Dear Abby and the narcissist

Last week I happened to read a Dear Abby column in the newspaper. A woman wrote to Abby that she had been married to a man for 15 years who was controlling and manipulative, along with being emotionally, economically and sexually abusive. The letter-writer termed her husband narcissistic and passive-aggressive, but in my view he may be a sociopath.

The woman is filing for divorce. Her dilemma is that her husband projects a “good guy” image, and she fears that if she accuses him of abuse, no one will believe her.

Abby’s advice was to tell a few close girlfriends what really happened. “The truth will spread like wildfire,” Abby wrote.

I wonder if Abby gave good advice for this situation. I’m sure the advice would be helpful under most circumstances. But if this guy is a sociopath, there’s a good chance that he’s already started the smear campaign against his wife—telling people that she’s mentally unbalanced, a terrible mother, and cheating on him.

What do you think?

Read the letter, Truth of abusive marriage will tarnish man’s sterling image. Then tell us if you think Abby’s plan will work.

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Oxy–I don’t give a crap about what he says and to whom anymore. It was a huge boost for me to hear these women come forward to me and tell me that no one believes what he said. He can continue to live with his horrid wife in misery until he does it again, but I doubt that even if he does, she’ll ever throw him out. His money is too important to her. I just hope that I can go the next 6 months without any crap from her at work. She now knows that we’re in the same building. Her cell phone number showed up on my beeper the other day.

THey can continue to live a shitty unhappy life together. I am moving to Atlanta to live in a big fun city with a big bad ass police department and tons of opportunity for me. They can both kiss my ASS!!

Erin1972 – good for you! And, you don’t want either of their sets of lips near your ass, or anything else within a 10-block radius! 😀


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