On and off for the past four years, I’ve been mentioning my upcoming book about my experience with a sociopath, James Montgomery, and my recovery from the ordeal. Well, the book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, is at the printer, and will be available in about a month.
In writing the book, I had five goals:
- Drawing attention to the problem of sociopaths.
- Showing how sociopaths weave their web of lies to trap people.
- Exposing the impotence of social institutions in dealing with these predators.
- Explaining why, from a spiritual perspective, we fall into these relationships.
- Offering hope that we can, even after these devastating encounters, recover and flourish.
I’ve launched a new blog specifically for this book. It’s called, simply, Love Fraud ”¦ the book.
I invite all Lovefraud readers to visit the new blog. You’ll find more information about the book. You’ll be able to read the introduction and a chapter. I even have a photo gallery. And, there are reviews. I’ve asked some Lovefraud authors and members to read advance copies of the book and write their impressions. Two are posted.
Autographed and numbered copies, plus FREE shipping
My family, of course, has known for a long time that I’ve been working on the book. Two years ago, my young nephew, then eight years old, asked me, “Can I have the first one?”
Of course, I said yes. Then I thought, how will he know which is the first one?
The solution is autographed and numbered first edition copies, which we’re making available to all Lovefraud readers in a special pre-order offer. If you reserve your book now, while it’s at the printer, when they arrive, I will autograph and number it, in the order in which purchases are received. (We’re up to number 5.)
Plus, SHIPPING IS FREE for all U.S. destinations. International shipping is 40% off.
For more information about this offer, visit the Lovefraud Store.
Different discussion
I’ll keep posting articles on Love Fraud ”¦ the book. As you all have a chance to read the book, you may have questions, which I’ll do my best to answer.
I expect that the blog will take our discussion of entanglements with sociopaths into a new direction. As painful as it was, I learned that the entire experience was an opportunity for spiritual growth. Although we’ve touched on the topic here on the Lovefraud Blog, it will be even more prominent on the new blog.
If you want to post a comment on the Lovefraud Book blog, your regular log-in credentials should work. The log-in link is on right side of the page, at the bottom. If you have any problems, please let me know.
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Chic:
Stand out in VENICE BEACH????
Yeah….I don’t imagine you were the one rollerskating topless with oxy’s feather hat on your head and playing a ukalale that day. 🙂
Maybe you should plan a road trip. I could keep you occupied! 🙂
We could go JETSKIING and dig up my yard and chat away as we do both!
EB, hahahahaaha!! Maybe I should have dressed up like that! Then somebody would have noticed me!! Yeah, that’s the ticket! I could wear the same outfit on the Jetski!! Oh, if I did that I would be run out of town on a rail, there would be no time to dig & chat! I’ll be over in about 9 hours!
I’d love it!
I’m off to the thriftstore to aquire a matching outfit!
I got to laughing about EB’s comment about standing out on Venice beach yea I haven’t been there is 20+ years, but if it is anything now like it used to be, you could be roller skating naked with TWO HEADS and TWO feather hats, with a Komodo dragon on a leash, and still NOT STAND OUT AS STRANGE!!! LOL In fact, that was always the FUN of going to Venice Beach is you’d have stories of who and what you saw on the beach for DAYS afterwards and lots of good laughs.
Now the best I can do is sit in the car in the Wal Mart Parking lot or look at those PICTURES OF “WAL MART PEOPLE” and they even have a web site for that now! But you know, no matter how overweight or old you are, or how tatty your clothes look, you can always find someone who makes you feel like you are a freaking MOVIE STAR, and if you look at the photos of formerly sexy movie stars who have had “bad plastic surgery” or “plastic surgery gone wrong” you will feel absolutely BEAUTIFUL!
Hey is anyone keeping up with what Mel Gibson is mouthing off to his GF/wife or whatever she is and they have a kid together, is he acting/talking like a psychopath or whatever? Yea!!!!!! he sure is. What a jerk! TROs against each other, and racial slurs and nasty comments….real class…NOT!
Oh….yeah….MEL GIBSON…..
His mask is a fallen….BIG TIME!!
Nothing like self exposure in the press.
I love the fact she used the digi recorder to capture him telling her she deserved to be hit, on tape!!!
Wanna see an enraged ferrit……check out the cage MG is currently in.
Spathy Asshole!
shabbychic,
Hi there! I was reading what you had said about going out alone and not enjoying it.
I have been there….In that same place, thinking what is the point of going out alone? Its no fun.
But being a thinker that I am I also concluded that it isn’t alot of fun staying home alone. So I gave careful consideration of what MIGHT be fun to do alone, and what absolutely wouldn’t be worth it to me.
I had to be creative because some of the things that I knew that I did enjoy, I did NOT enjoy alone.
Such as going out to eat. I love going out to eat once in awile.
But I like good company and good conversation to go along with the good food. So I nixed that off the list.
Going to the movies. Not fun for me by myself…So I nixed that. However in the winter I love to rent a few chick flicks and have a lazy day watching movies. So it’s not exactly getting out but I added it to my list as winter entertainment.
I was still having trouble finding what might be fun to get out of the house….. But I finally came up with a few ideas for things I enjoy. I love old estate auctions. Because I love old stuff. At first I thought I wouldn’t enjoy them alone. But I do. I can focus better and don’t get involved with as much conversation and miss something going onto the auction block as if I were talking to a friend. And lots of people go to auctions alone so you can even strike up conversations. Going to second hand shops and antique shops is also fun for me.
Another thing I found I liked to do in the summer was go to the beach and lay in the sun with a book. But a small beach. I hated going to the larger beaches where it is so crowded alone. I found a small beach and the right “time” to go in the early afternoon, and I stayed until dinner time. I did that all summer one year, twice a week. (no more, I don’t worship the sun like I used to 🙂
The other thing I try to do is make nice meals sometimes for myself. It makes up for not going out to eat on the weekends.
Not just throw something together but more like you would prepare a special meal for company. I prepare it as if I was the “company”…..Even homemade croutons for the salad 🙂
Now these same ideas wouldn’t necessarily be fun for you…But I had to think outside the box, of what I normally would consider fun as well.
I just tried to think of places where I might enjoy my own company rather than feel out of place.
The beach, the year I went all summer long, was the cheapest entertainment ever. And the bonus was I had a killer tan that year. So I felt better about how I looked as well 🙂
witty, thank you VERY MUCH for taking the time to write your ideas to me. You are right, I have to take some time and figure out a few things that I don’t mind doing alone. A small beach is a very good idea (I’ll use sunscreen!) and I’m sure if I really think about it I’ll come up with more ideas, I like your suggestions about making myself a nice dinner, renting some good movies, maybe I could go to estate/garage sales, wander around some small beach towns (the problem here is the traffic). I really appreciate your kindness. I wish we could all get together and sit on the beach!!!!! That would be Fun!!! 🙂
My beach is only 9 hours away!
Great weather….no humidity, 80 degrees and beautiful scenery!
(And the JET SKI)! 🙂
Aaaaahhhh, sounds perfect!
I’m going to dream about it all day!! 🙂
EB, you and I are NOT so far from our beaches—we can look in the mirror! I even have a big old sleeping Tee shirt that says I am “MS Beach to you!” LOL
Hey, I know what we could do, we could go to some kind of Mel Gibson event and throw rotten tomatoes at him! And boo and hoot! and hiss!@....... Now that would be FUN! In fact, there are lots of celebs we could do that to that have acted like Ps.