 Monkeys Concept’ comes in and eventually others around us develop this skill as well. In time, we end up with a society were sociopaths cannot hide in plain sight anymore as there is a greatly increased instinctual awareness among society of sociopaths.
This is how we win – in fact, I look around me and I currently see the sociopaths I know in disarray and confusion. There is almost like a ‘fight or flight’ thing going on with most of them. They are not as cocky as they used to be – something seems to be up in sociopath land. They are finding themselves working harder and harder to find prey, and even if they get some it is usually not the rich bounty they enjoyed in the past, or they get found out a lot quicker than they once did. People like yourself Ms Andersen are responsible for this and you should be very proud indeed.
Namaste.