On and off for the past four years, I’ve been mentioning my upcoming book about my experience with a sociopath, James Montgomery, and my recovery from the ordeal. Well, the book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, is at the printer, and will be available in about a month.
In writing the book, I had five goals:
- Drawing attention to the problem of sociopaths.
- Showing how sociopaths weave their web of lies to trap people.
- Exposing the impotence of social institutions in dealing with these predators.
- Explaining why, from a spiritual perspective, we fall into these relationships.
- Offering hope that we can, even after these devastating encounters, recover and flourish.
I’ve launched a new blog specifically for this book. It’s called, simply, Love Fraud ”¦ the book.
I invite all Lovefraud readers to visit the new blog. You’ll find more information about the book. You’ll be able to read the introduction and a chapter. I even have a photo gallery. And, there are reviews. I’ve asked some Lovefraud authors and members to read advance copies of the book and write their impressions. Two are posted.
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My family, of course, has known for a long time that I’ve been working on the book. Two years ago, my young nephew, then eight years old, asked me, “Can I have the first one?”
Of course, I said yes. Then I thought, how will he know which is the first one?
The solution is autographed and numbered first edition copies, which we’re making available to all Lovefraud readers in a special pre-order offer. If you reserve your book now, while it’s at the printer, when they arrive, I will autograph and number it, in the order in which purchases are received. (We’re up to number 5.)
Plus, SHIPPING IS FREE for all U.S. destinations. International shipping is 40% off.
For more information about this offer, visit the Lovefraud Store.
Different discussion
I’ll keep posting articles on Love Fraud ”¦ the book. As you all have a chance to read the book, you may have questions, which I’ll do my best to answer.
I expect that the blog will take our discussion of entanglements with sociopaths into a new direction. As painful as it was, I learned that the entire experience was an opportunity for spiritual growth. Although we’ve touched on the topic here on the Lovefraud Blog, it will be even more prominent on the new blog.
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Buttons:
You say:
“Rosa, if we all contact these programs and networks and be objective and succinct about the need to address sociopathy outside of the confines of the convicted felon, and leave out the emotional experiences, etc., and speak in general terms, it should be a “good thing.” And, mentioning LoveFraud.com and Donna’s publication in general terms is paramount.”
I agree with you, Buttons.
Sticking to certain key bullet points is a good idea.
As soon as we start disclosing too much of our personal stories and emotional baggage, then people might start to think we are a crazy bunch.
It’s important to remember that we are trying to educate the general public here, and most of these people DON’T GET IT!!!
I think it’s always OK to speak about our own personal experiences, as long as we remain calm and centered, at least when we are trying to get our point across.
I think the key to bringing awareness to personality disorders is to show that there is not always a big difference between the convicted serial killer, who has actually killed….and the next door neighbor, who fantasizes about killing and wants to kill, but has not actually carried out the physical act of killing another person.
Once the general public understands the chilling similarities between the serial killer and the socio next door (who appears harmless but really is not), maybe then everyone will start to pay more attention.
bluejay-your beliefs are completely in line with mine on that. I want to fire all of them and replace them with new people who understand economics and who want what the people want.
I do have to go on record and say that I don’t know if emailing Oprah is going to do much good. I think she is a little out for herself. She has a lot of ego on and is kind of like the politicians a bit. She doesn’t want to do something unless it will benefit her and she doesn’t want ideas if she doesn’t think them up herself. I think she puts on a good show about how she cares for others.
Well then, I say we go to plan B.
Let’s crash the Oprah Show on “Oprah’s Favorite Things” day! 🙂
We’ll get tee shirts made up with the LF logo on them (Donna will love that 🙂 ).
And then, we will rush the stage chanting something like, “Sociopaths are the cock roaches of society!!!”
We’ll do it guerilla-style.
I think it’s coming to that…..
Rosa, if my memory serves me correct …the LF tee shirt is a bunch of lemons on it as we make lemonade. This way, all LFers will know each other if they are wearing something unique with a lemon theme (LOL). I can see it now … all across the globe, themes of lemons here and lemons there … yet we never met each other, we know we are from the same club.
I e-mailed Oprah’s show when my civil and constitutional rights were violated and I was being treated like a slave.
Yes … I never heard from her staff.
Can’t have that known to the public that slavery is alive and well in the work force, with Spath as task masters.
No No I saw our new T shirt on a dood at the garden center a few weeks back it said . ITS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST THAN TO LIVE WITH A PHYSCO THE REST OF YOUR LIFE”
Hens-that’s awesome! LOL
Henry, Henry, Henry, how apropos! Did his shirt have any lemons on it? If so, he’s one of us.
I still love the few T-shirts I bought for when I made it into court. One said “So, who peed on your cornflakes this morning”? … and another one said “I smile like this … because you’ve all finally driven me CRAZY”! I can’t write the other ones in mixed company or any company, for that matter.
It’s funny though. I forget what they say when I wear them … then notice the strange looks on people’s faces because they are reading my T’s.
Gorilla style……NOW YOUR TALKING MY LANGUAGE!!!!!!
We could rush Numerous shows this way! 🙂
Or we could dress up all sexy with the thong bathing suits and skimpy tops and hens and Matt in man thongs… with donkeys on leashes…..and rollerskate on Venice beach with signs and flyers…..with something like…..
I SURVIVED AN ASS!
Do a rally of sorts.
Erin I think the Gong show is over. Duh…my grandma called thongs, butt floss