“Most of us want to believe that there’s good in everyone. Unfortunately, it isn’t true. There are people in the world who are rotten to the core, and they’re called sociopaths.”
That’s how I begin my video interview about my new book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. I answer questions about what happened to me, and why I wrote the book. The six-minute video is posted on my blog for the book, and I invite you to watch it.
Pre-order special ends July 31
Right now, we’re offering a pre-order special for the book. If you place your order now, we’ll send you an autographed and numbered first edition, shipped free to U.S. destinations, and 40 percent off to international destinations. I especially encourage our international readers to take advantage of this offer—it’s the best shipping deal you’ll ever see. One book per order.
The pre-order special ends July 31, 2010—that’s when the books will be printed. We’ll be sending out all pre-orders during the first few days of August.
The official publication date for Love Fraud is August 25, 2010. That’s when it will be available on Amazon.com, on other online retailers, and in bookstores. During the month of August, the book will be available exclusively on Lovefraud.com. However, copies will no longer be autographed, and regular shipping rates will apply. So if you want to take advantage of the special, please do it by July 31.
Goals of the book
I wrote this book for two reasons. First, to alert people to the fact that sociopaths exist, and describe what they look like. Secondly, to help those of us who have tangled with these predators to heal, and offer a possible explanation for why then entire experience happened.
The feedback I’ve received from folks who have read advance copies of the book has been heartwarming—several reviews are posted on my blog. It looks like Love Fraud may be accomplishing the goals I set for it.
I can’t wait to share my story—and my recovery—with you.
Order the book in the Lovefraud Store.
Ox Drover
Keep on the calm and peaceful path Chinagirl, we make soo much more progress on that than we can when we are ape sheet crazy, which I spent so much time being! Breathe, breathe, breathe!!! It’s hard sometimes, but we make more progress that way.
I think I am the poster child for “gone crazy” but when I’m calm and peaceful, I do well, so I try to stay in that mindset.
As a doc I used to work with would say “some days is magic, and some days is tragic” LOL ((((Hugs))))
Ox Drover
PROBLEMS WITH LOADING THREADS. For some reason all the threads except the ones with only a VERY FEW comments will load for me. Anyone else having problems? I am not having loading problems on any other blogs or sites. Usually I dont have any problem loading them until 300-400 comments on a thread since I got the new Verizon air card and have better connection. Advice?
GettingIt
Oxy, did you try refreshing the page? logging entirely out and returning by typing in the address as opposed to hitting the Quick button. Try that, maybe, it’ll work.
hens
Ox I just double click on the thread title then scroll down to the bottom of thread..
Ox Drover
I can bring the thread up that way—or PART OF THE THREAD—but it won’t get those ADS on the side and won’t scroll down to where the comment box is. I tried refreshing, going to a smaller thread FIRST , then the larger one, but none of them were mover 150 comments so it shouldn’/t have been doing that at all.
Seems to be working today. Thanks for suggestions though!
hens
if all else fails turn off puter and ‘unplug’ puter for a few minutes then try again
bulletproof
china girl- you are sounding stronger…yay! I would just question why you would waste your time writing a story about the idiot..God life is short…unless its a huge scam or loads of money involved who cares? sure we all need to get the word out, and maybe as a way also to excorsize the demon once and for all, get closure, revenge whatever…but at the end of the day you have got to ask yourself is it worth it? some days I feel yes!!! expose him, tell the story.but I resent making a career out of him…he is an asshole who would feel a little too impportant either way…there is no getting these types “back” they don’t have a back to get….but if you are doing something…Do it FOR YOU
neveragain
Bulletproof—VERY WISE, great advice for all of us!
Ox Drover
BP, I totally agree with you, but sometimes just writing it all down helps to exorcise the demon spirit. My sperm donor (before his death) was quite well known nationally and even internationally, and I wanted to Out him, and I wrote the book, but once I had it on paper, (actually in the computer) I realized I didn’t want to publish it, it was no longer important. Not too long after that he died—and I was free of him at last. He quit taking up good oxygen on the face of the earth and is where he belongs finally! Until that day he never believed there was a God, but I am sure he knows and believes NOW!
I’m glad though that I decided not to publish it—he wasn’t worth the ink. He didn’t really care what people said about him as long as he was the center of attention!
bulletproof
neveragain, OxDrover- thanks for affirming a very strong feeling I had yesterday, that of not promoting the P as a ‘master scammer’ or a true ‘psychopath- the worst of the worst’ this affirms their true nature and it’s a high for them..(all their lives they had to hide what brilliant scammers they were, how convenient then to have a book written about their exploits)
Oxy again you astound me..that you decided NOT to publish that book …it would have kept him going in peoples memories that now do not even give him a second thought. Perfect. Let’s give ourselves the choice and perhaps not give them that attention, the ink wasting, the energy spent. You stopped paying attention… and he withered away without the fuss…excellent.
There is more to life, even just sitting and enjoying the breeze across the fields, the shimmer of sunshine in the leaves of the trees…is time better spent…but if it cleared out the poison for YOU then that’s the main thing…we have to be aware how our actions benefit them..especially our need for revenge….they do not have the faintest interest in looking humiliated or being caught out…because they do not operate them same way we do.
I know for some, a book is the perfect cleansing healing ritual, but the other side of it is the amount of attention these ‘waste of space’ people get vicariously through it…makes me a little sick. In the P ‘s head, I know he would be saying to himself…”God I meant that much to her she wrote a book about ME…what a moron…everyone will see what a shmuck she was..” EVEN IF HE ended up in jail….he would still be convinced everyone got it wrong..He was a brilliant scammer and deserved worldwide attention for it…and he will get that attention in jail!!!there is a criminal underworld where they ADMIRE eachother just like we admire eachother here…
the P secretly thought he was GREAT for duping others, his self esteem went through the roof…when he was exploiting people for what he could get if they happened to see what he was doing…he got further excited by it…it was like..AT LASt he was getting RECOGNISED for the master scammer he REALLY wanted to be…rather than just blending in undetected…which is a wasted unconsciously failed life for a sociopath where they never reach fruition..(fame for their “true” nature)
He has taken a year of my life in PTSD but every day and in every way I am getting better and better….I reclaim every moment he stole from me by expressing myself here on lovefraud…and then stepping back OUT into the world in a way that he no longer exists for me.
I will work with other people who are in trouble and I will still always be fascinated with the mystery of evil…but the P will be left behind…sad and boring…nothing to do with me.
I will even forgive him..when I can…hating him is fun for now…but he will wither in the light of forgiveness like the wicked witch of the east…dissolve into a trickle of hissing water…gone! sorry bulletproof that does NOT sound like forgiveness…more revenge!! ha ha but I just do not know yet what it would be like to be free of him…others have it more on this site, like Kim Frederick…Hi Kim…are you still feeling forgiving? how do you do it!!
sorry for the rant…only lovefraud would listen!! xx