A Cambridge professor, Simon Baron-Cohen, has written Zero Degrees of Empathy: A new theory of human cruelty. In this review, the author explains the professor’s ideas.
Read Why a lack of empathy is the root of all evil, on Independent.co.uk.
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Eva
Oxy,
the poor woman raised a slave and the slave realized she was gaslighted and left!!
Seriously now, she herself lived gaslighted and believed her own lies. There are many people like this, they believe in the facade, the apparencies, and they won’t change. They prefer a lie told softly that a truth that could threaten their old way of thinking.
Ox Drover
QUOTE EVA: “They prefer a lie told softly that a truth that could threaten their old way of thinking. ”
Very wise saying Eva…..she cannot turn loose of her old way of thinking and has to justify it by telling lies and even believing her own lies.
Eva
Oxy, yes there are many people like this. I’m having a hard time accepting it, that not only psychopaths are the square minded. They want to force us to believe in what we don’t see, and i personally i’m not able of seeing what i don’t see.
And if you don’t “see” it the way they do, then they don’t “love” you and you’re bad, wierd, strange, excentric, even toxic.
That’s pervertion and manipulation and a total lack of respect for the characteristics of the personality of the others. Just because they have unflexible minds. They can have rigid minds but we have to be flexible and understanding and patient.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
Eva – i lived that crap with my family for years. no longer. eff them.
Eva
Onestep, i understand it’s very hard to recognize one has mistaken because of a wrong pattern of mind in any area. For me it’s very difficult too and of course i put natural resistence at the beginning but when there are problems i look inside me for my part of fault in order to polish some trait of my personality. But many people who are no psychopathic seem unable, it’s like if it were mortal sin to polish something. They don’t realize a personality needs to be taken care of like the body, that it’s something that changes with experience and time, that it’s like a handicrafts that never ends needing some retouch. Still i understand them: to change is hard.
lesson learned
One J,
I’ve not had a chance to go over all the posts here yet, but I will. Hope you’re okay chica!
LL
one/joy_step_at_a_time
really beautifully put Eva.
lesson learned
(((((((((((((( EB ))))))))))))))))))))))
I guess I should take the TIME it would take to go through all the posts but I can’t right now.
I read a little bit about the ex forging his entitlement upon your side of the planet!
UGH!!!
I hope you’re okay. ARe you still dealing with the sale of the house?
Bless your heart, EB. YOu’re one strong chica.
If you’re at the house, feed the bear for me.
LL
one/joy_step_at_a_time
LL – i am fine. the neighbour upstairs is getting to me a bit, but i am playing my music and trying to ignore his ugly.
today is the deadline to give notice to move, and i didn’t. I didn’t have time to think it over. here we have to give 2 months notice. such a drag. but i HAVE been able to think about it without going insane (thanks to the meds) and i might give notice tomorrow. i ‘ll see how it sits with me then. and if the landlord will accept it a day late. i’ll see how it goes.
tonight i am cooking – found a new love: ancho chili peppers. tonight i parboiled some chicken and sauteed some shredded and soaked anchos with onion and garlic. i seared the chicken and then added some half fat coconut milk. when it’s done simmering i am going to add some cilantro. yum!
i am finding that i need to take a bit more of the med than i have been (i have been taking half the dose. i take it at bedtime. now that i am no longer groggy in the morning, i am going to start taking 1/4 dose in the early evening or aft – because by 7 or 8 at night i can feel the anxiety rise again. but it is so much better.)
lesson learned
(((((((((((( eva )))))))))))))))))
We all complain, piss and moan that a pathological can’t change at all, but yet, we all struggle to change, those of of us who have empathy…..
Your thoughts were very enlightening and insightful.
It IS hard to change. It IS. But the reality is that WE can do it and THEY cannot.
Sometimes, it feels like a burden, but in the end, I want to believe it’s a blessing.
Consider that malignant optimism for those who dare to change and follow through.
LL