A recent study analyzed data about 14,000 college students collected over 30 years. The shocking findings: today’s college students are 40 percent lower in empathy than students from 20 or 30 years ago.
Read Empathy: College students don’t have as much as they used to, on Newswise.com.
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Will add, that when I was 18 I did deal with an extremely immature, inconsiderate, self-absorbed roommate. Her parents totally spoiled her materially, but I think they neglected her in terms of teaching her a sense of personal responsibility, compassion for others, etc. My favorite quotes from her: “The only reason people are poor is because they’re lazy”, “Whenever my bank account falls below four digits my dad just fills it back up”, and (saying this while 100% unemployed and living off her parents), “I don’t know why people are so concerned about their cell phone bills. Mine was $300 last month and I just sucked it up”. She aslo did things like draw mean faces on the door of a really depressed girl down the hall, though luckily the rest of us saw it and cleaned it off before she saw it. Even the other 18-19 yr olds on our floor nicknamed her “the resident 12 year old snot”. Still, while she was unbelievably annoying, I don’t think she was clinically N, S, or P(I’d dealt with a P 6-9 years earlier). They would pretend to be considerate and then betray you horrendously. She made it clear that she wouldn’t be considerate of you pretty early on. She would probably have scored low on this quiz. In her case, I think it was more extreme immaturity than sociopathy per se. Getting a first job is actually a wonderful way to bring expectations to reality.
Onestep,
*hugs*
I wish you the very best. One thing that might help is to refresh ties with known trustworthy family members/close friends you have. They can help provide emotional support and perspective on the ratio of malevolent people to loving ones. One quote I read in a bible class when I was 13 years old, that I still remember is: “All the evil in the world, the misery and sin. Can only sink a soul’s craft, if it gets within.”
Onestep needs to work Ox over with that skillet – that would help with her anger 🙂
Hey, hey hey….what’s all the racket I hear over here?
Oh….it’s oxy taking a beating……
Okay…….
Hey, guys, I thought my joke about “slap the kid next to little Johnny and that will make Johnny behave” was a CUTE ONE! Gosh! Besides I couldn’t boinkk poor One step when she was down so I thought maybe if I hit Henry she’d get scared and start to feel better. Every time I try to do something NICE for my friends you guys just make me feel bad about myself! 🙂 LOLOL
Is it september yet? I’m tired of the hot muggy summer weather!?
Turn on your airconditioner Ox it’s only June..
Dear Henry, It’s on honey, turned it on over a week ago, almost two weeks ago, it’s just too miserable OUTSIDE to live! Had to put the sealer on the deck yesterday, took parts of 4 days to get it all done between the heat,, humidity and old back and muscles!~ dug half my taters and will dig the other half in a while after it cools a BIT out there!
Eventually gets nice at nite by bedtime, so sleep with the winder sash open in the bedroom and a couple of fans going. That way I can here the crickets and night critters.
Went to town today and forgot the frozen green peas so am going to wait on the new taters and peas in cream sauce til tomorrow night, have to go with the kid to the ortho doc for his shoulder so will get peas on the way home! I’m like ErinB, those canned ones are sure not as good.
Got two of the new books I ordered in the mail today and am reading one about stalking right now, the other one is pre colombian history of Americas, “1491” I loaned my first copy to someone and can’t remember who, so had to order another one if I wanted to reread it. God bless Amazon and USED books on the internet!
Well, think I will go back to my chair and read some more!
Beautiful LoveFraud posters: Thank you all so much for your support. I read them all the night i was getting ready for my interview and i was surprised and softened by your care, and humour! i love me some laughter!
my interview went really well. even though i had to hide how wrecked my body is, I brought more of my genuine self to that interview than most in the last few years. It may be a very very good fit.
I won’t know the outcome for a few days yet. it’s been a weeks long process, with interviews and my getting some job coaching and putting together a portfolio and a business plan for the job for my second interview. I can’t give more detail, – if the ppath ever shows up here i don’t want the bitch to find me in the real world.
my hands are still bad, but after realizing that a disc is out in my neck and taking steps to deal with it, i am more balanced. still can’t do much of anything – not supposed to put my head forward – knocks out gardening, typing…speaking of which – have to stop now.
just wanted to say thanks.
🙂 one step
One_step, I’m so happy that you’re feeling better and that you had a positive energy going into your interview!!!!
BEST WISHES TO YOU and Brightest Blessings!!!
buttons – 🙂 TY.